Does anyone actually feel better doing more useless crap ?

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I kept being harassed into doing more volunteering because it would so totally make me feel better and make me meet so many more people and i'll totally make friends and even get a girlfriend, i don't feel shit doing more volunteering, haven't met literally a single person that would be dateable (I'm not being difficult, there's just... no women my age whatsoever and clients dont care about the dumb ass cashier lol), no one is like, friend material either. It's just a scam to get me to do more work for free innit ? Literally the only ''upside'' is there's more technically more chances i might find some stupid shit for cheap since im spending more time handling random crap and we get a discount.


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[_Maya]

It helps me distract myself from my feelings sometimes so it *technically* makes me "feel better." but only temporary

 

[grapevoid]

I kept being harassed into doing more volunteering because it would so totally make me feel better and make me meet so many more people and i'll totally make friends and even get a girlfriend, i don't feel shit doing more volunteering, haven't met literally a single person that would be dateable (I'm not being difficult, there's just... no women my age whatsoever and clients dont care about the dumb ass cashier lol), no one is like, friend material either. It's just a scam to get me to do more work for free innit ? Literally the only ''upside'' is there's more technically more chances i might find some stupid shit for cheap since im spending more time handling random crap and we get a discount.


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I think there is a lot of focus on how helping others in turn helps ourselves. But, I don't know if that's true for everyone and you can't pour from an empty cup. If volunteering doesn't "fill your cup" so to speak… I mean, ya it's probably a waste of time lol

 

[Unspoken7612]

I don't think your therapists are trying to trick you into doing free work in charity shops.

There definitely are people who benefit from it, especially if you believe in the cause. But it doesn't sound like it is right for you. Is there something else you'd rather be doing? Maybe charities that help the sick aren't your cup of tea, but would you be excited about leading a campaign yourself, for example?

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

It helps me distract myself from my feelings sometimes so it *technically* makes me "feel better." but only temporary

It's sadly barely a distraction lol, it's kinda just... being a walmart wagey but for a charity

I think there is a lot of focus on how helping others in turn helps ourselves. But, I don't know if that's true for everyone and you can't pour from an empty cup. If volunteering doesn't "fill your cup" so to speak… I mean, ya it's probably a waste of time lol

I don't think i have the empathy/emotion needed to actually feel good doing it lol

I don't think your therapists are trying to trick you into doing free work in charity shops.

There definitely are people who benefit from it, especially if you believe in the cause. But it doesn't sound like it is right for you. Is there something else you'd rather be doing? Maybe charities that help the sick aren't your cup of tea, but would you be excited about leading a campaign yourself, for example?

Not really ? I feel nothing helping people in general, doesnt matter what clientele it is. The actual job itself doesnt do much change, i wouldnt feel anything if i were leading a campaign than if i was just handing out flyers or whatever.

 

[LimpandNumb]

Would you feel better volunteering with animals?

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Would you feel better volunteering with animals?

*Sad allergies noises*

 

[LimpandNumb]

*Sad allergies noises*

Ah that's unfortunate.

 

[Unspoken7612]

Sometimes it isn't about "feeling better" in the moment, it's about giving yourself slightly more of a sense of purpose and/or community which provides a less "instant" boost to your life satisfaction.

Is there really nothing where you think "this is wrong, and should be put right"?

As a slightly left-field example - my dad plays walking football (soccer), and found it a really good way for people of his age to get a bit of exercise and some of the camaraderie that comes with playing sports. But he realised there was no women's team, meaning that local women didn't have the same opportunity. So he's put a lot of work into establishing a women's team, and now a lot of people have access to a form of exercise they wouldn't have otherwise had.

Or what about trying to be nice to people on the internet?

If you really can't think of anything, then is there anything you'd like to do purely for yourself? I have been trying to read books from as many different countries as possible, and also by non-binary authors when possible. Do you want to try new recipes, more independent comic books, different genres of music, birdwatching?

 

[Caffeineaddiction]

It's sadly barely a distraction lol, it's kinda just... being a walmart wagey but for a charity



I don't think i have the empathy/emotion needed to actually feel good doing it lol



Not really ? I feel nothing helping people in general, doesnt matter what clientele it is. The actual job itself doesnt do much change, i wouldnt feel anything if i were leading a campaign than if i was just handing out flyers or whatever.

Could it be, that like me you simply dislike people? I don't know your life or your reasons, but a big part of why I'm on this site is because I have lost hope in humanity as a whole. Maybe that's also what's bothering you. I have a complicated relationship with people, which I can explain if you're curious (it's kind of a weird paradox), but I personally like helping people. However what I like even more is helping animals, and nature. Nature never betrayed me, you get exactly what you signed up for. There are no unmet expectations, and I personally don't care if I live or die so working with dangerous animals can also be fun. It gives you a rush of ecstasy.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Sometimes it isn't about "feeling better" in the moment, it's about giving yourself slightly more of a sense of purpose and/or community which provides a less "instant" boost to your life satisfaction.

Is there really nothing where you think "this is wrong, and should be put right"?

As a slightly left-field example - my dad plays walking football (soccer), and found it a really good way for people of his age to get a bit of exercise and some of the camaraderie that comes with playing sports. But he realised there was no women's team, meaning that local women didn't have the same opportunity. So he's put a lot of work into establishing a women's team, and now a lot of people have access to a form of exercise they wouldn't have otherwise had.

Or what about trying to be nice to people on the internet?

If you really can't think of anything, then is there anything you'd like to do purely for yourself? I have been trying to read books from as many different countries as possible, and also by non-binary authors when possible. Do you want to try new recipes, more independent comic books, different genres of music, birdwatching?

I feel literally nothing by helping people or learning new things, it kinda just... does nothing for me. If anything it kinda just makes me feel worse to see how assholes or people who do no effort whatsoever get everything i'll never have just handed to them for free while i waste my time doing random crap i dont care about lol

Could it be, that like me you simply dislike people? I don't know your life or your reasons, but a big part of why I'm on this site is because I have lost hope in humanity as a whole. Maybe that's also what's bothering you. I have a complicated relationship with people, which I can explain if you're curious (it's kind of a weird paradox), but I personally like helping people. However what I like even more is helping animals, and nature. Nature never betrayed me, you get exactly what you signed up for. There are no unmet expectations, and I personally don't care if I live or die so working with dangerous animals can also be fun. It gives you a rush of ecstasy.

Ngl, i at best tolerate people but im kinda forced to do stupid social stuff i absolutly since no one's helping me in anyway shape or form to like, maybe have a girlfriend and 1-2 good friends which is what i'd want. It's also kinda just always filled with the kind of people i can't stand.
Nature's good, but im allergic to everything from plants to cute fluffy friends lmao, and there isnt really any kind of ''help cool moths and caterpillar frens'' charity.