Help Dating app

[Raichu]

So I matched with a girl on a dating app. We talked for a while and she shared some provocative pictures. So I asked what if I fall in love with you? She said no that won't be and I would be uncomfortable with that. So I said sarcastically so you are okay with casual sex then! She reacted strongly and I apologised n number of times! And she's telling me I triggered her! So I suggested let's bid goodbyes so we don't fall into awkward situations again. What should I do?

 

[lkjhgfdsa1]

Move on to another girl lol

 

[Raichu]

She isn't replying wtf.... I am hella afraid what she would do

 

[lkjhgfdsa1]

She isn't replying wtf.... I am hella afraid what she would do

Ofc she is not going to reply anymore lmao

 

[Raichu]

So is there no need to worry?

 

[lkjhgfdsa1]

Worry for what?

 

[Raichu]

What if she does anything irrational like kill herself or am I overthinkinh

 

[lkjhgfdsa1]

What if she does anything irrational like kill herself or am I overthinkinh

nah I don't think you have anything to worry about
You did well by saying to bid goodbyes I think

 

[divinemistress36]

This would be better moved to off topic forum not suicide forum

 

[Fantasy22]

the majority of people don't turn to ctb the second things turn wrong, besides the interaction probably is more embarrassing for you then it is for her, I have no way of knowing but the way you describe sounds like she's be fine. Just keep swiping and hopefully you'll match with someone else's. I'd say be more carefully with your words but some people like the risky texts it really depends on the person and their vibe

What if she does anything irrational like kill herself or am I overthinkinh

 

[Raichu]

I hope she doesn't bdo anything bad

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm just wondering what else you could have done differently. I wish I had some advice for you but I would genuinely have no idea what to say either.

 

[derpyderpins]

I'm just wondering what else you could have done differently. I wish I had some advice for you but I would genuinely have no idea what to say either.

Don't bring up falling in love when you've only sent electronic messages to that point. Unfortunately after that you can't make up for it because she has a long list of guys waiting while for him she was his soul focus.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

People will ghost for anything now, and who the hell will get everything right anyway? PUA stuff is a waste of time because it's disingenuous and leads to a slippery slope of endless game-playing, while being real is usually too real for the person being chased.

It sucks that this happened, it sounds like it was just too much for her too early on. So definitely avoid confrontational things like love and sex too soon in the future. In any case, in this particular instance you're probably screwed and it would be best to move on quickly I think.

 

[ham and potatoes]

What if she does anything irrational like kill herself or am I overthinkinh

Dude, you asked her if she was cool with casual sex.
Why the hell would she kill herself over that?
If she's on a dating app, I guarantee she gets way worse messages than that every day
Plus... casual sex is kinda goes with the whole 'dating app' thing, so asking is she's cool with it isn't even that odd of a thing for someone to do

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Don't bring up falling in love when you've only sent electronic messages to that point. Unfortunately after that you can't make up for it because she has a long list of guys waiting while for him she was his soul focus.

How does one actually find someone on a dating app who actually wants to date then?

 

[derpyderpins]

How does one actually find someone on a dating app who actually wants to date then?

In my experience, it's almost impossible. 700 or so rejections before a date.

 

[BrokeN__lil’__girl]

How does one actually find someone on a dating app who actually wants to date then?

I wasn't able to find anyone decent for sex….. I'll die an old virgin. Yay me….

 

[Raichu]

She texted me pray that I die. Hopefully I won't wake up and things like these
Oh she blocked me anyway!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I wasn't able to find anyone decent for sex….. I'll die an old virgin. Yay me….

Same here.

 

[Raichu]

Did I do a wrong thing by asking if she was ok with casual sex?

 

[BrokeN__lil’__girl]

Same here.

How pathetic are we?:):) I'm kidding;)) you're not I know I am

 

[Hvergelmir]

Did I do a wrong thing by asking if she was ok with casual sex?

That depends on her really, considering provocative pictures and all.

To me it sounds like you expressed interest in a serious relationship (love).
When she wasn't interested in that, you settled for the prospect of a sexual one.

Perfectly rational, but it can easily be perceived as you using the pretense of love in pursuit of sex. Not an attractive offer.
You've done no harm though, and I would expect women on dating apps to encounter much worse!

I think you did make a mistake in communication, which we've all done in various ways. Learn what you can from it, but don't put too much weight on it.

 

[Spectre]

Dating apps aren't serious dawg. You need to find another person.

 

[ham and potatoes]

She texted me pray that I die. Hopefully I won't wake up and things like these
Oh she blocked me anyway!

Sounds like you dodged a bullet

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

How pathetic are we?:):) I'm kidding;)) you're not I know I am

No, I'm certainly rather pathetic myself.

Did I do a wrong thing by asking if she was ok with casual sex?

Maybe it was the wrong thing for her but unfortunately for the next girl it might have to be exactly the thing to say. You'll never know until you step blindly into the cave.

 

[BrokeN__lil’__girl]

I know i must be the worst example bc clearly there's a lot of things that are rong with me, but I tried my hardest to find any meaningful connection online. I failed miserably. When it comes to men, they all definately made it worse for me. they made sure i knew I had no worth. No matter how nice and kind I tried to be, in their eyes I had no value. I was able to form only one meaningful connection with a girl I had met here. My takeaway is that you have to be maybe a saint or something, mentally healthy, the kindest, sweetest, selfless person in the world to be able to find anything meaningful online these days..... well good luck to you regardless!! and try not to sress out too much over this situation!!

No, I'm certainly rather pathetic myself.

don't be so hard on yourself. we are our worst enemies.....

 

[ham and potatoes]

I tried my hardest to find any meaningful connection online. I failed miserably

its just a numbers game. not going to catch a monster fish on your first cast.
same with sites like tinder. not going to meet someone great right off the bat

 

[BrokeN__lil’__girl]

its just a numbers game. not going to catch a monster fish on your first cast.
same with sites like tinder. not going to meet someone great right off the bat

I spent 3 years on this
I've met dozens of men.
I guess it should've been 30 years

 

[ham and potatoes]

I spent 3 years on this
I've met dozens of men.
I guess it should've been 30 years

That's surprising. Im by no means a good looking guy, and am pretty awkward, but even I've had luck meeting people.
Kinda figured if my goofy ass could do it, anyone could