nigelhernandez
Experienced
- Apr 14, 2020
- 270
I have a family and hate them. It includes my parents and extended family. I only respect them out of not wanting to be homeless but otherwise, i couldn't care less about them. We're constantly fighting all the time. I've noticed there are a few reasons why people have more conflict with familial relationships than other type of relationships.
1. Random Personalities - People are born into families they didn't choose and have to put up with the personalities of their relatives. In other relationships like romantic relationships and friendships, people seek out those with similar or non-clashing personalities and this explains obviously why they get along.
2. Power Imbalance - In parent-child relationships, there is an inherent power imbalance at play. Socially speaking, parents are authority figures ans children have to obey them regardless of whether they're being unreasonable/totally wrong on something (i.e no back-talk). With this in mind, it's easy to see why parents and children fight constantly. This is very different in romantic relationships and friendships where people are on par with each other in terms of respect and listening to the other.
3. Social Stigma of Leaving - I suppose even with the two above, romantic relationships and friendships are not immune from severe conflict. The thing is however, it's socially acceptable to call it quits when it comes to the relationship. The same can't be said for a familial relationship. People feel obligated to remain with shitty parents, siblings, aunts because "their family"
1. Random Personalities - People are born into families they didn't choose and have to put up with the personalities of their relatives. In other relationships like romantic relationships and friendships, people seek out those with similar or non-clashing personalities and this explains obviously why they get along.
2. Power Imbalance - In parent-child relationships, there is an inherent power imbalance at play. Socially speaking, parents are authority figures ans children have to obey them regardless of whether they're being unreasonable/totally wrong on something (i.e no back-talk). With this in mind, it's easy to see why parents and children fight constantly. This is very different in romantic relationships and friendships where people are on par with each other in terms of respect and listening to the other.
3. Social Stigma of Leaving - I suppose even with the two above, romantic relationships and friendships are not immune from severe conflict. The thing is however, it's socially acceptable to call it quits when it comes to the relationship. The same can't be said for a familial relationship. People feel obligated to remain with shitty parents, siblings, aunts because "their family"