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noname223

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I think I am pretty sick of dating apps. I see that some women have this in their profile. "Bullying is my love language." I could imagine some men also have this attitude. For me it is a massive red flag.

The woman I came closer with on this dating app became more and more mean to me. At first, she never showed that this behavior. But she became more and more abusive.

I think I am someone who wants harmony in my private life. I could never imagine that me and my friends teased us in such ways. I have a very positive and supportive friend group. But there is no toxic positivity. We can also talk about negative stuff. Actually, I do this all the time. Lol.

We had friends who were teasing us. And these people didn't last long in our friend group.

I had a friend who told us he accidentally killed someone with his car when he was drunk, We thought it was a joke. But he assured us it wasn't a joke for a while. Though, it was a joke.
He didn't remain in our friend group for long. He also told me and my friends that he absolutely knew how I am feeling with my mental health issues. ( I had a psychosis to that time)
He pretended that despite the fact my mental health issues were way worse than his.

I also cut off this extremely right-wing person. With his eugenics rants, the disgusting way he talked about women, and his dehumanizing of certain minorities. It became sort of a feud between us. For a long time I thought I want to be tolerant to other people's opinions. Maybe to contribute that he doesn't spiral down further. But I realized there are boundaries. And he crossed them. He is very extreme on the right-wing political spectrum. And theoretically it is very hard to be more right-wing extreme than him. Now, he is lonely and I think noone likes him. He texted me a couple of times and I ignored him. I told him his way of living has a lot of advantages. If he goes to clubs and asks 20 women whether they want to fuck with him. There might be one or two mentally unstable women seeking for abusive relationships who actually do it with him. And he can boast about it to other people like he does. But there is a price he is going to pay. And this is that noone wants to be around of such an despicable and pathetic asshole. He texted me a couple of times and I simply ignored it. The way he texted me was pretty pathetic. He sort of begged me to continue the contact with me. I could even try to convert him. I told him that's a waste of time and that he is a lost cause. My actual friends told me I should have cut off the ties with him way earlier.
 
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Forever Sleep

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I've never heard that phrase. I know it happens but, I can't believe people even admit to it straight off. I thought the more common pattern was love bombing before they turn nasty.
 
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I think I am pretty sick of dating apps. I see that some women have this in their profile. "Bullying is my love language." I could imagine some men also have this attitude. For me it is a massive red flag.

The woman I came closer with on this dating app became more and more mean to me. At first, she never showed that this behavior. But she became more and more abusive.

I think I am someone who wants harmony in my private life. I could never imagine that me and my friends teased us in such ways. I have a very positive and supportive friend group. But there is no toxic positivity. We can also talk about negative stuff. Actually, I do this all the time. Lol.

We had friends who were teasing us. And these people didn't last long in our friend group.

I had a friend who told us he accidentally killed someone with his car when he was drunk, We thought it was a joke. But he assured us it wasn't a joke for a while. Though, it was a joke.
He didn't remain in our friend group for long. He also told me and my friends that he absolutely knew how I am feeling with my mental health issues. ( I had a psychosis to that time)
He pretended that despite the fact my mental health issues were way worse than his.

I also cut off this extremely right-wing person. With his eugenics rants, the disgusting way he talked about women, and his dehumanizing of certain minorities. It became sort of a feud between us. For a long time I thought I want to be tolerant to other people's opinions. Maybe to contribute that he doesn't spiral down further. But I realized there are boundaries. And he crossed them. He is very extreme on the right-wing political spectrum. And theoretically it is very hard to be more right-wing extreme than him. Now, he is lonely and I think noone likes him. He texted me a couple of times and I ignored him. I told him his way of living has a lot of advantages. If he goes to clubs and asks 20 women whether they want to fuck with him. There might be one or two mentally unstable women seeking for abusive relationships who actually do it with him. And he can boast about it to other people like he does. But there is a price he is going to pay. And this is that noone wants to be around of such an despicable and pathetic asshole. He texted me a couple of times and I simply ignored it. The way he texted me was pretty pathetic. He sort of begged me to continue the contact with me. I could even try to convert him. I told him that's a waste of time and that he is a lost cause. My actual friends told me I should have cut off the ties with him way earlier.
Well some women are perpetuating the misogyny and patriarchy and being assholes, because they are HUMANS. Most people however end up just like the right-wing person you cut off because of these interactions in dating apps which is INSANE to me.

I am a very positive and wholesome person myself and I find that toxic positivity sickens me and funny thing is, it's somewhat cousins with bullying as toxic positivity is just pampered up mental gymnastics bullying without being honest about it.
 
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i've dated some people who bully as a "love language" and it ruins your self esteem. i hate that people think it's cute or fun, it's not. it makes you feel worthless and miserable.
 
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