Venting Do your parents accept you for who you are?

[Gangrel]

Do your parents accept you for who you are?

I had a huge fight with my mom today over my sexuality. We were talking about last names, and I said that if I married my partner, I'd take his name. She got furious and started saying that being gay is a choice, that I chose to be gay. I told her that I've wanted to kill myself over things like this before, and she told me I should just do it. After that, it was just more arguing and fighting. My anxiety went through the roof, so I went to my room, and of course she acted like nothing had happened afterward. At least my partner was there later to play games with me, so I didn't feel so alone. I practically begged them to play with me, but it was such a relief. I really didn't want to be alone with my thoughts. I also ended up crying in front of them on the call, it was horrible, I could barely hold it together.

 

[cakedog]

not completely
most of my decisions and the way i do things need to be under their own terms which sucks because they end up doing more harm than good
everything they do and say is for my own good only ends up leaving me in a worse situation
they really aren't happy for me being who i truly am they just want to fabricate a clueless and soulless creature that fits their stupid ideals

 

[Lady_V]

What an evil parent to tell their child to kill themselves. I hope you can find a way to get away from her. Wanting a dead son over a gay son is disgusting.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

Dad kicked the bucket long before I ever came out. But he used anti-queer [and racist and sexist and...] slurs pretty openly. Don't think he'd be that thrilled.

Mom didn't give a shit, didn't change who I was to her.

 

[justanotherbody]

I was fortunate enough to have been born to, by most metrics, great parents.
They were not perfect. They were in absolute denial of anything related to psychology or mental health. According to them: if you couldn't see it, there was no problem.
As a teenager with depression and anxiety, "get over it" and "deal with it" was the kind of support I got from them. "Everybody gets sad", "just stop worrying", "it's all in your head", etc.
The depression and anxiety stemmed from my lifelong struggles with misophonia and from likely undiagnosed autism. Both of which they refused to believe were valid conditions.

That said, they never wished death upon me nor encouraged me to kill myself. So I do not, in any way, have experiences with mine as severe as yours. So I cannot imagine how shitty that feels.

 

[sanctionedusage]

no, i usually end up cutting or bruising myself when i forget, get too comfortable, and get a brutal reality check from them

theyre not as much of an evil cunt as this though

have you considered staging a hyperrealistic fake suicide with professional sfx/blood, razor blades or a shotgun prop and everything, just to traumatize the fuck out of her?

 

[astr4]

i'm so sorry bro. you deserve a mom who's only complaint is that they're not taking YOUR last name. who's excited to have them over for dinner and get to meet the person that makes you so happy. sucks man.

i'm glad you have your partner to comfort you, i know it's always awkward crying in front of someone else but they're ur partner they care abt u im sure they're just sad they can't do more to help. it sucks that ur in this situation. im privileged enough to be bi and i've just never brought a woman home (sorry ex gfs) so idk. i think you're a lot braver than me. i'm really sorry that ur getting all this shit from ur mom as a consequence tho. i wish it were always like in the movies where they're just like "we love you no matter what". and i also hope you manage to get out of this living situation soon. i'm sure it doesn't help the desire to die to be stuck under the same roof with someone telling you to kill yourself.