Discussion Do you view life in absolutes?

[charcoalcat]

Examples:

• I'm unable to attain a certain lifestyle hence I'm a failure
• I don't fit a specific beauty standard hence I'm ugly
• I don't attract the people I desire hence I'm a loser
• I passed a certain age hence all hope is lost

For myself yes, I'm an absolutist. Hence I must die.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I guess I view life in absolutes but in terms of suffering. I consider all suffering to be bad in my case and I can't think of a single case where suffering is good. Sure, there's cases where you can suffer a lesser amount to alleviate further potential suffering of a greater magnitude (like working to avoid homelessness) but even then I see that sort of suffering as bad too

 

[Downdraft]

I view my life as an absolute shit not really just trying to sound edgy for upvotes

 

[charcoalcat]

I guess I view life in absolutes but in terms of suffering. I consider all suffering to be bad in my case and I can't think of a single case where suffering is good. Sure, there's cases where you can suffer a lesser amount to alleviate further potential suffering of a greater magnitude (like working to avoid homelessness) but even then I see that sort of suffering as bad too

I do not see work as suffering as long as the work is meaningful (to me) and compensates sufficiently to supplement a comfortable lifestyle. Anything below that spectrum is suffering; working to survive. To me that is a life without dignity, humanity, and freedom. Aka a life not worth living.

 

[Worndown]

There are few things in life that are absolutes, black and white.
The examples given my reflect personal goals or minimum requirements
My observation is that life is too dynamic to have such limits.

 

[CatLvr]

There are few things in life that are absolutes, black and white.
The examples given my reflect personal goals or minimum requirements
My observation is that life is too dynamic to have such limits.

I was trying to think how to say this. You did it very eloquently. I agree. Thank you!

 

[charcoalcat]

There are few things in life that are absolutes, black and white.
The examples given my reflect personal goals or minimum requirements
My observation is that life is too dynamic to have such limits.

What are the few things in life you think are absolutes?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Sometimes I do, and sometimes I don't. Usually I'm just absolutely in the middle and torn between the two ends of most things. When I am absolute about something it's pretty difficult to be swayed another way but it's happened before so I guess I can't say I'm always absolutely absolute all the time. I do dream of an absolution though.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

That last one resonates heavily with me.

 

[CogitoMori]

Death is all that is absolute

 

[PlannedforPeru]

A lot of what you describe seems to be self-identifying statements, I don't do those as much anymore, at least not let external circumstances influence myself image to a detrimental degree. I just try to recognize a deficiency of some sort and deal with it as I can if I can.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I used to a lot more than I am now. Probably because I realised that it was making me even more miserable to be so 'all or nothing'. So now, I'm better at just trying to seek out the lesser of the evils!

Plus, any choice we make tends to initiate both positive and negative things. I'd like to think it would have made me happy if I'd done better in my career. If I was more attractive and, had a partner. Would it though- really? On paper, I was doing 'better' in my career 10 years ago. I was massively stressed and unhappy though.

I've been around very attractive women who were pestered by total strangers- both men and women about their looks. And truthfully- that didn't seem nice. It seemed massively intrusive. I actually remember being surprised to be thinking- I'm glad that's not me. So- I think it helps to remember that 'all that glitters isn't (necessarily) gold'. Even if/when you get what you thought you wanted- it may well not be what you thought and it may not be enough.

Plus- it's also risky. Say you desire friendship. You start really connecting with someone and it means so much to you. It makes you happy. Then, for whatever reason, you lose that contact. That can hurt tremendously. So- it's also fairly risky to put so much hope on something- in case you do actually get it but then, lose it.

While I'm not great at following it- the better approach I've found is to try to take things- and people- as they come. Enjoy it in the moment but maybe don't make all your well being reliant on that thing lasting forever. It's actually gotten to the point where I'm so used to stuff in life not materialising- jobs, opportunities, friendships- that it makes me far more cautious to commit emotionally to begin with. It just tends to lead to a whole lot of disappointment a lot of the time- sadly.

 

[theolivanderroach]

In a way. I have nothing left to offer the world and the world has nothing left to offer me. So it's done, that's it. Maybe I have too much of an ego, but I don't feel like a failure or "worthless" because of it, if that makes sense. I don't fit the beauty standard either but I don't feel ugly. I feel nothing.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I view life as an absolutely horrible imposition.

There are hundreds of very horrible things that can happen to any human any day

By the law of probability u have to sum the probabilities of these nightmares.

There is no objective reason to work 15 hours every day just to exist under such threats

Life is prison, torture , slavery an evil imposition.

They made life a worse prison by making someone helping u in suicide a crime

Non-existence is the elimination of all threats, all problems , all pain , all suffering, all bad memories forever. So I view non-existence forever as absolutely perfect. Non-existence is the only perfection

Only non-existence forever can guarantee never any long lasting constant unbearable pain , never any suffering , problems, torture, never any pain bad memories, oppression, injustice, lies ,old age, diseases, scams etc

Only non-existence forever is absolute perfection