Your testimonial reminded me of this song, about how being reduced to the appearance can misrepresent and even hurt.
I'm guessing that good looks can help to increase opportunities, but then you're left to sort out the right from the wrong, to squeeze something meaningful from the choice it drags. You risk aside to be more exposed to some disagreements and unplanned harm to filter and process.
I cannot directly relate since I'm suffering the opposite, of low self-esteem (probably mistaken, even if called cute, I just don't digest the appreciation with belief) from some physical traits (scars, partial baldness) that puzzle me, taking more importance than I'm sure people give it realistically, it's just a personal vexed issue.
Anyway, I can totally imagine the other way around and sometimes do. With age, you grow awareness that it gets increasingly important to connect and bound more profoundly. It can become part of a reflection and understanding but I guess you really live it well until it's reciprocal.
Side note, I know that as a male, I'll go as far to tell that I often felt as a victim to the society we live in, which is objectifying women beyond what nature invites to. It creates distortions which waste what relationships should be, taking away lots of magic, mysteries, potential. I regret stuff, like the paternalistic organisation we are in, with less freedom and justice often allowed to women, due to principle, and because I see how it's detrimental to men, outside of "benefits". I regret pornography, killing the joy of imagination, and for the traumas and misunderstandings it can lead to, etc. Overall, I feel like when you instrumentalize, you dehumanize, it's a loss for all parties involved, no matter how you cover it behind.