I remember you from a few months backl OP although you wouldn't remember me. Glad to see you still here posting in the recovery forum. Confidence for a man comes with age. I told you before, you are nowhere near your peak. In Chinese medicine men age in 8 year cycles and your physical peak in terms of looks and strength isn't until your late 20's to early 30's. 32 is considered peak physical condition for a man. And if you play your cards right as a man your sex appeal will last well into your 40's, if not longer. A woman despises her late 20's and 30's because she is in decline, but that really is when a man physiologically peaks in terms of strength and looks. So my answer to how to gain confidence is to wait. But also work on yourself in the mean time.