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Toptock
Experienced
- Jun 6, 2020
- 292
I recently tried opening up to dating again. It's been a while.
I used to see myself with people, able to picture myself going out of the way for them to make them happy. However, I don't see that anymore. Call me a nice guy if you want, it's ok, but I only see the potential failures. I'm not a gym guy, nor do I have a wealth of knowledge to draw from to be charming. Being myself results in me sticking to my small dark space, reading until i sleep, or smoking until I forget my name. I know, everyone feels like this. I only see them pushing me away for being too affectionate, or not having ambitions. I only see them leaving me for someone who provides that 1 thing they're looking for.
That's absolutely ok too, I'm self-aware enough to understand that you aren't entitled to a relationship just for "being." I know it's the entitled side of me, but I always wanted to be someone worth fighting for. I understand that perspective is a bit twisted since I'm barely self-sufficient as is, and thus not really worth supporting.
How can someone be comfortable being alone? I try not to think about it, and I try to occupy my time, but even when operating on auto-pilot performing tasks, my mind will always sink back to that thought. How can I stop that?
I used to see myself with people, able to picture myself going out of the way for them to make them happy. However, I don't see that anymore. Call me a nice guy if you want, it's ok, but I only see the potential failures. I'm not a gym guy, nor do I have a wealth of knowledge to draw from to be charming. Being myself results in me sticking to my small dark space, reading until i sleep, or smoking until I forget my name. I know, everyone feels like this. I only see them pushing me away for being too affectionate, or not having ambitions. I only see them leaving me for someone who provides that 1 thing they're looking for.
That's absolutely ok too, I'm self-aware enough to understand that you aren't entitled to a relationship just for "being." I know it's the entitled side of me, but I always wanted to be someone worth fighting for. I understand that perspective is a bit twisted since I'm barely self-sufficient as is, and thus not really worth supporting.
How can someone be comfortable being alone? I try not to think about it, and I try to occupy my time, but even when operating on auto-pilot performing tasks, my mind will always sink back to that thought. How can I stop that?
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