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Enlightened
- Aug 26, 2022
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This is sadly a major problem I suffer from in every relationship. I always chalked it up to feeling inferior and needing excessive validation and attention to feel good about myself. It always ruins everything and results in depression.and then resorting back to a childlike state once the person is an adult or finds a partner who will eventually become a caregiver in their eyes or the parent that they wanted but never had
and then the tendencies will show themselves when the partner decides to interact with others
or when the partner isn't showing every ounce of attention to the narcissist or validating the narcissist grandiose sense of self importance
this is a good/interesting question
according to what I saw online
"parent-child relationships with either too much adoration or too much criticism that don't match the child's actual experiences and achievements."
"Unfortunately, little is known about the origins of narcissism. Such knowledge is important for designing interventions to curtail narcissistic development. We demonstrate that narcissism in children is cultivated by parental overvaluation: parents believing their child to be more special and more entitled than others."
if the cause were child abuse I would assume that the narcissistic tendencies are because of having to mature earlier than others from being raised in a abusive or neglectful household or the illusion of maturity
and then resorting back to a childlike state once the person is an adult or finds a partner who will eventually become a caregiver in their eyes or the parent that they wanted but never had
and then the tendencies will show themselves when the partner decides to interact with others
or when the partner isn't showing every ounce of attention to the narcissist or validating the narcissist grandiose sense of self importance
or when the partner isn't keeping of with appearances or the illusion of the perfect relationship
and at times the narcissist will bring up or use the abuse they endured in the past to justify their abuse against others or stating that what they do to others "isn't as bad as[...]"
I think this a part of them usually wanting to be a victim most of the time even if they are (they most likely usually are all of the time) the one in the wrong
not sure if this makes sense or helps to understand but this is what I thought about the question, sorry for a wall of text/long post