Did v089 catch the bus? :(

[Sakura.]

v089 self-banned themselves, right..?

They don't show up on the registered users list, I can't tag them (@v089) in a post or in the search bar...

I had them on my follower list, but now I only see "Unfollow" option on their profile, previously it was also "Ignore" (they had their ability to send messages disabled).

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Does anyone here know them or is friends with them?

Does anyone have any contact with them?

Does anyone know if they're alive, what's going on with them?

Does anyone know if they did it..?

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I suspected how bad their mental state might be, that they might do it...

I wanted to write to them, I wanted to offer them friendship, try to support them, but I kept putting it off...

When I finally got the possibility to do it, when I finally meant to do it, I don't have the chance anymore?

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I always try to help all the people I can become close friends with, that is, who are from my country and who are my peers...

I always want to improve their situation as much as I can. I want to make them feel better, to make their suffering stop a little, so that maybe they don't have to decide to take such a step...

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Is this another person I've been too late to?

Have I failed to help someone, who did I really have the chance to help?

Again..?

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I failed again.

I let someone down again.

I could have made someone's situation better again, but I didn't manage to do it.

Either that person will remain alone in their suffering and I won't be able to help them anymore, or because of my indolence and lack of reaction they killed themselves...

I hate myself for it...

Why do I always have to fuck everything up?

 

[Hvergelmir]

Is this another person I've been too late to? [...] I hate myself for it...

I see where you're coming from, and I get that it's tough. At the same time it doesn't make sense to blame yourself for people on a suicide forum disappearing.
Some leave by choice, because they no longer see SS as beneficial or desirable. Some get sectioned, and yet other choose to catch the bus. It is what it is, but it's not something you reasonably can take responsibility for.

I hope your friend shows up, but I also want to remind you of where you are. Expect that it will be mentally taxing if you befriend suicidal people, and under no circumstances blame yourself for their fate. You seem like a good influence. Outcomes will vary, and you've chosen a difficult place to form stable, long-term friendships.

 

[iamanavalanche]

v as far as i know is okay. saw them on dc a few days ago

 

[iamanavalanche]

v as far as i know is okay. saw them on dc a few days ago

"you can tell them I'm alive and deleted my account because I'm trying to recover" and you can dm me for their dc ^^

 

[Sakura.]

"you can tell them I'm alive and deleted my account because I'm trying to recover" and you can dm me for their dc ^^

Oh my god, I love you so much Avalanche!

Thank you so much for responding to my thread and reaching out to them. I will appreciate it forever!

I'm so glad it's a case like this! That they're alive, that they didn't have to resort to suicide, that they're trying to get better...


Yes - if you could send me their Discord, I'd appreciate it so much!

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I see where you're coming from, and I get that it's tough. At the same time it doesn't make sense to blame yourself for people on a suicide forum disappearing.
Some leave by choice, because they no longer see SS as beneficial or desirable. Some get sectioned, and yet other choose to catch the bus. It is what it is, but it's not something you reasonably can take responsibility for.

I hope your friend shows up, but I also want to remind you of where you are. Expect that it will be mentally taxing if you befriend suicidal people, and under no circumstances blame yourself for their fate. You seem like a good influence. Outcomes will vary, and you've chosen a difficult place to form stable, long-term friendships.

Thank you for your answer!


I realize where I am, and I want to make friends with others even more because of it.


I absolutely do not want to "save" anyone from a suicide attempt, like pro-lifers do. However, I do not want to be indifferent to anyone's suffering. I don't want to be passive and just wait for someone to commit suicide...


When I see a real possibility to become close friends with someone, to have a real impact on someone's life, I want to at least try...


I realize that I will not turn someone's situation around 180 degrees, that I will not solve most of their problems. But I want to at least partially reduce someone's suffering...


I do not want a situation where someone's condition could have at least partially changed thanks to my support, when someone's life could have at least partially improved, when someone's existence could have become at least a little acceptable, and yet that person commits suicide because they did NOT receive the support they needed from me...


There aren't that many people I can really be close friends with - from my country and my age, whose lives I can have a real impact on.


So I want to support literally everyone who needs it...

I want to at least give everyone a chance...

I want to at least try to help them...

 

[Hvergelmir]

So I want to support literally everyone who needs it...

When I said that you seemed like a good influence, I meant it. Stay strong, and don't judge yourself too harshly.
If you're doing the right thing, there's not reason for self-hate.

I'm glad that your friend seem to be doing well.