My other option was hotel room but I also don't want to traumatize a random hotel employee. I don't want to do it to my dad or family either
Are the feelings of a stranger more important than those of your family members?
that may seem like a callous and hard question to answer and I don't mean it like that, but it's important that you think about the pros and cons of doing it in your house vs a hotel. and the fact that in reality, finding a body is infinitely more traumatizing for a family member who has known you for many years or even your entire life, than to someone who probably doesn't even know your name.
I'm doing it in a hotel mainly because of that reason, I can't even imagine what it would be like to be the one who finds the corpse of a beloved family member, people tend to relive those traumatic memories over and over.
And hotels don't have to tell you if someone killed themselves in one of their rooms, but some people will dig for that information if they are looking to rent a place.