Can you guys see yourself in the future at all?

[EdibleGasMask]

I need advice or help understanding this. I was talking to someone about my relationship im in and he said to me "Do you see yourself being with him later and life, getting married and living together?" I think I know what he means but im very lost. I've never been able to see a future for myself let alone with other people, maybe its the reason I cant hold onto a relationship/commitment. Can you guys see yourselves like that with someone or am I just crazy.

 

[Rustysoupcan]

I hope to one day move in with my current partner. But when talking about realistic what am I going to do a year or even 6 months from now I cant imagine much of a future

 

[Dysgenic Pup]

In terms of school, I can envision myself until the end of a single semester, so about 4 months in the future. The question of "what do you want to do with your life?" is pretty annoying to me because I don't have a damn clue.

 

[Molded foundation]

I wish to be an old man that lives in the mountains and sell wooden knick knacks. When it snows, I'll be skiing all winter. In the summer, I'll sit down by a little pond and read books and skip stones. If only...

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

Look up "sense of foreshortened future" and see if it sounds familiar.

 

[clown_17]

Nope. And if so homeless and a wreck probably

 

[zi99]

I have no idea about future and see myself as loser because I dont to anything important now and probably wont do at near future with my state. Before I saw myself dead, but now I have no imagination.

 

[FuneralCry]

I cannot see a future for myself. I would rather not think about the future at all.

 

[aBLEACHyindividual]

No, not really. Maybe homeless & alone as always. That's about it

 

[motel rooms]

I was talking to someone about my relationship im in and he said to me "Do you see yourself being with him later and life, getting married and living together?" I think I know what he means but im very lost. I've never been able to see a future for myself let alone with other people, maybe its the reason I cant hold onto a relationship/commitment. Can you guys see yourselves like that with someone or am I just crazy.

My bf knows better than to talk about the future, he's aware we're both severely fucked-up people. I love him, I feel loved back & I want us to get married, but mainly because I want him to inherit my property. I'm 40 (he's 28 - slightly gross, right?) & middle age scares me. Gay 40 is 60 in str8 years; it's not a coincidence I joined SS this year. He doesn't seem to understand that I'm much older than him, & I'm not just talking about chronological age. Maybe he'll dump me when I go bald & get lazy & fat, so I can get back with my reliable old lover, Suicide.

 

[Flippy]

My bf knows better than to talk about the future, he's aware we're both severely fucked-up people. I love him, I feel loved back & I want us to get married, but mainly because I want him to inherit my property. I'm 40 (he's 28 - slightly gross, right?) & middle age scares me. Gay 40 is 60 in str8 years; it's not a coincidence I joined SS this year. He doesn't seem to understand that I'm much older than him, & I'm not just talking about chronological age. Maybe he'll dump me when I go bald & get lazy & fat, so I can get back with my reliable old lover, Suicide.

Wait...what?! I didn't know it worked like that? So what's the equivalent nerd years?! I'm going to die tomorrow aren't I? Ahhh I've wasted my life

 

[motel rooms]

Wait...what?! I didn't know it worked like that? So what's the equivalent nerd years?! I'm going to die tomorrow aren't I? Ahhh I've wasted my life

Nerds are forever young!

 

[Flippy]

Nerds are forever young!

Oh they are?! Ahhh, well that's a relief! Or is it? I'm going to live forever aren't I?! Uhhh, being suicidal is confusing!

 

[motel rooms]

Oh they are?! Ahhh, well that's a relief! Or is it? I'm going to live forever aren't I?! Uhhh, being suicidal is confusing!

 

[Flippy]

So true! Also, they should finish every lottery commercial with that GIF! :-)

 

[motel rooms]

So true! Also, they should finish every lottery commercial with that GIF! :-)

You can only win in life if this happens to you -

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/that-time-i-died.66379/

 

[Flippy]

It's 5:24am in the morning here, I have a bad headache. I walked to the kitchen to pour some juice, I read that thread, I laughed, I spat juice everywhere! Now I have a headache and I also have to clean up juice. Funny as hell though!

 

[Makko]

How far in the future are we talking?

 

[Deleted member 8579]

I wish to be an old man that lives in the mountains and sell wooden knick knacks. When it snows, I'll be skiing all winter. In the summer, I'll sit down by a little pond and read books and skip stones. If only...

For some reason, this reminds me of the following Blackadder quote:

"If I don't think of something, tomorrow we die - which I have to tell you, Baldrick, I have no intention of doing! I want to be young and wild, and then I want to be middle-aged and rich, and then I want to be old and annoy people by pretending that I'm going deaf!"

A few years ago, in the good old days when I entertained the concept of suicide as a purely philosophical notion, I was quite shocked to read about people in their early twenties who felt directionless because they did not expect to even reach this age.
Well, nowadays I can certainly relate; I have absolutely no concept of a future self.

 

[Makko]

For some reason, this reminds me of the following Blackadder quote:

"If I don't think of something, tomorrow we die - which I have to tell you, Baldrick, I have no intention of doing! I want to be young and wild, and then I want to be middle-aged and rich, and then I want to be old and annoy people by pretending that I'm going deaf!"

A few years ago, in the good old days when I entertained the concept of suicide as a purely philosophical notion, I was quite shocked to read about people in their early twenties who felt directionless because they did not expect to even reach this age.
Well, nowadays I can certainly relate; I have absolutely no concept of a future self.

Frontiers | What is a “sense of foreshortened future?” A phenomenological study of trauma, trust, and time

One of the symptoms of trauma is said to be a ‘sense of foreshortened future’. Without further qualification, it is not clear how to interpret this. In this ...

www.frontiersin.org

I'm reading this article and I'm not feeling well.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Once upon a time I had hopes and dreams. Life was always pretty hard for me, but, those hopes kept me going. I recently lost those hopes and dreams forever, so, I don't see a future at all. Just emptiness.

 

[everydayiloveyou]

When I was most suicidal I had very specific and vivid fantasies about my future. They'd be like 10, 20, 30 years out.

I don't think about it much anymore. I guess I could force myself to but I have trouble believing it now. Part of it is getting older and realizing that it does nothing to plan so far ahead. The other part is that I will probably kill myself in a couple years anyways.

 

[Mr2005]

I understand your dilemma since I'm also in a relationship and from her point of view she has no security at all. It would be easier for me if she could just enjoy the moment but she can't since she doesn't know if I'll still be here tomorrow.

 

[stygal]

When I was really young (around 3-5 or something) I imagined myself at the age of 30 to be in a relationship and have 3 kids (dunno why I was so specific about that).

But as the years progressed my point of view started to narrow and I only wanted to make it through the year or even day.

I never had any future plans, never wanted to be with anyone long term (only thought about it shortly with my last ex but wasn't mad it didn't happen) and never really had any (job) aspirations either.

I could also never see myself "old" - even my current age seems off and waay to mature in some aspects (physically) ... I mentally stopped wanting to change at 16-18.

I would definitely be even more miserable when I can't leave during the next 2 years because every added year just seems wrong at this point.

 

[UseItOrLoseIt]

Of course I see myself in the future, I see good fortune and the tides changing. A century of a good life.
Of course I see the future, it's just the wrong future.

 

[dandan]

Maybe some people do, me? I dont see myself in the future , although im just few weeks into a sexy relationship, not really love but we do like each other that we might spend few days together to "test" a relationship, , even though we know and we talked that anything might happen.

I guess many people just do it, dare to move in together, some times, it surely works, most of the time, it doesn't?

 

[ratpudding]

I have a hard time seeing myself more than 5 years in the future. I never thought I would make it to 25 but I did. Now I can't see myself making it to 30. I try to use a future with my boyfriend as motivation to keep going. I seem to make him happy even though I know he'd be happier with someone else. I always feel like I'm only liked because I'm an extreme people pleaser, even if I end up miserable because of it. But I also have a hard time viewing him as someone who would take advantage of that. I think I'm just the first real relationship he's had and he doesn't know any better but if he dated anyone else he'd realize he couldv'e been better off this whole time. I try to keep going for him though I don't know if I'd be able to put him through losing me, even if I have to keep living in misery for it.

 

[motel rooms]

Of course I see myself in the future, I see good fortune and the tides changing. A century of a good life. Of course I see the future, it's just the wrong future.

God save the queen
The fascist regime
They made you a moron
A potential H bomb

Don't be told what you want
Don't be told what you need
There's no future, no future for you

We're the flowers in the dustbin
We're the poison in your human machine
We're the future, your future

God save the queen
There's no future
No future, no future for you!

 

[Makko]

Gay 40 is 60 in str8 years;

I've heard something like this before. Can you elaborate?

 

[motel rooms]

I've heard something like this before. Can you elaborate?

Well, it's not exactly a secret that a lot of us homos are even more superficial & youth-obsessed / lookist & ageist than everyone else. Of course, there are younger guys who are into middle-aged men, but the "daddy" better stay in decent shape or he's as good as dead. Luckily, I don't have to spend countless hours at the gym to stay muscular enough (genes) & food is just fuel to me (I'm indifferent to sweet crap & carbs in general, I'll have nothing but a piece of week-old, dry boiled meat for lunch; bf is outraged & disgusted), so I'm still fit, but it just feels weird & wrong to still be alive at 40.