Do you even want to be memorialized/remembered after you CTB?

[Ariii]

I don't, ideally every evidence of my existence would be erased but that's obviously not realistic. Even when I was a child, I never even wanted to be perceived; I see any potential attempt as remembering/honoring me as an extension of being perceived. Simply put, I don't want people to know I exist or have existed.

Adding onto that, whenever, especially online, I see people commemorating people who have CTB, it just feels selfish to me. I get that people do it to cope with death, but I doubt that there are many people who wanted their suicide and other issues to be blasted online for strangers to see. And so often, it's to advocate for the total prevention of suicide in any cases and for the horrid mental health system that very often doesn't work. It feels like people who have never been suicidal trying to push their ideals by using the death of someone who very likely didn't agree with said ideals. Of course, I'm assuming quite a lot, but I do feel like I'm at least partly justified to think this

 

[Melly]

It doesn't really matter to me. Unless we get super advanced technology one day that can calculate everything that has ever happened with pinpoint accuracy, we will all be forgotten, and all records of our existence will be gone. Eternity is a long time compared to our human scale and perception of life; zoom out a little from your own perspective and everyone who's ever known you will practically be gone in the blink of an eye too.

 

[Randy Savage]

No. Remembering me would be pretty pointless, I don't really have anything in my life

I definitely agree with you that some suicide memorials seem selfish. I've heard parents of people who CTB say horrible things about them. At the same time though, not everyone is like this, and (obviously) a suicide can have a pretty big impact on a lot of people. there should always be a place for those affected to share their thoughts regardless of if we personally disagree

I wish people would stop using suicide as a talking point to shame suicidal people

 

[divinemistress36]

No, and I dont want random people I barely knew memoralizing me which seems to happen so often

 

[sancta-simplicitas]

I really don't want to be remembered. Living while knowing that people remember me is awful. Trying to comfort myself with that most people are so self-obsessed that they probably don't give me much thought at all.

 

[abchia]

I don't think I care if I'm remembered or not. I just want to be cremated so my body isn't melting laying somewhere.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I guess I do in a way. I've spent so much of my life remembering lost loved ones. Mostly happy memories. I guess I'd like people to remember the happier times we had together.

Still- if I knew the bulk of what they experience would be sadness, it would be better if it was like I hadn't existed. But, like you say, that's impossible.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

No, I have no desire to be remembered. I also can't relate to those who want to be remembered

 

[Soupster]

I'm quite neutral about it. If people feel the need to do something to remember me, I hope they opt for a wake.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

It doesn't really matter to me. Unless we get super advanced technology one day that can calculate everything that has ever happened with pinpoint accuracy, we will all be forgotten, and all records of our existence will be gone. Eternity is a long time compared to our human scale and perception of life; zoom out a little from your own perspective and everyone who's ever known you will practically be gone in the blink of an eye too.

I agree . In 130 years every human alive now will be dead and forgotten. 130 years is a blink of an eye . In a thousand years definitely which is also blink of an eye.

How fast did 5 Years pass by , 10 years? Can u tell a difference between 2019 and 2014 " that was 5 years longer" . No it's All the same . This is more apparent to older people how the decades fly by.

Can u remember every time you went to a store last year 2023 and what the people were wearing and the time order of those visits . No. All is forgotten .

However I don't want to suffer extreme pain so I'll kill myself to skip over extreme pain and reach non-existence forever

 

[uglyugly]

Nah. No one really knows me in life (except me dad, who really could go any time) so why should they bother wasting time to pretend to care I'm dead? Waste of money and time.

I wish people would stop using suicide as a talking point to shame suicidal people

100%. Absolutely. To take it a step farther, I wish they would leave me the hell alone. It's my life and my choice.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

No, not at all. I'm a failure and I suffer bc of a big failure in life. Nobody should remember that.

 

[Hoga]

No, because I'm ugly and inferior, I went in a vocational school in a sector of studies for dummies.

 

[nihilistic_dragon]

Hell no.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, never, I just wish to be forgotten about like I never suffered in this cruel, torturous existence at all, if it's up to me I'd choose to permanently erase my existence. In my case I find it comforting to think of this existence being completely forgotten about, I don't wish to remember anything about this existence that just brought me pain and caused me to suffer, rather I just wish to forget, all I wish for is peace and all I hope for is to never exist again.

 

[kyhoti]

Nope. That's the whole point of CTB for me, to be removed from the record sooner. I could just wait for my health problems to waste me away, which would suck.

 

[Moniker]

No, I don't think there's much to be gained out of it. Sometimes I consider faking my death to get a view into what things would be like if I died.

 

[Plentiful_Despair]

I don't really care.

 

[deathtakeme]

This question makes me think there's something I need to leave behind. As for being remembered I don't care much about that.

 

[Rained]

No, just no.

 

[inevitablesomewhere]

I am a lot more neutral about it as I get older. IDK, It's about everyone else's feelings once I'm gone, so meh. People can do and express themselves however, I won't see it.

 

[Eole2.0]

No but internet Never forget everyone of us..

 

[vinlander]

i'll not be there to care about it, it's kinda hard to erase completely all signs that my being was once alive because the internet is a thing so it doesn't really matter.
If they don't let me rot in peace wherever the place i chose to ctb i want them to cremate me and feed me to the first tree i ever planted.

 

[divinemistress36]

I agree . In 130 years every human alive now will be dead and forgotten. 130 years is a blink of an eye . In a thousand years definitely which is also blink of an eye.

How fast did 5 Years pass by , 10 years? Can u tell a difference between 2019 and 2014 " that was 5 years longer" . No it's All the same . This is more apparent to older people how the decades fly by.

Can u remember every time you went to a store last year 2023 and what the people were wearing and the time order of those visits . No. All is forgotten .

However I don't want to suffer extreme pain so I'll kill myself to skip over extreme pain and reach non-existence forever

You are right nothing has changed in 5 years

 

[AmberianDawn]

No, I don't want to be remembered. They should use me as fertilizer for nature, instead of crying over my corpse.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

No because I can imagine the embarrassment and awkwardness of how few people would be there

 

[CatLvr]

Nope. I don't understand people who "don't want to be forgotten". It's weird to me. Can't wrap my brain around it.

 

[huntermellow]

i hate being perceived but i just want to be missed and remembered in a good way. if i can't be loved in life i at least want to be loved in death

 

[Don’tfallin]

You mean one last chance to be rejected

 

[OutOfThisBody]

Nope. Some people are duds and don't fit in with society and it's best not to remember them. I'm mean and my views are completely different from almost all of the human race. So it would be a waste of time to remember me.