Discussion Do you wish you could be NEET? Poll

[Forever Sleep]

My work is very all or nothing. I'm not exactly NEET. I've got stuff to do today for work. Still, I do go through periods which are very quiet. Then it goes nuts again. So, I border on the NEET lifestyle from time to time.

Maybe it's just the contrast but, I love it. I'd love it even more if I didn't feel the pressure to be doing work. Which is always there from within myself and, from my family.

So- I wouldn't be allowed to enjoy NEETdom if I either ended up relying on my parents or welfare. The guilt trip would feel intolerable.

Maybe it's awful. I've been taught that it's awful but, I sit/ lay here thinking- I could do this! I know I can't though.

I do want to say, I know being NEET isn't great for a lot of people. For many, I'm sure it's because of genuine health problems that make it difficult to work. Obviously, people have my pity for that. Plus, I wouldn't exchange the health I have for being NEET. Also, it can't be fun living with the criticism people often get. I suppose eventually, boredom may catch up too, although I'm amazed how I can lose days to doom scrolling, playing games, watching YouTube etc.

I suppose I would end up wanting to pursue creative goals again eventually. I just wish it was possible without the need to fund myself from them. I guess I wish we were just all payed hansomely for doing the things we like. Whatever they are.

Those working though especially- do you think your life would be better or worse if you could go NEET? I'd need to be able to do it independently. A lottery win or something. I've hovering between 'yes' and 'maybe'. Maybe eventually, I would want to learn or produce again. I'd just like to be able to do it with less pressure. How about you?

 

[Flightless Wings]

I am a NEET. Have been for 8 years after dropping out of my postgrad. It's comfortable, but it doesn't help the underlying emotional or mental issues.

There is a kind of inertia that comes with NEETdom. You really need a project or purpose to keep you steady or else you just wallow in your own pointlessness, distracting yourself every day while aware you're doing nothing... and if you're like me, you don't have any social connections, if that's a thing that matters to you.

I am very grateful not to have economic or job pressures on my life though. As for whether I'd rather be a NEET or not... I'd rather be competent enough at some enjoyable, highly skilled work that gave me satisfaction, and be doing that. A low skilled drudge job just for the sake of it doesn't sound appealing, but it's the most I could theoretically get, so between the two I wallow in NEETdom.

 

[Forveleth]

Yes? I do not know because it depends on the definition, I guess. If I did not have to work, I would pursue creative endeavors but those could eventually end up making me money so then I would be employed?

Really I think I just want a career change.

 

[Aergia]

This is a good poll idea.

I often feel like a NEET despite being a student because I spend the vast majority of my time mindlessly scrolling or consuming media even when I have college classes to attend/work to do. As much as I hate doing nothing worthwhile with my time, doing anything worthwhile takes an irrational amount of effort. I don't wish I was NEET so much as I wish I had the drive/passion/interest to actually engage in a career or other pursuit.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I don't wanna be a NEET yet I'm kinda forced to be a NEET. I would like to things, I'm also not against working but I don't wanna become a wage slave, I don't wanna be exploited. I don't have many other options but in this case it's better to be a NEET.

 

[Namelesa]

I am a NEET and it's whats best for me cus I handle any sort of job. However I don't like I have limited freedom and trapped by my parents and being a NEET doesn't exactly help that situation but the alternative to having a job is worse. I am however trying to escape my situation through my game development.

 

[Pluto]

 

[derpyderpins]

NEET but independent is the goal. Got a ton I want to do.

 

[derpyderpins]

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[always_sad]

I've been a NEET for many years and I would occasionally earn money by doing freelance work or trying jobs that don't need education. I don't have a diploma. I left my last workplace a month ago, even though I liked it a lot and the pay was good. It was too hard on me physically (manual labor job). I've been thinking on self studying for a creative job that does not need education, it's doable but I have no motivation to pursue anything.
There are things I am actually good at but I have absolutely no motivation to work towards getting regular income because I feel like my parents like me only when I make money. I have to help around the house and sometimes I would help them financially. I don't mind it but it feels very superficial. They bullied me when I was at my lowest points in life and they would guilt me instead of helping me out. I used to struggle really badly with going outside and socializing, it made finding jobs and doing freelance really hard. But they would treat me sooo nicely whenever I'd get money for my work. They don't want me to be independent, they want me to be useful. Bleh

Being a NEET sucks. Your brain is slowly rotting away and your time is wasted on shit that does not matter. No new connections, no new experiences, nothing. I do as much as I can to help with things like chores but I feel like a burden. I'm lucky to be where I am but it's still a bad way to live. It's not enjoyable in the slightest

 

[TheHolySword]

If I were a NEET I would have killed myself already. Or maybe I wouldn't have access to any reliable methods so maybe it would just be worse idk. Being a NEET would just increase my suffering and I wouldn't have anything to leave behind for my loved ones. I'm earning a decent enough income to give something behind to my nephew and a life insurance policy for my brother. That's a lot better to me than slowly rotting every day with nothing to show for it.

 

[resurgence]

dropped out at 14 and basically became a shut in very fast after that. almost 25 rn
i dont know any different and everything seems scary. have really bad agoraphobia (obviously) i wont even go get my birth control shots cuz i gotta go in person.
its hard to want to change when i dont even wanna be here in the first place. id rather be comfortable in my little bubble where im safe and not stressed

 

[LaVieEnRose]

No, I wish I had a life and could relate to people. I worked really hard to escape NEETdom and for a bit I thought I escaped it for good even if suicide was always an option or even inevitable at some point. Now I let myself slide back into it for a long time now.

Of course participation is a two-way street. In my efforts to be a "productive member of society" I was rejected as the following, to name some examples:

English tutor, bio lab teacher's assistant, wildlife rehab intern, and a whole host of basic jobs.

Turns out the desire to engage isn't enough. You have to be allowed to, essentially.

(Not that I was necessarily wrong to be rejected, but still. Doesn't inspire faith either way.)

I also just want to tell you that payments awarded on the basis of being adjudicated disabled aren't really the same as welfare.

 

[Arrival03]

I've been one since I left school almost five years ago. I hate doing nothing all day and spending everyday waiting for the day to end. The only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I want to at least try having a job before going through with it, but because of personal issues I'll probably be stuck like this for at least another year, and I don't know if I can hang on for that much longer.

 

[Zanmato]

I've been a Neet for a lot of time, interrupted only for few months, because of work.

Now, I started working again in July, and it's still going on.

Not gonna lie, this is my longest working experience ever lol

Sometimes I definetly miss my old days as Neet, but at the same time... now I don't feel so "useless".

But yeah, I could be independent, I think I'd return to my Neetdom

 

[Red Moon]

I'm techincally a NEET but that's mainly because of my disability. I've tried looking for work but no responses.

It's good in a way because I just don't fit in with most people especially socially and I don't know if I can really work, at least the family doesn't think so. I get no support to look for a suitable job either.

It's bad in a way because I get it in my mind that I'm doing nothing and that I'm just wasting my life away. It also feels shameful in a way but then again I feel like I'm outcasted by wider society nor do I fit in anyway.

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

I'm looking for employment at present and having no income doesn't help for anxiety levels. The idea of being an independent Neet sounds great though.

 

[CallmeWill4719]

I know it doesn't really count but I have been off work for almost a year for an injury. So kinda? idk. I remember all the times relying on family for money and I really really really hate it. Always guilt tripping or insulting me. Trust me it's worth working a shitty job just to avoid that. If they still complain? You're lucky I'm working at all.

 

[Xanabby]

I am NEET.
My last ctb attempt got me a handicap which got me a state allowance.
Now I live with half an arm but at least I escaped the rat race !
I feel free and grateful but I am treated horribly. People call me lazy, a loser, accuse me of faking my handicap and such...
They're envious and blame it on me lol

Also, I am not independant. I live rent free at my dads house (It has its challenges)