This thread seemed to shift to whether one can get a woman or not. That seems like a simplistic way of looking at it. Yes, there are women that will be interested in a man despite being a trauma/abuse survivor. There are many different women, with many different capacities for uncertainty, caring, empathy, etc. Women are not homogeneous.
The better question, perhaps, is whether one that has suffered childhood abuse is able to trust enough to have a successful relationship, regardless of gender. For some the answer is yes, for others no. But, if it is something you want, it might be something important to work on. I've always tried to approach relationships from the perspective of what I can give verses what I can get. I think that's helped me. I don't know if it could help you to approach it from that direction or not, but it might be something to think about. It helps to get me out of my head.