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dospi1

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Nov 18, 2021
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Heu guys, ive done a lot of effort in making friends the last years, and it worked out, ive found a hand full of good friends who i trust. Yet i still feel so lonley, all the time, i truly dont know anymore what triguers this feelings, i dont get it. Is there any clinical condition that can cause this feelings? I truly cant thing of anything else
 
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timf

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Mar 26, 2020
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It may be that your new friends fill an important but partial potion of your life. Many people have a need for the intimate connection that family is supposed to provide. Some have come to a point of disconnection from family that can leave a large need in a person.

Sometimes getting involved at a deeper personal level with someone can fill a familaial need. For example, reading to an elderly person at a nursing home or church can sometimes make a more intimate connection.
 
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dospi1

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Nov 18, 2021
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It may be that your new friends fill an important but partial potion of your life. Many people have a need for the intimate connection that family is supposed to provide. Some have come to a point of disconnection from family that can leave a large need in a person.

Sometimes getting involved at a deeper personal level with someone can fill a familaial need. For example, reading to an elderly person at a nursing home or church can sometimes make a more intimate connection.
That is good outlook might try it in the future (:
 
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Sherri

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Sep 28, 2020
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When I used to club I had this big entourage of guys and girls, when I got depressed no one cared. I then realised they were not my friends, just drinking friends. I have prob 5 good friends and I rather have few friends than friends who don't care about me. I rather be alone most times as people and their little sheep life annoy me,
 
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4eyebiped

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Dec 28, 2019
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I have a couple of the best friends someone could ask for, but I am still severely lonely. The reason is that I seek female companionship, that one person to adore. Often loneliness exists because there is something you desire that is missing from your environment. Sure there could be another reason, but that is probably the most common. It is the first place I would reflect on and think about.
 
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fr0ggie

to live is to fly
Dec 14, 2021
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I feel the same way as you. If you chronically "empty" inside and kinda feel aimless/lost with who you are as a person, I would look into BPD (borderline personality disorder) and DBT therapy. Just looking at free DBT workbook online might give you a better way to process your feelings of loneliness, and your relationships with others. Also, some people just have a people-pleaser personality. I have that, and I feel lonely often because I only feel like a useful or functional person if I'm doing something for someone. Short-term, being actively distracted with video games, physical activity, doing hobby/skill, etc helps. Sitting and watching a show or listening to music is not enough for the lonely feelings to go away, its best to avoid stuff where you could think about people and your friends. Long-term, I hope you feel more comfortable being alone, it's hard being your own friend sometimes.
 

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