Discussion Cutting the remaining acquaintances out my life

[madbananas]

Has anyone done this? I'm in the middle of doing this. Not out of hate for them, just because they only message me out of pity to check I'm still alive basically. I don't think I've been on social media apart from YouTube for about a month now but I can see the notifications come in along with the odd message (like two of them). I feel bad for not answering the messages but they don't get me. They are nice, but it's like talking to a brick wall.

 

[Meowkin]

It sounds like you don't want interaction with that set of contacts and something other than hatred is making you pull away. Whether it's because you can't relate to them anymore, it's all fine. I do think you need to tune out the noise at times and if that's how you do it, then it's fine.

 

[NekoNomNom]

...just because they only message me out of pity to check I'm still alive basically...I feel bad for not answering the messages but they don't get me. They are nice, but it's like talking to a brick wall.

I feel this. Then when I respond, they reply with, "oh good. I'm glad you're still here."

Thanks? But you know that I'm not, yet you still say that to me? I understand that they feel like they're being helpful, or "nice," but that doesn't make me feel better. At all.

 

[WoodyOak]

I`ve severely limited those in my life who I feel I`ve given too much of myself to.
When I was depressed, they all treated me differently. Fuck em`!
I get it, when I was really down, no one wanted to be around me. I get it.
No one was trying to help me either though.
I only keep a very small group of friends, about 2 best friends and those who I thought were my friends are just acquaintances now.

 

[Meowkin]

I`ve severely limited those in my life who I feel I`ve given too much of myself to.
When I was depressed, they all treated me differently. Fuck em`!
I get it, when I was really down, no one wanted to be around me. I get it.
No one was trying to help me either though.
I only keep a very small group of friends, about 2 best friends and those who I thought were my friends are just acquaintances now.

Same here.

 

[madbananas]

Thanks everyone for responding.
It definitely has gotten to the point where I need to tune out of all the bs. I'm tired of giving most of the time and not getting the equal give and take of friendships. So I'm not giving or taking at the moment haha. The people who are contacting me have never really been my friends and only are checking up on me (which is nice) because of my recent attempt to ctb. I know now as things are improving (at the moment) that they will likely disappear anyway. I'm playing my cards very close to my chest after a recent situation because of the backstabbers. No one was helping me when I was simply "depressed", only after the point I tried to ctb.

 

[Covidblows]

Friends falling short is part of what took the bloom off the rose for me.
Back when I was not depressed I was betrayed and I cut out every last one. Got off social media.
I liken it to when an animal knows they are dying and they pull away and go off alone. Which is why I haven't pursued any new friendships.
I also have a super stressful life right now, having to deal with any kind of bs from people might do me in.

 

[NYC89]

I have no interest in speaking to anyone anymore. It's almost as if cutting them off is nothing because the people really have nothing to say. Life is so mundane and pointless, especially with the multiverse and other dimensions playing around with 3D. I guess 3D life doesn't matter.

 

[madbananas]

Thank you @Covidblows and @NYC89
You both confirm how I'm feeling. Thankfully we have this forum.
definitely I don't feel like I'm really cutting off anything because it was all fake in the first place. And absolutely, friends falling short has been crucial for me too.
I almost feel like so-called friends are just an illusion. People who don't know what it's like to experience the pain I, and others like yourselves, just contact me to make themselves look better if I did eventually ctb. I mean, hey, least they contacted right? Everything is bs. People are bs unless they have been there. Otherwise they are living in a luxurious "normal" life.

 

[Covidblows]

Thank you @Covidblows and @NYC89
You both confirm how I'm feeling. Thankfully we have this forum.
definitely I don't feel like I'm really cutting off anything because it was all fake in the first place. And absolutely, friends falling short has been crucial for me too.
I almost feel like so-called friends are just an illusion. People who don't know what it's like to experience the pain I, and others like yourselves, just contact me to make themselves look better if I did eventually ctb. I mean, hey, least they contacted right? Everything is bs. People are bs unless they have been there. Otherwise they are living in a luxurious "normal" life.

Perfectly said :)
I see more care and love in this group (I've been lurking about a month) then I have seen in a long,long time.
The last five years have had so many downs, no one would believe it. Through that I have had zero help from old friends and family. My faith in humanity has been crushed. It's so pleasantly surprising when I see a true act of kindness, that doesn't give personal gain or bragging rights. People imho are a different caliber these days....

 

[madbananas]

Perfectly said :)
I see more care and love in this group (I've been lurking about a month) then I have seen in a long,long time.
The last five years have had so many downs, no one would believe it. Through that I have had zero help from old friends and family. My faith in humanity has been crushed. It's so pleasantly surprising when I see a true act of kindness, that doesn't give personal gain or bragging rights. People imho are a different caliber these days....

I deal a failure right now. I'm very drunk. My faith in humanity has also been crushed. Sorry for being a rubbish response

 

[ssaaahmo]

Has anyone done this? I'm in the middle of doing this. Not out of hate for them, just because they only message me out of pity to check I'm still alive basically. I don't think I've been on social media apart from YouTube for about a month now but I can see the notifications come in along with the odd message (like two of them). I feel bad for not answering the messages but they don't get me. They are nice, but it's like talking to a brick wall.

I've had this happen before because I'm terrified of letting people in but other people have ghosted me also

 

[Covidblows]

I deal a failure right now. I'm very drunk. My faith in humanity has also been crushed. Sorry for being a rubbish response

You're opinion isn't rubbish and it's a running theme :)
I wish the world would understand that at a sensitive time in someone's life, you can make or break their day. You get tough and most of it rubs off but in those wee hours of the morning, some of the shit sticks.

 

[Lorntroubles]

I have to clear all the noise, mental clutter, and stress that can go with keeping friends. Ffs it's my time to shine now and plan my CTB accordingly. Lonely road, but focused road.