Coming out

[Dante]

Okay, so not the kind of coming out you may have anticipated. I want to talk about coming out to your family or friends about our own suicidal feelings and beliefs. If you have and their responses, if you haven't and why you feel like you can't and just generally how you personally feel about talking suicide and all things related to others outside of our group. Please don't over think it and if it causes any triggers I apologise in advance. Stay safe people

 

[WornOutLife]

Whenever I talk about suicide to my family, therapist and everybody except people on this forum, they just can't understand the fact that a human being's wish is to die.
They want to keep you alive no matter what so I feel as if they really love me but unfortunately, they will never understand how I feel because they don't understand what suicide really is.
I'm glad I found this website and can talk freely about CTB. I really enjoy it.

 

[Dante]

I told my parents after at least 16 long years of suffering in silence with depression and thoughts of self harm, when I was younger I attempted suicide twice via my wrists but failed. All of these pent up feelings of loneliness, depression, anxiety and rage and I never shared it with anyone. I sought help via my gp and that was about it. My recovery started about two years ago however after a huge relapse before Covid kicked in this year I wanted everything end. My choice was CO but other factors made me push forward, I sought additional medical help and nearly ended up in hospital but I thought it was time to share this with my parents. Well, my partner actually told them because I was just lost but I felt like they had a right to know. I blamed them for a lot of my mental instability and still do. I felt like they had to know what was silently killing me inside and how they had been so ignorant to it over the years, I needed them to know how far down the pit I was and that they didn't have the foggiest idea.
Anyway, I told them, they offered a little support and concern which lasted a few weeks and that was it. I just think this stigma around suicide and depression just can't be accepted or understand within the older generation, I am no means speaking for all by the way, so it just gets brushed underline the carpet. Anyway that's my feelings and story and I can't wait to read everyone else's views and opinions. I might post next week about the stigma behind suicide and what people don't actually understand. Love to you all

 

[Deleted member 19654]

I definitely can't talk to my parents about it. I don't know if they'll understand and I definitely don't want to stress them out any more that they already are.

I considered opening up about it to friends, so I tried to tell someone about it recently, but it was like she didn't care to be honest. Maybe it was because she didn't realise the extent of my depression but it's put me off trying to tell anyone else.

 

[WornOutLife]

I definitely can't talk to my parents about it. I don't know if they'll understand and I definitely don't want to stress them out any more that they already are.

I considered opening up about it to friends, so I tried to tell someone about it recently, but it was like she didn't care to be honest. Maybe it was because she didn't realise the extent of my depression but it's put me off trying to tell anyone else.

She's just like the people I talk to. Either they don't pay any attention to it or simply they can't grasp the idea of a person wanting to kill themselves.

 

[greebo6]

I always found it much much easier to talk to friends about suicide and any suicidal feelings of my own rather than family.
Its still the case.
Only difference is now I have just one friend whereas before there were more , but thankfully she will talk and listen about anything including depression and suicide.

 

[xLosthopex]

I've been telling my parents I'm gonna ctb for the past 10 years lmao and I've attempted many times, so it's not a big deal to them for me to open up about that stuff
Like not that they won't be devastated when I do actually do it but they probably won't be surprised
My therapist also knows about my plans to ctb soon also, but because I haven't given her specific details there's not a lot her or the rest of my psych team can do about it

 

[KClown]

My family would treat me like a joke. At best.

I am after all, a liability.

 

[Dante]

From a kind of devils advocate perspective, does anyone else feel like it's something we should talk about more to family and friends regardless of what they feel? We also have a right to feel and be open and honest about who we are.
I chose the topic heading because in some way it could be related. If I was to ask everyone should I talk to my parents and friends about being gay what would your response be?
How is it different from being open and honest about our feelings towards ctb after all our feelings are always valid regardless of what anyone tells you

 

[KClown]

From a kind of devils advocate perspective, does anyone else feel like it's something we should talk about more to family and friends regardless of what they feel? We also have a right to feel and be open and honest about who we are.
I chose the topic heading because in some way it could be related. If I was to ask everyone should I talk to my parents and friends about being gay what would your response be?
How is it different from being open and honest about our feelings towards ctb after all our feelings are always valid regardless of what anyone tells you

Why bother? They cant help anyway, in my case that is.
A waste of both sides' time and energy

 

[Dante]

When I spoke to people it had nothing to do with them or help from them it became more about understanding and accepting I guess that this thing was part of me, wasn't going away and accepting it I guess, making life a little more tolerable than it was before

 

[Spitfire]

The most important family member to me knows about my plan to suicide. I can talk openly to her about it anytime and she is supportive about it to me. It gets sadder for me over time though, because I am not looking forward to the last time we talk or see one another... I will be able to say goodbye to her in the way I want to in real life.

It is nice to have someone who understands enough about me and what I am going through to be able and talk about it in this way.

 

[sufferingalways]

Hi I have told my housemate about my suicidal thoughts. I haven't understood what his reaction is yet. He seems quiet, listening and he understands the stresses I am under because he is going through the same. I'm not sure how deeply he feels until we have a row, and then he tells me he's trying to keep his rage under control.