Water-Lily
Enlightened
- Dec 26, 2020
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When people talk about ways they cope with their issues, it's usually focused on the perspective of those coping with trauma
The victims will cope through various ways. This can be sex, drugs, and relationships. It can be sleep, work, food, etc. Ways to cope with the trauma they faced as a form of avoidance
But another coping mechanism that isn't focused on is what abusers and narcisssits use. Abuse
Abusers and narcissists thrive when they have a victim/victims they get their narcissistic supply from. They seem happy on the outside and like everything is fine. But it's likely because they are coping through dominating someone. Their own child, spouse, friend, etc
Take their victim away, and you see how fast they spiral
People are so quick to shame victims for how they choose to cope. But ignore the blind eye to how narcissists cope, which is through harming others
Their coping mechanism is rooted in the destruction of those around them. And to cope with inner pain in such a way is sick
The narcissist is trapped in their own desire for power. The believe that by harming those "responsible" for their misery, that they will be happy. But the narcissist doesnt realize that, even if everything around them worked the way they wanted, they still wouldnt be satisfied. They'd still be empty, searching something to fill the void inside of them
The victims will cope through various ways. This can be sex, drugs, and relationships. It can be sleep, work, food, etc. Ways to cope with the trauma they faced as a form of avoidance
But another coping mechanism that isn't focused on is what abusers and narcisssits use. Abuse
Abusers and narcissists thrive when they have a victim/victims they get their narcissistic supply from. They seem happy on the outside and like everything is fine. But it's likely because they are coping through dominating someone. Their own child, spouse, friend, etc
Take their victim away, and you see how fast they spiral
People are so quick to shame victims for how they choose to cope. But ignore the blind eye to how narcissists cope, which is through harming others
Their coping mechanism is rooted in the destruction of those around them. And to cope with inner pain in such a way is sick
The narcissist is trapped in their own desire for power. The believe that by harming those "responsible" for their misery, that they will be happy. But the narcissist doesnt realize that, even if everything around them worked the way they wanted, they still wouldnt be satisfied. They'd still be empty, searching something to fill the void inside of them
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