NSFW Does anyone find Porn too depressing to watch?

[DefinitelyReady]

Pretty much like the title says. I might watch more if I didn't find it so incredibly depressing for personal reasons. I won't elaborate. But I was just curious if anyone watches less, or watches more somehow, while being chronically depressed and suicidal.
Knowing Male or Female would helpful if you don't mind sharing. Thanks.

 

[Freedomatlast24]

Female. Never really appealed unless it was to watch real couple porn for new approaches/positions with my ex. Now I'm depressed I don't even have a sex drive/libido...

 

[Vicolo cieco]

Male. I find it a bit depressing because it reminds me of the fact that I can't have a sex life.

 

[goodoldnoname923]

Pretty much like the title says. I might watch more if I didn't find it so incredibly depressing for personal reasons. I won't elaborate. But I was just curious if anyone watches less, or watches more somehow, while being chronically depressed and suicidal.
Knowing Male or Female would helpful if you don't mind sharing. Thanks.

I feel i've had a mental block on it the last few months it's difficult for me to thing of anything sexual or romantic without thinking of them so…a destresser just causes more pain and stress ironically

 

[Bishop2]

Male. Never really got enjoyment out of it. Feel disgusted right away and stop after a minute. As well as my medication lowered my libido and I don't feel anything.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

I feel i've had a mental block on it the last few months it's difficult for me to thing of anything sexual or romantic without thinking of them so…a destresser just causes more pain and stress ironically

Exactly. You said "them". Like the porn actors or you and someone?

 

[divinemistress36]

Way to fake dont understand the appeal of it im female though

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Male. Never really got enjoyment out of it. Feel disgusted right away and stop after a minute. As well as my medication lowered my libido and I don't feel anything.

Do you search more sensual/romantic stuff instead of hammerhead sex? Idk. Might help.

 

[Bishop2]

Do you search more sensual/romantic stuff instead of hammerhead sex? Idk. Might help.

I tried to find romantic things but it's all kind of unrealistic. I mostly look at hentai since I don't like looking at real people. I feel more repelled against real people since it seems to be kind of cuckold to watch other people have sex.

 

[goodoldnoname923]

Exactly. You said "them". Like the porn actors or you and someone?

No i mean someone i used to know that i had feelints for we would never "do the deed" but it still hurts thinking about them

 

[Dark Moon]

Male I don't find it appealing anymore and it is a little depressing, so I don't watch it much.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

I tried to find romantic things but it's all kind of unrealistic. I mostly look at hentai since I don't like looking at real people. I feel more repelled against real people since it seems to be kind of cuckold to watch other people have sex.

Oh lord. I'm sorry. Imo I'd steer clear of hentai, just doesn't sound like it's beneficial in the long-run

No i mean someone i used to know that i had feelints for we would never "do the deed" but it still hurts thinking about them

Yeah that sucks... I hate that I end up resorting back to someone from long ago, and we did do the deed. At least I've realized who he really is, and not the illusion I thought/wanted him to be so I don't use him anymore. So that's one rare "good for me" momentI guess.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm male but I make do with Japanese AV porn even though I don't understand the language. I find it better than western porn especially when it's uncensored. The main advantage it has over western porn is that it's way more likely to always have at least one creampie when most traditional porn just ends with a boring face shot. Even though I'm male I also occasionally use erotic literature and audio when I feel more like immersing into a narrative. That and porn games can be less boring than just watching regular videos.

 

[Traveller12724]

Male here. I had to stop watching because although I think watching porn is safe for women, it is extremely dangerous for men because it can desensitize you to the point where a woman simply being naked doesn't arouse you and you can only get turned on by specific scenarios, and then you go back into the real world and find yourself in front of a beautiful naked woman completely unable to get aroused. Porn induced erectile dysfunction is an unspoken massive issue for young men nowadays. Besides that risk, you can only watch so many scenes before the scenes become all the same.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

I'm male but I make do with Japanese AV porn even though I don't understand the language. I find it better than western porn especially when it's uncensored. The main advantage it has over western porn is that it's way more likely to always have at least one creampie when most traditional porn just ends with a boring face shot. Even though I'm male I also occasionally use erotic literature and audio when I feel more like immersing into a narrative. That and porn games can be less boring than just watching regular videos.

Lol interesting to find you here! and use of such language! I thought you were in the states? They have those specific shots in western porn. Jesus, there's a coffee creamer with that name because it's a snack in the states. I refuse to say the name from a personal bad experience, even if it was only over text.
Ever read 50 Shades? They're hilarious, and I don't think they're supposed to be... but it was funny. Had some okay parts. Poorly written. Not to brag, but my "erotica" over text has been ... Not that I've had anyone to share it with in an ungodly amount of time. I'm surprised I'm seeing so many depressing posts from the dudes. Feel a little less like shit I suppose.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Lol interesting to find you here! and use of such language! I thought you were in the states? They have those specific shots in western porn. Jesus, there's a coffee creamer with that name because it's a snack in the states. I refuse to say the name from a personal bad experience, even if it was only over text.

I am in the states, and it is funny everytime the food item surfaces in a conversation.

Usually in western porn it's few and far between though, like maybe each star will do a scene like that once in their lives if ever.

Ever read 50 Shades? They're hilarious, and I don't think they're supposed to be... but it was funny. Had some okay parts. Poorly written. Not to brag, but my "erotica" over text has been ... Not that I've had anyone to share it with in an ungodly amount of time. I'm surprised I'm seeing so many depressing posts from the dudes. Feel a little less like shit I suppose.

Haven't read much in the BDSM genre, but it might be worth a read for the humor. I've mostly stuck to trashy fanfictions and occasionally whatever the Literotica website has.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Oh 50 Shades is softcore compared to real-life. It's more so him just be a controlling douche and her giving in. Nothing crazy or I wouldn't have read them all lol I felt like such a perve picking them up at walmart customer service cause I had them ordered there instead of sent to me my house where it could've been opened. So scared that they knew. They probably did lol! Oh well.

I've read nothing else, well, years ago before I was able to find actual porn lol. Nothing since. I still have some of my old "literature" lol.

Do you not get "good" results or whatever when you search it in the search bar?

Male here. I had to stop watching because although I think watching porn is safe for women, it is extremely dangerous for men because it can desensitize you to the point where a woman simply being naked doesn't arouse you and you can only get turned on by specific scenarios, and then you go back into the real world and find yourself in front of a beautiful naked woman completely unable to get aroused. Porn induced erectyle dysfunction is an unspoken massive issue for young men nowadays. Besides that risk, you can only watch so many scenes before the scenes become all the same.

Good for you for at least saving yourself for a real girl/relationship lol. Self-awareness is key and I think more difficult for men than women. We as women think of that issue too :/
Yeah I've heard that before, like it all being a blur.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Oh 50 Shades is softcore compared to real-life. It's more so him just be a controlling douche and her giving in. Nothing crazy or I wouldn't have read them all lol I felt like such a perve picking them up at walmart customer service cause I had them ordered there instead of sent to me my house where it could've been opened. So scared that they knew. They probably did lol! Oh well.

That must've been pretty embarrassing. If I did read something like it I'd probably just try to use self checkout or something.

Do you not get "good" results or whatever when you search it in the search bar?

Usually I don't, yeah. A lot of the videos that use it as a tag don't actually include one in the video. Amateur stuff is a little better about actually having one sometimes though but not always.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

That must've been pretty embarrassing. If I did read something like it I'd probably just try to use self checkout or something.


Usually I don't, yeah. A lot of the videos that use it as a tag don't actually include one in the video. Amateur stuff is a little better about actually having one sometimes though but not always.

Hm. I'm not exactly looking them up but it seems like I can't escape them lol so I was just curious. Yeah, I actually ordered the series as they weren't on shelves anymore. The girl is so annoying, but fun to laugh at.

 

[DoubleUp8]

I'm male and 70 years old but never liked most porn. For a while when i was younger I did like lesbian porn but even that's in the cheap thrill category. I don't wanna see ron Jeremy's schlong or any other guy having sex and don't want another guy watching me have sex. Now I am 70 and was actually shocked when someone was attracted to me the other day. Sex is 1 of the last things on my mind these days.

 

[Z-A]

Male. Not that enjoyable anymore since I got on drugs. Same feeling I could get almost everyday I get every 3-4 days now. Generally, there's nothing really good about it except the few minutes of the good feeling.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

I'm male and 70 years old but never liked most porn. For a while when i was younger I did like lesbian porn but even that's in the cheap thrill category. I don't wanna see ron Jeremy's schlong or any other guy having sex and don't want another guy watching me have sex. Now I am 70 and was actually shocked when someone was attracted to me the other day. Sex is 1 of the last things on my mind these days.

That's probably still a good thing right? Yeah the days of Ron Jeremy are over. I don't think anyone wants to see that to be honest. There is what is now called "vintage" porn which is more like 90s. You should take a chance with that lady if you liked her. I live near a lot of older men and they're still rather randy Don't know if you use the more popular sites.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I'm male and I never really enjoyed porn. I'm apathetic to it. I'm glad that I don't really desire sex or porn otherwise my life will be significantly worse

Way to fake dont understand the appeal of it im female though

I thought you were male all this time. I'm surprised

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Porn just makes me feel horny or annoyed. It's also made me slightly confused about my sexuality since I seem to prefer looking at women in porn more than men. The confusion goes beyond porn, but it is a major contributing factor in my confusion over whether I am straight or not. Am I sexually attracted to women or are these feelings a byproduct of my views on women being screwed by the constant objectification and sexualization of the female body? I still remember the first pornstar I saw back when I was in grade 5. I was searching up some stuff on this Japanese idol group and that eventually led to her popping up on my screen. I was completely infatuated by her and I wanted to click on the videos of her but was too scared. I would look her up and stare obsessively at the video thumbnails but the idea of seeing her have sex made me feel bad and I didn't want to watch her have sex with a man. I would look at naked images of her but I would always end up using my hand to cover her body up because seeing her naked made me feel dirty.

Sometimes, I also think that it's screwed with my perception of myself and my own body and has caused me to further view my body in a sexualized manner.

My sexual fantasies have probably been more affected by fanfic and doujinshis though.


(I'm a woman, btw)

 

[Saturn_]

Female, used to have a considerably high sex drive but now I don't even really masturbate or find porn appealing. I just see it as a reminder of something I can never have or maintain, and I'd rather just avoid it altogether. It does make me depressed to see other people having sex, and it makes me depressed that all the women in porn are more attractive and desirable than I'd ever be. I feel like someone with this kind of appearance isn't cut out for having sex or any kind of intimacy, and that it would just be a wholly disgusting act for the other person.

 

[divinemistress36]

Porn just makes me feel horny or annoyed. It's also made me slightly confused about my sexuality since I seem to prefer looking at women in porn more than men. The confusion goes beyond porn, but it is a major contributing factor in my confusion over whether I am straight or not. Am I sexually attracted to women or are these feelings a byproduct of my views on women being screwed by the constant objectification and sexualization of the female body? I still remember the first pornstar I saw back when I was in grade 5. I was searching up some stuff on this Japanese idol group and that eventually led to her popping up on my screen. I was completely infatuated by her and I wanted to click on the videos of her but was too scared. I would look her up and stare obsessively at the video thumbnails but the idea of seeing her have sex made me feel bad and I didn't want to watch her have sex with a man. I would look at naked images of her but I would always end up using my hand to cover her body up because seeing her naked made me feel dirty.

Sometimes, I also think that it's screwed with my perception of myself and my own body and has caused me to further view my body in a sexualized manner.

My sexual fantasies have probably been more affected by fanfic and doujinshis though.


(I'm a woman, btw)

A lot of even straight women prefer lesbian porn cause its more sensual

 

[EvisceratedJester]

A lot of even straight women prefer lesbian porn cause its more sensual

The thing is, I'm even just talking about lesbian porn. Even in straight more I tend to focus more on women. It's also important to note that this isn't the only reasons as to why I question my sexuality, it's just part of it.

Then again, sexuality is fluid, not stagnant. I don't have to box myself into specific sexual orientation category if I don't want to.

 

[Demian]

Male. I don't see porn.

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Porn just makes me feel horny or annoyed. It's also made me slightly confused about my sexuality since I seem to prefer looking at women in porn more than men. The confusion goes beyond porn, but it is a major contributing factor in my confusion over whether I am straight or not. Am I sexually attracted to women or are these feelings a byproduct of my views on women being screwed by the constant objectification and sexualization of the female body? I still remember the first pornstar I saw back when I was in grade 5. I was searching up some stuff on this Japanese idol group and that eventually led to her popping up on my screen. I was completely infatuated by her and I wanted to click on the videos of her but was too scared. I would look her up and stare obsessively at the video thumbnails but the idea of seeing her have sex made me feel bad and I didn't want to watch her have sex with a man. I would look at naked images of her but I would always end up using my hand to cover her body up because seeing her naked made me feel dirty.

Sometimes, I also think that it's screwed with my perception of myself and my own body and has caused me to further view my body in a sexualized manner.

My sexual fantasies have probably been more affected by fanfic and doujinshis though.


(I'm a woman, btw)

That's more common I think: for women to watch a lot of girl only porn than straight porn. Maybe you're bi but wouldnt want to date a woman. Maybe it's just visual and irl with a girl sexually would be a no for you. Unless you experiment and find out you don't totally know I suppose. And maybe you'd only ever do it with one particular girl and never again. There's all kinds of mixes. Idk how nonhuman porn messes with you as I've never watched it or read statistics on it. Real people porn is already skewed towards the male fantasy enough to fuck with everyone so that's bad enough for me.

 

[tfnb]

I find porn to be a mental hurdle. I'm at the awkward age where I feel like I shouldn't look at the young ones so anything with "teen" in it is out, and the "milfs" all look like retired industry workers

It's the same problem I have with dating apps. I checked one out and then I looked at all the people and was like "I have literally nothing in common with them" and then all the women my age are like "I'm looking for the one I can spend the rest of my life with" no pressure.