Discussion breaking up with partner before ctb and moral implications

[_Minsk]

hi guys,

i know this is a hard topic, but for those being in a partnership with someone, can we simply breakup, or would you be open with your plans?
is it even okay to consider ctb when someone has entered a relationship in the first case?

would love to discuss this topic and get some advice, never been in this situation before

 

[faust]

Hello,
I simply broke up, we have been in relationships for more than 3 years.
I realized that it is much better to break up before CTB, because it is better to let my ex treat me like a traitor not the guy who killed himself one day.
She presumably has BPD and used to self-harm before, so my CTB would trigger her desire to self-harm and CTB.
Plus she did not understand me well and I could say nothing about my intentions.
Everything should depend on your situation, my choice was to break up.

 

[Mr2005]

I'm still with mine and it's because I don't know what I'm doing.

 

[Donk]

I'm still with mine and it's because I don't know what I'm doing.

does she know about your contemplation with ctb?

 

[Tiedie]

I broke up with my gf. I go in and out episodes so that's what I think is best for both of us. If you find that is also what's best for you my advice is to stand your ground. My ex threatened suicide but that just made it clear to me that I made the right choice by ending it. I do not plan on entering another relationship ever. I'm good with that. If you tell her your plan she might try to "help" you.

 

[itsamadworld]

I just hang out with my ex boyfriend all the time but I broke up with him two years ago. But he has lots of friends, so, when I ctb in about a year, he won't be alone. When I'm 40- is what my plan has been for many years. He's going to miss me, but he knows I'm suicidal, and I will leave evidence that it was my decision and mine alone.

 

[Mr2005]

does she know about your contemplation with ctb?

Yes she does

 

[Mariomcfly]

I planed on ctb about 9 months ago and during the time i met someone. Life was great but the plan was never put on hold. I think from the beginning she realized I had issues. Long story short after I was getting all my affairs in Oder for the final day I think she caught on. When I finally had everything in Oder she said she had a horrible feeling in her gut. After that she contacted friends and family eventually people found my note, phone began to blow up and the plan botched with a few minutes to spare. We're still together I do feel guilty but I think we both know the end is the same it was just delayed. It's going to hurt but in my case I just need to make sure she knows it's not her fault and if I stuck around this long or even stopped the first attempt was because of her. You could breakup, talk about it and all that Jazz. My suggestion is get help it's not to late.

 

[UglyMutt]

sorry I'm new here, what is ctb?

 

[itsamadworld]

sorry I'm new here, what is ctb?

Catch the bus - commit suicide, basically

 

[roor]

I just broke up with my partner/fiancé to be able to CTB. I just want him to be free to live beyond me after I've gone. And I feel like breaking up gives more clearance to do that. I feel like it would shield him a little bit too. It's still cruel either way. But I feel like it'd be better if he hated me a little first before finding out I ctb. I'll mail him a letter on the day of my attempt.