Venting "Did you have a nice Christmas?" :(

[Sister of the Moon]

I'm not sure if it's a uniquely British thing, but it's something that's pretty much set in stone here. To ask someone in the days following Christmas, the same scripted line - "did you have a nice Christmas?"
Followed by general chit-chat, then "if I don't see you before, have a Happy New Year!"

I had to go out for supplies today, and therefore had to do the scripted thing with everyone who recognised me in my hat and mask.
Them: "did you have a nice Christmas?"
Me: "ahhh yeah, quiet, you know, but good thanks. You?"

The honest answer for me would be "no actually I didn't. I spent the whole day in the foetal position bawling my eyes out and wishing I was dead."
But nobody wants to hear that do they?

 

[LONE WOLF.]

@Sad Eyes Again, l'm sending You a Virtual Hug and my Doggy sends You a friendly wuff

 

[Sister of the Moon]

@Sad Eyes Again, l'm sending You a Virtual Hug and my Doggy sends You a friendly wuff

Thank you <3

 

[TheHatedOne]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear you had an awful Christmas day. I think it would be helpful to minimize or just avoid conversation with strangers because not only is their small talking annoying, but it can also be hurtful for those who might suffer but keep it secret.

Sending hugs.

 

[thisplaceisaprison]

It's probably common in most places that a majority celebrate Christmas. Definitely in the states. "Well, I had a BAC of .58 and ended up in the ICU on the 22nd and incubated because I didn't make it back inside my apartment and a neighbor ended up seeing me on my balcony after I was smoking a cigarette. How was yours?!"

 

[Sister of the Moon]

It's probably common in most places that a majority celebrate Christmas. Definitely in the states. "Well, I had a BAC of .58 and ended up in the ICU on the 22nd and incubated because I didn't make it back inside my apartment and a neighbor ended up seeing me on my balcony after I was smoking a cigarette. How was yours?!"

I love to imagine the look on their faces if we said the honest answers. They wouldn't speak to us again. They'd avoid us.

 

[thisplaceisaprison]

I love to imagine the look on their faces if we said the honest answers. They wouldn't speak to us again. They'd avoid us.

Even in an AA meeting I went to yesterday, I'm like yeah, I feel like these people may not drink quite like I drink granted the speaker said he was about to shoot himself and then had a beer and changed his mind then that's when he got sober.
Or rather for the reasons instead of the quantity.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Thank you <3

You're most welcome :-)

 

[Ligottian]

Had an extended family get together. They are actually good people, but they are almost all shiny happy extroverted normies on steroids that I have zero in common with. My cousin's daughter and her husband were there. Found out their nine month old is deaf in one ear. I felt totally exhausted when I left.

 

[E_Berwick]

I'm not sure if it's a uniquely British thing, but it's something that's pretty much set in stone here. To ask someone in the days following Christmas, the same scripted line - "did you have a nice Christmas?"
Followed by general chit-chat, then "if I don't see you before, have a Happy New Year!"

I had to go out for supplies today, and therefore had to do the scripted thing with everyone who recognised me in my hat and mask.
Them: "did you have a nice Christmas?"
Me: "ahhh yeah, quiet, you know, but good thanks. You?"

The honest answer for me would be "no actually I didn't. I spent the whole day in the foetal position bawling my eyes out and wishing I was dead."
But nobody wants to hear that do they?

Honestly, I sometimes feel like taking the gloves off on these people and telling them exactly how your Christmas really was.

Of course they don't want to hear that. We're protecting them from a harsh reality that they don't want to be exposed to. Which is stupid since there's no guarantee that life for everyone or anyone is going to be great or shitty. And yet we're not supposed to talk about the shitty, ever.

It's like they have some assumed safe space that we aren't allowed to invade by sharing reality with them. So we go along with it and entertain them by lying to them about our situation, because it would otherwise make them feel bad or something. Like they're children that need to be protected.

Sorry for the rant, I just lost my cat and I'm going through a bunch of emotions right now.

 

[Crazy4u]

I am sorry to heat about your christmas. I had a bad one too. The only good thing is that 2021 is almost over. Worst year of my life

 

[Sister of the Moon]

Honestly, I sometimes feel like taking the gloves off on these people and telling them exactly how your Christmas really was.

Of course they don't want to hear that. We're protecting them from a harsh reality that they don't want to be exposed to. Which is stupid since there's no guarantee that life for everyone or anyone is going to be great or shitty. And yet we're not supposed to talk about the shitty, ever.

It's like they have some assumed safe space that we aren't allowed to invade by sharing reality with them. So we go along with it and entertain them by lying to them about our situation, because it would otherwise make them feel bad or something. Like they're children that need to be protected.

Sorry for the rant, I just lost my cat and I'm going through a bunch of emotions right now.

Sorry about your cat. I agree with your other points too. It's so sickening having to do the scripted thing. It just bugs me.
By the way, my cat brought me a lovely present on Christmas Eve. My beautiful robin redbreast that had been visiting me every day. I was sobbing :(
May your cat be happy over the rainbow bridge. I hope the pain eases for you.

I am sorry to heat about your christmas. I had a bad one too. The only good thing is that 2021 is almost over. Worst year of my life

I echo that. Never had such a shitty year, and never want to again. May we all have a better 2022.

 

[S like suicide]

No and the new year's eve will be even worse

 

[Messgram]

No, i dont even know whats a nice day anymore.
My vacation are being horrible. I worked for months at a hellish, despicable job, so when I'm finally free, I'm still agonizing with boredom, depression, and anxiety.
I'll soon have to go back to work... to suffer again and again and again.
What's the point of living like this? I'm an idiot to be alive because the only smart decision to make would be to end my life and I'm incapable of doing that.

 

[Bleak]

It's like in America the standard greeting is "How are YOU????" I guess it's fitting for such a phony and insincere society to deliberately ask people to lie to you.

 

[little helpers]

It's probably common in most places that a majority celebrate Christmas. Definitely in the states. "Well, I had a BAC of .58 and ended up in the ICU on the 22nd and incubated because I didn't make it back inside my apartment and a neighbor ended up seeing me on my balcony after I was smoking a cigarette. How was yours?!"

"well, spent the last one locked up in psych prison and did a romantic-as-fuck card dedicated to shrink becuz I planned to marry, murder, then inherit his wealth and this year my folks ended up seeing the bruises on my neck after I came up with the worst plan, aka. dying 'round Christmas through partial and I'm now smoking a cigarette. how was *your* cigarette?"

**to the feds reading this, I plead guilty to all of the above EXCEPT conspiring to murder shrink**

how smart must I be to be able to do *that*?! I need some wit on loan. don't charge me too much cuz you wanna do that too, don't ya? /s

It's like in America the standard greeting is "How are YOU????"

are you from the States?? I don't think we do none of that shit. lol.
but it's phony. oh yes. and nosy too.

 

[bakednborderline]

i had an awful christmas too. isolated with covid. perfect timing to miss christmas and the new year. im sorry you're having a rough time. no one has asked how i am. no merry christmas texts except from my mom. why am i still here

 

[DyingIsMyChoice]

I'm not sure if it's a uniquely British thing, but it's something that's pretty much set in stone here. To ask someone in the days following Christmas, the same scripted line - "did you have a nice Christmas?"
Followed by general chit-chat, then "if I don't see you before, have a Happy New Year!"

I had to go out for supplies today, and therefore had to do the scripted thing with everyone who recognised me in my hat and mask.
Them: "did you have a nice Christmas?"
Me: "ahhh yeah, quiet, you know, but good thanks. You?"

The honest answer for me would be "no actually I didn't. I spent the whole day in the foetal position bawling my eyes out and wishing I was dead."
But nobody wants to hear that do they?

Yep, I certainly get that. Maybe I'll give the honest answer next time, and see what happens…other Brits would probably find it's funny and that I'm being sarcastic.

No and the new year's eve will be even worse

I bloody hate NYE, and the fake 'happy new year' message that drags on for a minimum of 6 weeks

 

[eternalpeace]

My mother asked me, after a holiday gathering, "aren't you glad you're still alive"? I just stared at her and said "no". She said "ok...I wont ask again".

 

[Kennish]

No I did not. I hate my life. And everything about myself. It's exhausting. Psychical pain and mentally

 

[FuneralCry]

Christmas was just another day of suffering for me, the same as all the other days of the year. I want no more days or years. People can be very annoying, especially overly positive people. I would rather just keep my distance from others. I wish you the best.