Communication as trade 😩

[Uk2023]

Communication feels like a constant trade - of nonsense.

I find it exhausting

I find it infuriating

I find people are constantly flipping a script

I genuinely don't get it

With nobody monitoring a lot of crap stuff is said (and done) and all I can do is be physically present but mental avoiding. I save myself but still find it a drain.

I don't know how to make it work for me

I don't share much as I have seen how people steal or add their stupid or negative influence - I find most people unsettling.

It's really got me down today.

 

[LoiteringClouds]

Hello @Uk2023,
People throw you cookie-cutter words.
But I believe true communications set you free.
They are mightier than swords.

I agree with you and I'm so sorry... Personally I don't want to join them.
If you are comfortable with could you talk what you really want to here

 

[kwho]

I don't know how to make it work for me

But do you have to make it work for you? Like do you crave communication at any cost, as a condition to your well-being or you just feel like you are supposed to want to communicate with people?

 

[Uk2023]

It is both:
I have to for a living - I am unemployed and trying a career change remotely and a job less team oriented for solitary work. They whole job application process is solely communication based until I catch a break.

I want to - to enjoy the small social circle I have (1 or 2 invited events each month - I push to attend 1) I was sociable a decade ago and a social butterfly. I was a mystery and welcomed.

I genuinely believe my solitary life is part of my suicidal feelings.

I have always found social groups too consuming - miss two beats and your left behind. I hoped friendships for years would be there after my withdrawal of many years but all friendly messages were ignored or the let's meet that never happened.

I don't want in with bad folk but I do think there is a way to tolerate and better yet 'make it work for me' and thrive again.

I need a job, social circle and partner in order to thrive in each. Starting out again is hard going

Hello @Uk2023,
People throw you cookie-cutter words.
But I believe true communications set you free.
They are mightier than swords.

I agree with you and I'm so sorry... Personally I don't want to join them.
If you are comfortable with could you talk what you really want to here

Thank you LT
As you both asked I will just post it here:

I'm also in need of home maintenance - you have reminded me! It's beyond my own diy ability now, getting quotes and the banter has got me down.

I understand it's a profit making exercise but I'm not IMPROVING my home, I'm trying to repair it to make it lovable (damp, leaks, old electrics) I'm not broke enough for easy to fin relief, I'm not wealthy enough to just hire anyone reputable tradesman.

The enthusiasm and marketing of 'friends of friends' has seen me turn down some ridiculous quotes, hear some BS and made me sad.

 

[LoiteringClouds]

As you both asked I will just post it here:

I'm also in need of home maintenance - you have reminded me! It's beyond my own diy ability now, getting quotes and the banter has got me down.

I understand it's a profit making exercise but I'm not IMPROVING my home, I'm trying to repair it to make it lovable (damp, leaks, old electrics) I'm not broke enough for easy to fin relief, I'm not wealthy enough to just hire anyone reputable tradesman.

The enthusiasm and marketing of 'friends of friends' has seen me turn down some ridiculous quotes, hear some BS and made me sad.

Thank you for telling us

I'm very bad at communicating each other at work. A job application is a pure torture for me, too.

I have several friends but I met all of them in a psychiatric clinic. Other friends ghosted me long ago. I tend to be able to communicate well with people with mental illness but I can't with "normal" people. I suspect they think I'm a boring person.

I don't have a partner and have no plan to looking for them.

For home maintenance, I'm sorry for your experience. I'm working as a phone receptionist at a company which provides home maintenance services, but I don't exchange banters because it's salespeople's job. Did they say something uncomfortable to you?

 

[Uk2023]

Thank you for telling us

I'm very bad at communicating each other at work. A job application is a pure torture for me, too.

I have several friends but I met all of them in a psychiatric clinic. Other friends ghosted me long ago. I tend to be able to communicate well with people with mental illness but I can't with "normal" people. I suspect they think I'm a boring person.

I don't have a partner and have no plan to looking for them.

For home maintenance, I'm sorry for your experience. I'm working as a phone receptionist at a company which provides home maintenance services, but I don't exchange banters because it's salespeople's job. Did they say something uncomfortable to you?

It's just the whole process that was uncomfortable… I asked for whole quote, they gave a quote and later said that didn't include them - I was baffled. I didn't like the approach, I asked a quote for everything (meaning to get the job done( they took me all round the houses by just quoting the materials.

I know they quote more than what the materials cost but I wasn't asking for any of that.

A company quote is a lot - it's there, it's where I looked first for an idea.

 

[LoiteringClouds]

It's just the whole process that was uncomfortable… I asked for whole quote, they gave a quote and later said that didn't include them - I was baffled. I didn't like the approach, I asked a quote for everything (meaning to get the job done( they took me all round the houses by just quoting the materials.

I know they quote more than what the materials cost but I wasn't asking for any of that.

A company quote is a lot - it's there, it's where I looked first for an idea.

It's so exhausting, especially when you barely have energy to exist. The company I work for usually gives a quote which shows the whole cost that the customer would pay, because user-friendliness is the key to success in Japan.

I'm sorry for what you're enduring - existing in this world is really hard. I wish your days would be less unbearable

 

[Uk2023]

It's so exhausting, especially when you barely have energy to exist. The company I work for usually gives a quote which shows the whole cost that the customer would pay, because user-friendliness is the key to success in Japan.

I'm sorry for what you're enduring - existing in this world is really hard. I wish your days would be less unbearable

Thank you