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noname223

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Aug 18, 2020
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Currently, I don't really have sexual problems anymore. But I had diverse. I wrote a guide how I fixed my issues as a man.


I think this thread might be gold for some.

I was intimate with a woman at the beginning of this year. It was really an amazing time for me. She was very much into sex. And to that time I had mild issues with erectile dysfunction. I talked about it with her very openly and that it makes me insecure. However, when we became intimate I had non of these issues. We did a lot of foreplay and we sadly had no sex. But I had no issues when we did what we did.

She told me her experience how it is when an old man a gynecologist inspects her and that it is a very strange feeling when he is down there between her legs. She never became wet though under these circumstances.

I had diverse sexual issues. The absolute worst ones with lamotrigine. Just to find out after a long time it basically has no effect at all and only side effects. For women I read it can be the absolute opposite. And increases their sexual pleasure a lot. But me I barely felt anything anymore. Which was a huge burden in my age.

I think I have the tendency to overshare. I do this in my self-help group. But I never said anything about my sexuality there. But behind closed dorse with therapists I lost the shame. And the woman with whom I got intimate was astounded how I can talk this openly about my sexual issues with other women. Most of my therapists were female.

In my experience it is easier to talk about this with women. There was a male therapist who became very awkward.

Maybe I am the awkward person. However, I concluded it is better to talk with them to find a solution for the issues instead of suffering in silence. But I realized none of these people could actually help me. I had to do research on the internet on my own to fix the issue eventually.

And as you can read in the linked thread Busp and trazodone fixed all my issues. And I am quite happy about it, I can also recommend wellbutrin.
 
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I've never had any sexual dysfunction, at least not in terms of performance. Arguably being unable to ever have a partner is a problem of some sort.

I never talked with any partner about anything sexual, because the only partners I ever had were paid escorts. I never had any performance issues and even the first time I saw one, when I was a virgin, the escort had no idea that was my first time. So, I can't say I'm a "stud" or anything like that, it would be for a partner to rate me on that level... but I don't have performance anxiety and I have no nervousness about being with women. I typically didn't initiate anything, the escorts do that... If I ever were with a woman that was not paid to be there, I think I would still have issues initiating contact... but it wouldn't be for anxiety about performance, it would just be the discomfort in initiating potentially unwanted contact. In my experience women don't like me in that way at all, so I can only imagine the scenario of being with a woman I hadn't paid to be there with me and how I wouldn't know at all how to initiate or escalate. I've never been in that situation so no clue what to do for that part.

But... if I had a therapist, and I had some sexual issues... I wouldn't have a problem talking about it. Even if I was embarrassed, the point of being with a therapist would be to talk... so I would talk. I would absolutely talk openly with a partner. I don't know if it would be awkward or not, having never had a partner... but I would want to talk to her for both our sake and enjoyment, and I would be encouraging of her to talk to me as well.
 
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Sep 26, 2023
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Yeah you couldn't pay me to talk about my sexual problems, even when my psych is a woman. Though, I have no problem saying it here on SaSu. Maybe cause none of you really know me. My problem is that I'm pretty sure I'm hypersexual due to some trauma but I'll never confirm because there's no way on god's gracious earth that you can make me share this with my psychiatrist
 
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noname223

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Yeah you couldn't pay me to talk about my sexual problems, even when my psych is a woman. Though, I have no problem saying it here on SaSu. Maybe cause none of you really know me. My problem is that I'm pretty sure I'm hypersexual due to some trauma but I'll never confirm because there's no way on god's gracious earth that you can make me share this with my psychiatrist
I think hiding is not possible. At least if you are taking medication they will think their part of the story. Okay ignorant therapists might never think about it at all.

But having sexual issues is very common for people with sexual traumata or for people who take mental health medication.

I read studies. And in these studies there are high rates of sexual dysfunctions and they assume despite that many people are lying in these studies about their sexual issues. It is a long time I read that though.
 
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This doesn't count as sexual but one of the biggest problems I had on meds was that my prostate was hurting at all times and my kidneys were hurting badly aswel and I had to come off two different meds because of that even if I was drinking insane amount of water over 2.5 liters a day. Side effects of meds suck a lot I can empathize with that.
 

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