Discussion Can I Say Something Corny?

[sunny.sativa]

I'm 100% sure no one contributing to this society remembers me from years ago, but I used to be a frequent flyer.
I really don't have the time or energy to share the absolute shit show that was my life at the time that I joined, participated, nor left this forum, because they were all bad times.. but..

I do wanna say something cliche and stupid, yet something that I mean full-heartedly—

It.. actually gets better? It .. slowly, unsteadily goes away in a not-so-fun sort of way that's actually worth waiting for.

No, I didn't end up as a worry-free, silver-spoon, social-media-influencer-that-recovered-at-life story. Shit sucked for a long. fucking. time. I wanted to die. Everyday. For years… (understatement.)

I'm not going to (or trying to) stop anyone. I'm simply saying, damn. Those stupid fucking pamphlets in the ward were right. Lol.


If you have questions/comments, maybe we'll relate on something. I'd simply like to share the idea that maybe the idea of getting on with shit works. Not for everyone. And not forever. But for now. For you and I.

 

[motel rooms]

I do wanna say something cliche and stupid, yet something that I mean full-heartedly—

It.. actually gets better?

Why do you feel the need to repeat that boring-ass, annoying cliché? Why not say that it might get better instead? "It gets better!" means that it always gets better. In every single case. Without fail. Everyone who isn't delusional knows that that simply isn't true...

 

[Deleted member 8975]

Why do you feel the need to repeat that boring-ass, annoying cliché? Why not say that it might get better instead? "It gets better!" means that it always gets better. In every single case. Without fail. Everyone who isn't delusional knows that that simply isn't true...

I think they meant they, personally.

 

[motel rooms]

I think they meant they, personally.

Well, then they should have said that it got better for them, not that it gets better & that those "stupid fucking pamphlets" are right... I'm happy for OP, I really am, but they called what they have to say "something clichéd & stupid" themselves... It's just so unnecessary to use that platitude, I know I'm not the only member allergic to it...

 

[sunny.sativa]

Why do you feel the need to repeat that boring-ass, annoying cliché? Why not say that it might get better instead? "It gets better!" means that it always gets better. In every single case. Without fail. Everyone who isn't delusional knows that that simply isn't true...

I was once someone that was an asshole because I was sad in my own life. I'm not mad at you. You're mad at you. And that's okay. But I'll be staying out of it.

This post was for me, basically. I wanted to share it. I was closure with my once extremist-self. Everything on this app is personal to the user. Not to you. Leave if you're sensitive, as these are touchy topics.

 

[motel rooms]

I was once someone that was an asshole because I was sad in my own life.

Are you one now because you're happy? I didn't call you an asshole, so there's no need for you to resort to cheap name-calling.

I'm not mad at you. You're mad at you. And that's okay. But I'll be staying out of it.

This post was for me, basically. I wanted to share it. I was closure with my once extremist-self. Everything on this app is personal to the user. Not to you. Leave if you're sensitive, as these are touchy topics.

I'm neither sensitive nor mad, little doggie. I'm not interested in picking a fight with you, I just dislike useless platitudes. Let's be polite & ignore each other from here on out.

 

[Marktheghost]

No it doesn't necessarily get better. Sometimes it might get better; but it doesn't always get better.

 

[MyStateKilledMe]

Your heart was in the right place, but good god, did you pick a wrong place to make that statement! First, this is the Recovery section, not the Pro-Lifer section. Second, it DOESN'T get better for most of us; we "recover" in spite of being miserable, not because of it. At best, you come off as a silver-spoon Instagrammer (the very person you said you're not). At worst, you come off as a blatant, clueless liar who has no idea what it's like to be unhappy (even if that's not true). You used the same platitude pro-lifer the\rapists use, basically.

 

[callme]

WHAT gets better? The damn weather?

Same empty words, on the meaningless level of "It' a fine weather isn't it".

 

[Chinaski]

Your heart was in the right place, but good god, did you pick a wrong place to make that statement! First, this is the Recovery section, not the Pro-Lifer section. Second, it DOESN'T get better for most of us; we "recover" in spite of being miserable, not because of it. At best, you come off as a silver-spoon Instagrammer (the very person you said you're not). At worst, you come off as a blatant, clueless liar who has no idea what it's like to be unhappy (even if that's not true). You used the same platitude pro-lifer the\rapists use, basically.

I don't think there is anything pro-life in one person's account of how they recovered as an individual. There's an unhealthy performance on this forum which reacts with fury at anything that isn't explicitly pro-death as being pro-life by default. This is clearly not the case, being "pro-choice" should mean accepting the rational decision made by the individual to die or, indeed, to live.

I will also add that it's quite galling imo to see numerous SN liveblogs enthusiastically applauded and taken as factual whereas a recovery story is dismissed as fakery. Personally l find more gratification from reading one recovery thread than l would from reading a deathblog. Suicide is ultimately a sad thing, a tragic event, l personally very much wish l could see a possibility of recovery instead of the inevitably of suicide, and as a forum we need to be more mature about how we treat both suicide and recovery.

 

[4eyebiped]

What is often misunderstood is that when you have a group of people, you have a group of personalities. This forum is probably going to have quite a large variance with major extremes for its population size, understandably.

There are going to be some here that loath any sort of positivity. They only want to hear life is the worst thing ever and death is the only option. You also have those that still have a little hope, enjoy hearing some positivity and those supportive comments actually brighten their day that otherwise would be filled with darkness. Then you have everything else in-between. I do not consider any of the above wrong or right, it is just good to be aware and understanding of it.

If you do not like positive posts, cheesy get wells or motivational comments, then don't read them. Go enjoy the threads that ring home for you or that you are more comfortable with. There are enough posts here with enough variety where you can find what you want. If the person isn't spewing hate, then I see no reason to attempt to debunk, correct or destroy what they are say. It is fine to offer opinions and thoughts.

This forum is big enough for us all. Let us try our best to get along.

 

[D&D]

View attachment 79926I'm 100% sure no one contributing to this society remembers me from years ago, but I used to be a frequent flyer.
I really don't have the time or energy to share the absolute shit show that was my life at the time that I joined, participated, nor left this forum, because they were all bad times.. but..

I do wanna say something cliche and stupid, yet something that I mean full-heartedly—

It.. actually gets better? It .. slowly, unsteadily goes away in a not-so-fun sort of way that's actually worth waiting for.

No, I didn't end up as a worry-free, silver-spoon, social-media-influencer-that-recovered-at-life story. Shit sucked for a long. fucking. time. I wanted to die. Everyday. For years… (understatement.)

I'm not going to (or trying to) stop anyone. I'm simply saying, damn. Those stupid fucking pamphlets in the ward were right. Lol.


If you have questions/comments, maybe we'll relate on something. I'd simply like to share the idea that maybe the idea of getting on with shit works. Not for everyone. And not forever. But for now. For you and I.

Hello sunny.sativa,

I just want to say - I remember you, and I am GLAD for YOU!

It does not matter what anyone else thinks or says.

It is your life ... As the man said long ago: