sad_frog

sad_frog

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May 21, 2019
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Has anyone actually had a therapist they've felt safe talking with and genuinely enjoyed going to see them?

My experiences:
I've had many therapists throughout my life and there have only been a few that have actually been good to me. There is one woman who I love but is especially hard to get in to visit (No openings for regular visits so I have to wait 6 weeks to see her) This is not to say I haven't had amazing therapists... they're just in short supply.

WHY I AM COMPLAINING...
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and decided to try DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
Yesterday was my first appointment with my new therapist. I was waiting for my info to load at the front desk when this woman walks up and starts talking about a patient who just walked out of the office. They started complaining to each other about how this woman had +900$ in debt and how she told her social worker she felt threatened by being asked for money. This went on for a while and I ended up learning this woman's LAST NAME, AGE, JOB, HER BASIC DIAGNOSIS, HOW MUCH SHE OWES, HOW LONG SHE'S ATTENDED DBT, & other personal bits. All throughout this I showed visible discomfort, glancing up at them with a worried look, shaking my head, ect. Then the lady turns and introduces herself as my new therapist!! I just listened to her break hippa laws for +7 minutes, wtf--I DON'T WANT TO TALK WITH HER!!

I guess I'm just tired of people... I'm ready for robots therapists who don't feel the need to share info like that..
 
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inconsequential

inconsequential

Enlightened
Jun 1, 2019
1,011
The only therapist I've ever liked was just a life coach who gave me Vicodin.
 
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SinisterKid

SinisterKid

Visionary
Jun 1, 2019
2,113
Out of 6 head docs in total, one has been any good. He left to work with children as that was his passion. I am pleased the kids are getting someone who cares deeply about them, is good at what they do and will help them towards realising their potential.

I dont think I would wish to talk to that person either [polite version]
 
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whyidon'tknow

Human
Jun 9, 2019
356
I like my therapist now, she's personable.

In the past my therapist have been so so. I'm a pretty emotionally shut person, they didn't really try to open me up
 
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Username786

Member
May 4, 2019
17
It's constantly frustrating that therapists end up being like every other job. Some of them are really good, a lot are average, and a lot are terrible at what they do. Something so important shouldn't be such a crapshoot. I've had a couple really great therapists, but I've had many more who were either of very little help or actually created more issues. And the problem seems to be even worse when it comes to doctors. Too many of them seem to think they're omnipotent after 8 years of college.
 
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Egddios

Egddios

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Oct 27, 2018
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Has anyone actually had a therapist they've felt safe talking with and genuinely enjoyed going to see them?

My experiences:
I've had many therapists throughout my life and there have only been a few that have actually been good to me. There is one woman who I love but is especially hard to get in to visit (No openings for regular visits so I have to wait 6 weeks to see her) This is not to say I haven't had amazing therapists... they're just in short supply.

WHY I AM COMPLAINING...
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and decided to try DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
Yesterday was my first appointment with my new therapist. I was waiting for my info to load at the front desk when this woman walks up and starts talking about a patient who just walked out of the office. They started complaining to each other about how this woman had +900$ in debt and how she told her social worker she felt threatened by being asked for money. This went on for a while and I ended up learning this woman's LAST NAME, AGE, JOB, HER BASIC DIAGNOSIS, HOW MUCH SHE OWES, HOW LONG SHE'S ATTENDED DBT, & other personal bits. All throughout this I showed visible discomfort, glancing up at them with a worried look, shaking my head, ect. Then the lady turns and introduces herself as my new therapist!! I just listened to her break hippa laws for +7 minutes, wtf--I DON'T WANT TO TALK WITH HER!!

I guess I'm just tired of people... I'm ready for robots therapists who don't feel the need to share info like that..


I haven't been formally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder but I know the diagnosis is coming. Last time I was inpatient, the hospital psychiatrist brought it up to me that I possibly have it and it freaked me out. I ended up discharging myself, signing my intent to leave, etc.

Cut to 9 or so months later and the new psychiatrist I started seeing mentioned BPD as a possibility of what I "have", in addition to PTSD, MDD and panic disorder. I do relate to BPD and suspect I struggled with it more intensely when I was in my 20's - the impulsivity definitely. Now I honestly just feel burnt out from trying to get help.
 
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been_there

been_there

Life cares only for itself.
Jun 5, 2019
297
Someone said on another post that therapy is more like an art than a science, which is a good way of looking at it. Contemporary art at that.

The problem is that we're told to think of them as medical professionals, which we associate with physicians who have 200 years of diagnostic knowledge. A broken leg or kidney stones can be established in 5 minutes.
 
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Severen

Severen

Enlightened
Jun 30, 2018
1,819
The only therapist I've ever liked was just a life coach who gave me Vicodin.
In other words, someone who gave you Vicodin. Therefore actually did something useful.
 
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cornflowerblue

Mage
Feb 18, 2019
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Has anyone actually had a therapist they've felt safe talking with and genuinely enjoyed going to see them?

My experiences:
I've had many therapists throughout my life and there have only been a few that have actually been good to me. There is one woman who I love but is especially hard to get in to visit (No openings for regular visits so I have to wait 6 weeks to see her) This is not to say I haven't had amazing therapists... they're just in short supply.

WHY I AM COMPLAINING...
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and decided to try DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
Yesterday was my first appointment with my new therapist. I was waiting for my info to load at the front desk when this woman walks up and starts talking about a patient who just walked out of the office. They started complaining to each other about how this woman had +900$ in debt and how she told her social worker she felt threatened by being asked for money. This went on for a while and I ended up learning this woman's LAST NAME, AGE, JOB, HER BASIC DIAGNOSIS, HOW MUCH SHE OWES, HOW LONG SHE'S ATTENDED DBT, & other personal bits. All throughout this I showed visible discomfort, glancing up at them with a worried look, shaking my head, ect. Then the lady turns and introduces herself as my new therapist!! I just listened to her break hippa laws for +7 minutes, wtf--I DON'T WANT TO TALK WITH HER!!

I guess I'm just tired of people... I'm ready for robots therapists who don't feel the need to share info like that..
I've liked a few, I've found a few useful. Those didn't always overlap.
 
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mathieu

mathieu

Enlightened
Jun 5, 2019
1,090
I've only seen her once but I really like her. I liked my last psychiatrist, too but she seems to have dumped me.
 
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GinaIsReady

GinaIsReady

Exit Strategist
Mar 29, 2019
995
I love my therapist. I'm really lucky to have her.
 
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WinterIsComing

WinterIsComing

Fragile...
May 27, 2019
256
Almost any psychologist i met was of the: sit, ask, say not much.....not even a plan..maybe too soft?

Until i met a borderline expert (i don't have it) and did the DBT therapy. She was strict, with rules and would tell you the truth.
It was her way of threating borderlines that worked even if it was harsh.
She treated a famous tv case, diagnosed and treated a psychopath (she told the cases annonimously) and also did talks with success cases of her borderline patients.
She told once that if her daughter was depressed she would make her do ect.
She was a no nonsense.
 
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LifeIsNotFun

LifeIsNotFun

Mage
Jun 1, 2019
530
No I don't like majority of therapists. They're all fake and full of it. They say they care, but in the grand scheme of things they only care about their pay cheques.
 
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ArtsyDrawer

Enlightened
Nov 8, 2018
1,446
I got REALLY goddamn lucky with my therapist. He's a fatherly type, but also amazingly blunt. He also supports euthanasia. He's basically the perfect person for me. He does listen (well, read. He's an online one) and is able to recount previous conversations and issues with nigh perfect accuracy.
The issue is that he's on betterhelp, and apparently that site is full of shitheads.
I went there specifically so that I can get a therapist from the US, as in, one that has no influence in Israel and can't call the White Coats on me.
 
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Jolene40

Specialist
Oct 6, 2018
370
I really like the counsellor I see here in the U.k. Completely understands why I am exploring end of life options! I trust her completely and am assured there will be no reporting suicidal feelings to anyone. I could never see anyone who I felt would report me for that in the predicament I'm in.
 
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Thorn

Wrecked
Jun 8, 2019
284
After reading my medical history and hearing me out, they are usually very silent. Any treatment that I get is the same what everyone gets, disregarding my specific situation. They are given a laundry list of meds, and they offer from there, until they get to something that does something positive. This is how it works nowadays.
 
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sad_frog

sad_frog

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May 21, 2019
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It's really good to see so many of the commenters actually having capable therapists :')
 
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not_a_robot

not_a_robot

"i hope the leaving is joyful, & never to return"
May 30, 2019
2,121
I liked all of them til they fucked me over, and I'm sure it's a habit for them (confirmed by outside sources).

Now I think they are all dogshit on my shoe, even the ones I haven't met yet. They can all go die in a fire.

Never feel guilty for hating your therapist; odds are, they hate you much more.
 
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sad_frog

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May 21, 2019
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I liked all of them til they fucked me over, and I'm sure it's a habit for them (confirmed by outside sources).

Now I think they are all dogshit on my shoe, even the ones I haven't met yet. They can all go die in a fire.

Never feel guilty for hating your therapist; odds are, they hate you much more.
LMAO OKaY these are the messages I thought I would see on here! It's sotra how I feel!!
When I was younger I had a lot of therapists that were Mormon (as I grew up Mormon) and I think they really fucked my teen-brain up. (so i hope they burn)
 
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not_a_robot

not_a_robot

"i hope the leaving is joyful, & never to return"
May 30, 2019
2,121
LMAO OKaY these are the messages I thought I would see on here! It's sotra how I feel!!
When I was younger I had a lot of therapists that were Mormon (as I grew up Mormon) and I think they really fucked my teen-brain up. (so i hope they burn)
Mine have all been Xian, yet believe they are qualified to call *other* people delusional. I can't even pretend to take this bullshit seriously anymore. And I really, really tried. Spilled my guts to the idiots week after week, always babied them and gave them the benefit of the doubt even though it was clear they are just nasty ignorant cunts. The minute I became physically weak and ill they tried to prey on me because they thought I might have money they could take (I don't). They call me spoiled and tell me I have a great life because 15 years of homelessness qualifies me for discounted rent in a fucking insane asylum for junkies. Oh I'm so fucking lucky!
Screw all those dirty bitches.
All of these people who think they love their therapist would get a very quick lesson in psychiatric abuse if they inherit a large sum of money. You see who people really are when they think you have something they want.
 
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Morphinekiss

Enlightened
Jun 8, 2019
1,207
My therapist was a cool ass dude. He cursed, looked like Anthony Bourdain, and let me talk about whatever without locking me up. I'm pissed my insurance dropped him.
 
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Soul

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Apr 12, 2019
4,704
I've had a couple that I'd quite like as people, except that they're lousy therapists. Persisting in a job one is no good at isn't a trait I admire.
 
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tomz323

tomz323

Walking to the bus stop
Mar 29, 2019
367
Yeah, I like mine. It seems many of you have had bad experiences which is sad.
 
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mathieu

mathieu

Enlightened
Jun 5, 2019
1,090
I like my current one but have had plenty I didn't like.
 
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Shamana

Warlock
May 31, 2019
716
My current psychologist is very nice. However in all my all years as a patient I've never understood the word "therapy". It just seems to be like ask how you are and what you're doing, which is something my friends and family do to. I've never experienced mental health workers dish any creative advice or some deep insight. If you're exercising and eating healthy and trying to live sensibly they just don't seem to have any advice to offer.

My buddhist teacher and his wife and family are the ones I know who are geniuenly theraputic because they are able to think outside the box and see the bigger picture.
 
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LivingToLong

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Feb 23, 2019
259
I did like my therapist, yes, but I found I was telling them what they wanted to hear rather than being honest, and I don't think they realised that. They felt pleased that they were doing their job well (I think) and they liked me because of that. I enjoyed being liked, and I did get something out of therapy though perhaps not as much as I could have if I was honest with them. I didn't mean to not be honest, I just found it easier as I didn't really know what the truth was.
 
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omoidarui

omoidarui

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Apr 30, 2019
993
The only positive thing I took from one therapist was a book recommendation, "Veronika Decides to Die" by Paulo Coehlo.

Has anyone read it? It's a good book tbf.
 
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Dead beat dad

Enlightened
Mar 5, 2019
1,030
Has anyone actually had a therapist they've felt safe talking with and genuinely enjoyed going to see them?

My experiences:
I've had many therapists throughout my life and there have only been a few that have actually been good to me. There is one woman who I love but is especially hard to get in to visit (No openings for regular visits so I have to wait 6 weeks to see her) This is not to say I haven't had amazing therapists... they're just in short supply.

WHY I AM COMPLAINING...
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and decided to try DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
Yesterday was my first appointment with my new therapist. I was waiting for my info to load at the front desk when this woman walks up and starts talking about a patient who just walked out of the office. They started complaining to each other about how this woman had +900$ in debt and how she told her social worker she felt threatened by being asked for money. This went on for a while and I ended up learning this woman's LAST NAME, AGE, JOB, HER BASIC DIAGNOSIS, HOW MUCH SHE OWES, HOW LONG SHE'S ATTENDED DBT, & other personal bits. All throughout this I showed visible discomfort, glancing up at them with a worried look, shaking my head, ect. Then the lady turns and introduces herself as my new therapist!! I just listened to her break hippa laws for +7 minutes, wtf--I DON'T WANT TO TALK WITH HER!!

I guess I'm just tired of people... I'm ready for robots therapists who don't feel the need to share info like that..
Sorry for your experience friend. Like most here I bet, I've had a few therapist (and remember you can't spell therapist without spelling rapist, buy I digress), but my last therapist was actually really nice and had the opportunity been there I would have liked to continue working with her
 
k75

k75

L'appel du Vide
Jun 27, 2019
2,546
Unfortunately, I've burned through a pretty long list of therapists. With one glaring exception, they've mostly been perfectly nice people, but each one failed to make much progress with me. I have a complex case, and I think I overwhelm most of them. They just don't know what to do for me.

I really liked my last therapist, but we reached a point where she had exhausted everything she could think of and had to tell me she didn't think she could help me. We agreed I should try someone else who specialized in a different type of therapy. She was right and I appreciated her honesty, but it still sucked.

My current therapist... I am not getting along with her. She's enthusiastic and nice, but she's brand new to the field and very inexperienced. I'm actually shocked they gave me to her, and it is extremely frustrating trying to get through every visit. I literally cry my soul out to her and tell her I'm suicidal and terrified, and she responds by asking me if I'm being my authentic self and living my best life or asking if I really want to get better. She's also big on positive thinking and affirmations. Not helpful.
 
Ko9

Ko9

Student
Jun 30, 2019
159
I am in therapy since age of 7. So I am about to enter the 12th year. I have liked most. I have only hated a couple. I just become more and more cynical with age. But I would say I like my current. She is a nice person, it is just that ''Ignorance is bliss''.
 
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