Ultracheese
Arcanist
- Dec 1, 2022
- 488
I originally wrote a much longer post that went into my life in a lot more depth. Then I realized it would be egotistical to assume anyone is interested in my life story. So I shall stick to the shorter version.
It has recently occurred to me that I did not have a normal childhood. I grew up in a small town in the pacific northwest where lots of people are below the poverty line, often to the point where they aren't able to eat despite working multiple jobs. My father has refused handouts for as long as I've been alive because he says it is my fault we are poor due to him having to quit multiple jobs to take care of my mental health issues. Ever since I was diagnosed with autism when I was 5, my parents thought it was important that I be a "normal child." That meant berating me for my interests and yelling at me whenever I had meltdowns due to sensory overload. Whenever I was recognized in school for my writing ability or my artwork, my mother would insist teachers drill into my head that I was not special and that I wasn't entitled to attention. My parents sent me to a series of therapists who tried to force me to be into "normal" things and to punish me for not following social cues, sometimes with physical force. Eventually, my parents took me to a psychologist who encouraged me to pursue my interests and also introduced me to new ones I love to this day. Unfortunately, he sexually abused me for three years and let other people treat me similarly. Later in life, I found footage of my 10-year-old self on an adult website, and instead of reporting it, I was a coward and clicked out of the tab because I was so frightened and angry. I started cutting around that age to cope. My parents ignored it because they thought I was a spoiled brat who was ungrateful and narcissistic. When faced with sensory overload, I have extreme meltdowns where I injure myself, so I have been in special education classes my whole life despite above-average results on state testing. I've been restrained and locked into closets more times than I can count. I was sexually assaulted by one of my middle school teachers and then got expelled after I tried to fight back because I was "disabled" and was "aggressive" despite the fact that I have never hurt anyone besides myself during my meltdowns. It happened again when my parents sent me to a local pastor after I came out to them as trans. In my life, I can say I have had one friend, an incredibly kind man who was patient with me despite my mental struggles and general whininess. He committed suicide two years ago. I am still not over his death even though everyone insists I should be because I'm "overdramatic." A month after his death, symptoms of fatigue and tiredness I had attributed to depression were discovered to be ME. I find it hard to even get out of bed most days.
I like to believe I had a good childhood. I had a roof over my head. I have been able to maintain consistent access to the internet thank god. I was bullied, sure, but aren't plenty of people? I don't think I have anything to complain about. Oftentimes, I doubt the negative things that have happened in my life ever occurred. I fear that I am making these things up even though I often have nightmares about them. Am I being overdramatic? Does anyone else have experiences where they feel traumatic events haven't happened?
It has recently occurred to me that I did not have a normal childhood. I grew up in a small town in the pacific northwest where lots of people are below the poverty line, often to the point where they aren't able to eat despite working multiple jobs. My father has refused handouts for as long as I've been alive because he says it is my fault we are poor due to him having to quit multiple jobs to take care of my mental health issues. Ever since I was diagnosed with autism when I was 5, my parents thought it was important that I be a "normal child." That meant berating me for my interests and yelling at me whenever I had meltdowns due to sensory overload. Whenever I was recognized in school for my writing ability or my artwork, my mother would insist teachers drill into my head that I was not special and that I wasn't entitled to attention. My parents sent me to a series of therapists who tried to force me to be into "normal" things and to punish me for not following social cues, sometimes with physical force. Eventually, my parents took me to a psychologist who encouraged me to pursue my interests and also introduced me to new ones I love to this day. Unfortunately, he sexually abused me for three years and let other people treat me similarly. Later in life, I found footage of my 10-year-old self on an adult website, and instead of reporting it, I was a coward and clicked out of the tab because I was so frightened and angry. I started cutting around that age to cope. My parents ignored it because they thought I was a spoiled brat who was ungrateful and narcissistic. When faced with sensory overload, I have extreme meltdowns where I injure myself, so I have been in special education classes my whole life despite above-average results on state testing. I've been restrained and locked into closets more times than I can count. I was sexually assaulted by one of my middle school teachers and then got expelled after I tried to fight back because I was "disabled" and was "aggressive" despite the fact that I have never hurt anyone besides myself during my meltdowns. It happened again when my parents sent me to a local pastor after I came out to them as trans. In my life, I can say I have had one friend, an incredibly kind man who was patient with me despite my mental struggles and general whininess. He committed suicide two years ago. I am still not over his death even though everyone insists I should be because I'm "overdramatic." A month after his death, symptoms of fatigue and tiredness I had attributed to depression were discovered to be ME. I find it hard to even get out of bed most days.
I like to believe I had a good childhood. I had a roof over my head. I have been able to maintain consistent access to the internet thank god. I was bullied, sure, but aren't plenty of people? I don't think I have anything to complain about. Oftentimes, I doubt the negative things that have happened in my life ever occurred. I fear that I am making these things up even though I often have nightmares about them. Am I being overdramatic? Does anyone else have experiences where they feel traumatic events haven't happened?