Discussion Do you hate your parents for bringing you to this terrible world

[Darkover]

Honestly, I hate them so much. It is an utterly selfish decision to have a child. Most people do it to try to create a better version of themselves. I didn't ask to be alive. My entire life has been essentially nothing but suffering, the few good moments are overshadowed by the plentiful bad ones. Now I am stuck in this miserable existence in a body I didn't ask to be born in, until the day it reaches its expiration date (hopefully sooner rather than later)

 

[theolivanderroach]

I used to hate them. Then over time I just accepted they're npc lizard brain like most people. Breed with no thought into the atrocity they are committing. Most breeders don't do it with malicious intent.

 

[ma0]

To be fair the world wasn't nearly as bad as it is now when I was born. It's not their fault I feel this way.

 

[plycaract937]

I hate them. They want you to take care of them when they're old. They just want to take advantage of you. They only think of themselves.

 

[S like Siren]

I don't hate to being in the world but I hate that I was born in my family,I do hate them.
I didn't want to be born in their dysfunctional family.
I am sick of them,they drained the life out of me.

 

[GoSan1]

Love my mother, not really my father. But to hate them would be selfish since it isn't their fault. Yes, you can say they are the ones who brought you here, but they did not expect things to turn around this way. Thanks to being born I could at least see that my hopes and dreams did exist in some form, just not for me to reach. Even if this life is nothing but suffering and emptiness, the care they put into me was genuine, at least from my mother. What is to hate is this life, not the lifebringer.

 

[coolgal82]

I don't, i hate myself for being a terrible daughter and also for just being this way in general when they did like everything they could for me. honestly i kinda wish they were bad and evil and etc or that i could atleast see them as such it'd make CTB so much easier and also i wouldnt feel so guilty about just everything all the time. but like i dont think they did anything wrong by bringing me into this world. do i wish they didnt? yes. do i hate them for it? no. they couldntve foresaw this.

 

[death_bed221]

Its not their fault I am who I am. My mom tried her best. But sometimes it just doesn't work out. How could she know I would have mental problems and not fit in this world. I don't blame her at all. She still loves me and I am sub-human thrash

 

[vampire2002]

my biological father is a convicted serial rapist, that's how i was conceived. i hate him, but i've never met him and probably never will. my mother and i have always had a strained relationship, but i can't bring myself to hate her.
i have had multiple stepdads, don't love any of them anymore either. basically, every parental figure i've ever had has abused me in one way or another. i've got both mommy and daddy issues.

 

[Blue Dream]

People are a product of their times, and their cultures. It's often not much of a choice. No one knows what the future will be like either, especially concerning a hypothetical person.
Also, some parents just feel lonely and a child that is dependent on you can't really leave, for better or worse. Sometimes it really does work and the kid changes the parent's outlook on life for the better, sometimes it doesn't and you end up with people like us.

 

[Forever Sleep]

There's certainly a part of me that deeply resents that they did. Hate is a bit strong though. I tend to reserve hate for people I believe have deliberately wronged me. And even then, I'd prefer to avoid them al together and not think of them at all rather than hate them. Hate is such a destructive emotion. I think it does us more harm than them.

I think they did it with the best of intentions but I really don't think they thought it though. They probably could have predicted that some very bad things were likely in store for me. The worst being the death of my Mum. She found out she had cancer at the time time she found out she was pregnant. Also, my genes were so obviously going to be creative and they must have known even at that stage that the Arts aren't the greatest for stable employment.

It truly isn't a nice feeling and I have it so often. Everyday, I'm thinking- why on earth did you being me into this! Other than- because you wanted children? I also love them too though, so it's kind of confusing.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

there is no instinct to have children. i must be missing those genes ( sarcasm). many countries the birthrates are falling . south korea will disapear in a few decades : some instinct. i never wanted to have children as a male chimpanzee. people have just been taught that having children and that life is good , that they want to have children ( imo) . many people don't want to have children more every day so it's not an instinct like the thirst for water that is an instinct . oh i have such a desire to have children no i don't it's an abomination to even think that i am 30 trillion cells much less to want to reproduce this and a brain that can suffer unending constant unbearable pain.

People are a product of of the culture and society they grew up up in believing the many lies taught to them when they were children. No life is not good as everyone is taught , how can the extreme torture possible for any human be good?

The fault lies with those pushing the lies life is good, having children is good and censoring antinatalist arguments censoring statements that show why life is bad

many very horrible things can happen to any human or other sentient animal any day . no one is immune. no one should be put into that situation of danger under threat of extreme torture . furthermore to have to work every day doing chores, a job, feed themselves 3 times per day hungry all the time , getting sick regularly ( flu etc) , clean every damn thing every day . risking diseases accidents kidnappings all for no objective reason. many more nightmares in this evil world. to live as a prisoner with no way out because they made someone helping you with suicide a crime. if you can't leave a place in a guaranteed painless easy quick way then you are a prisoner. this and many more reasons why life is bad and to impose that on someone is a crime , a brain that can suffer unending constant unbearable pain.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't hate my parents per se for this as they are just two idiots who have been massively indoctrinated by society to believe that having a kid is amazing and they are too stupid to see otherwise. I can't blame them for being held back by the limitations of their brain. The brain is absolutely powerful and dictates almost everything about a person. So whilst I don't hate my parents, I also don't care about how they would feel if I were to ctb as it should be my right to no longer exist and they do not deserve to have the authority to make me their prisoner indefinitely

 

[divinemistress36]

To be fair the world wasn't nearly as bad as it is now when I was born. It's not their fault I feel this way.

True . The 90s and early 2000s really were a better time

To be fair the world wasn't nearly as bad as it is now when I was born. It's not their fault I feel this way.

there is no instinct to have children. i must be missing those genes ( sarcasm). many countries the birthrates are falling . south korea will disapear in a few decades : some instinct. i never wanted to have children as a male chimpanzee. people have just been taught that having children and that life is good , that they want to have children ( imo) . many people don't want to have children more every day so it's not an instinct like the thirst for water that is an instinct . oh i have such a desire to have children no i don't it's an abomination to even think that i am 30 trillion cells much less to want to reproduce this and a brain that can suffer unending constant unbearable pain.

People are a product of of the culture and society they grew up up in believing the many lies taught to them when they were children. No life is not good as everyone is taught , how can the extreme torture possible for any human be good?

The fault lies with those pushing the lies life is good, having children is good and censoring antinatalist arguments censoring statements that show why life is bad

many very horrible things can happen to any human or other sentient animal any day . no one is immune. no one should be put into that situation of danger under threat of extreme torture . furthermore to have to work every day doing chores, a job, feed themselves 3 times per day hungry all the time , getting sick regularly ( flu etc) , clean every damn thing every day . risking diseases accidents kidnappings all for no objective reason. many more nightmares in this evil world. to live as a prisoner with no way out because they made someone helping you with suicide a crime. if you can't leave a place in a guaranteed painless easy quick way then you are a prisoner. this and many more reasons why life is bad and to impose that on someone is a crime , a brain that can suffer unending constant unbearable pain.

All the chores in itself make me want to die

 

[Yume Nikki]

I don't hate them for bringing me into existence, I hate them for the abuse I endured in my childhood and how it continued to persist until my dad was arrested on the first day of school. Abusers and addicts shouldn't have children due to the irreparable damage it can cause to their emotional well-being.

 

[8leveloquenfrn4evr8]

I am willing to believe that some people exist in a bubble of happy goodness, never needing to soil themselves by partaking in the world at large that would result in their having to be willfully blind to it, thereby diminishing their true "goodness". I even start crying helplessly when I listen to certain songs or watch certain movies that remind me of that semi-privileged middle class educated world of art, science and culture that so many around me grew up and loved in. I think about the potential that was robbed of me on the one hand and the way I was set up for failure on the other. And then I remember why I hate them.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I agree with @ma0 , the world was a better place when my parents decided to have children. I don't hate them for doing something that is natural of every animal, that makes no sense to me. The tragedies that unfolded in my life couldn't have been anticipated.
I envy my parents in the sense that, they most definitely didn't see such a weight on the decision to have kids, and because of that were able to make that decision more lightly and be happy with the family they created, making their kids happy too.

Knowing how awful life can turn out feels like a curse that hinders happiness.

 

[TheHolySword]

No, not at all. I'm not an antinatalist anyways so I don't really believe anyone is wrong for bringing a child into the world. I hate that I was born but my parents could never have predicted how miserable I would be. They did the best they could, certain things are just out of our control. My birth and life at least have allowed me the chance to give love and memories that will last my family and friends a lifetime. Maybe that's something that wouldn't have mattered if i were not born, but I was, so I make the most of it.

 

[Cavalcade]

Yes, largely because I have been told over and over again by them that the only reason I exist is because they were religious, and as a Roman Catholic, she wasn't able to have an abortion- and this has been a seething point of rage and hatred for them ever since. It's part of why I've vowed to never have children. Some people are not fit to be parents, don't wish to be parents- and in my case, wound up treating their child like a demonic presence in their life, a divine punishment: a thing to beat and blame and heap the weight of 'ruining their life' upon, to scream at that they wish I had never existed.

They could have given me up, but refused to lose social status among those they knew by doing so, and I think eventually came to enjoy having a punching bag to scapegoat all of their blame onto- for their unhappy marriage, for unrealized talents, for education opportunities lost... If you have a shitty life, and an easy means to point the finger of blame at, it's easy to see why they would begrudgingly keep around their object to beat and psychologically terrorize and abuse so badly even trauma specialists have thrown up or burst into tears in horror at what I've shared in session with them.

They don't love me. They never have. They have outright expressed their hatred, their loathing. Why would I not hate them in turn? I haven't had a maternal figure since she attempted a double homicide suicide when I wasn't even a preteen yet- a literal child. What could a child do that was so bad, so wrong, to deserve that? Nothing I did, certainly- the quiet, studious, ineffably polite child, who only wanted to avoid getting hit in the face and to read in the library, where it was quiet and safe.

 

[Namelesa]

I hate my parents so much for birthing me especially since they trap me in the house and prevent my ctb attempts as much as possible. If you are going to create new life at least give me the freedom and ability to leave this world when its too much for me. Especially since if I did have the freedom to be able to go outside on my own without my dog, I could see my best friend which could make me feel better but NO, "we can't risk you committing suicide." Fluff my parents, I want them to suffer when I suicide.

Tho I guess I should be thankful for them giving me a comfortable room, food, clothing, private hrt and allow me to do whatever I want on my computer without needing to do a job or pay them anything but I sometimes wish they just kicked me out of the house so I could find a place to jump from and die.

I will say I still wouldn't like my dad even if I didn't hate my parents for creating and trapping me here. He is quite unsympathetic and uncaring and can be angry at me sometimes which can cause me anxiety attacks. He was judgmental about when I first transitioned and still is with my age regression. He has also been disappointed in me not doing education anymore. He has probably made me somewhat scared of men, especially ones in authority.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

I hate my parents for bringing me to this world to abuse me physically and psychologically, making my life infinitely times harder, making me depressed and suicidal. That is why.

 

[Ligottian]

I don't think they had a clue of all the harms that could face me. Or just they just blocked out those could happen to me.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I waver on this, because my life was great in so many ways, I just wish things would have gone better.

My parents were immature and irresponsible alcoholics when they had me. My mom was a teenager when I was born, and she left when I was very young. That traumatized me and left me without a mother to raise me. She's a very nice person, and I saw her sometimes on weekends but I never formed a true loving relationship with her.

My dad was a workaholic who basically neglected me after my mother left. He tries to do the right thing for me, but he's inept at it. I often felt like I hated him because he put himself before me. But he also did support me in some areas and I know he loves me, so I have to cut him some slack.

The biggest issues in my life were caused by mental illness that I inherited. I don't blame my parents for my genetics, but I am upset that they didn't provide a stable family environment to support me. But society as a whole also needs to step up mental health support because it's a life long issue.

 

[alivebutnotliving]

My mother had me when she was just 18. She does her best and has sacrificed a lot for me, even if she makes me feel guilty about it. my biological father was grooming her and I can't put any blame onto her for that, only him. I wish she received help though as im positive id be much better off if she was stable mentally. What can you do though.

 

[tbh2023]

My parents passed away. I don't know if I can blame them for my depression. I think I had decent childhood. My depression kicked in after the age of 15. It gotten worse during Covid.

 

[astr4]

what is infuriating to me is why insist on reproducing when you're emotionally immature? when you don't have the capacity to love your child unconditionally? used to bring home straight As and get asked why they weren't A+'s. got compared to other people's kids all the time, "why aren't you smart like x, look at y she's so pretty." my mom used to complain that my nose was too flat (asian) and "why did you get your dad's ugly nose!" and then when i was a teenager she told me she got a nose job in her 20s!!! and she was giving me shit for my nose the whole time??? people like this just shouldn't reproduce. garbage.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

I feel very conflicted towards them. On the one hand I had very good parents so I know I was lucky, but I cannot get it out of my head that having children is such an evil thing to do. Why would you inflict even a minutes pain on your child, why? You don't get a pass because you didn't do it intentionally, you know life is painful and death is a certainty so every parent is responsible for every bad thing that happens to their child in life imo.

 

[tbh2023]

what is infuriating to me is why insist on reproducing when you're emotionally immature? when you don't have the capacity to love your child unconditionally? used to bring home straight As and get asked why they weren't A+'s. got compared to other people's kids all the time, "why aren't you smart like x, look at y she's so pretty." my mom used to complain that my nose was too flat (asian) and "why did you get your dad's ugly nose!" and then when i was a teenager she told me she got a nose job in her 20s!!! and she was giving me shit for my nose the whole time??? people like this just shouldn't reproduce. garbage.

I'm against having children in general to this toxic society. People are getting killed every minute so why bring someone to suffer. We have daily murder suicide in America.

 

[identity0]

I hate them. They want you to take care of them when they're old. They just want to take advantage of you. They only think of themselves.

Mine said that directly, that even i should have children so i have someone to take care of me when im old. Horrible. It's like a pyramid scheme. The fractal expands to the big picture by manifesting the incoming population demographic catastrophe with healthcare and pensions in western countries with low birth rates

 

[tbh2023]

Mine said that directly, that even i should have children so i have someone to take care of me when im old. Horrible. It's like a pyramid scheme. The fractal expands to the big picture by manifesting the incoming population demographic catastrophe with healthcare and pensions in western countries with low birth rates

Can't agree more!