Ask questions: my little brother (21) hanged himself

[eveparis]

Hey,
You can ask me questions about surviving a sibling's suicide.

My little brother hanged himself at 21, last year. We found him 5 days later, was a mess.

I can explain what happend after a suicide death and how to make things easier for your family.

 

[BornToFail]

Hi,
What do you mean by was a mess?

 

[makethepainstop]

Hey,
You can ask me questions about surviving a sibling's suicide.

My little brother hanged himself at 21, last year. We found him 5 days later, was a mess.

I can explain what happend after a suicide death and how to make things easier for your family.

Did anyone see any signs that he was suicidal? Did he give any reason for this action, note, email? I am sorry for your loss.

 

[Deo volente]

How did you react?

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

Hi im sorry for your loss, my sister took an overdose years ago so i know what its like and i know how it is for a family, especially how it affected my parents.

 

[SamTam33]

What was the most common sentiments people shared? I'm always curious about the 'consensus' of those left behind.

Do they all agree there was nothing they could've done? Does anyone admit to having an idea this might've happened, and why it happened?

Thanks so much for taking questions.

 

[FuneralCry]

I so envy the courage that those who succeeded with this method had, and at least all those gone are free from whatever suffering they were experiencing. Rest in peace.

 

[eveparis]

Hi,
What do you mean by was a mess?

I lives on a different city and sent the ermergency through is home after a view days. His corps started to decompose. And a view days after when me and my parents got my brother's appartment keys, we had to clean his body fluids. A big puddle made of mix from shit, piss, blood and decomposing liquid. It was really stinky and traumatizing.

good to know for family: when a body is found, police or firefighters don't clean after it. Your family will.

 

[MidnightDream]

How are you?

 

[dopaminedeath]

Hi im sorry for your loss, my sister took an overdose years ago so i know what its like and i know how it is for a family, especially how it affected my parents.

how are your parents?

 

[eveparis]

Did anyone see any signs that he was suicidal? Did he give any reason for this action, note, email? I am sorry for your loss.

No, he never talked about his depressive thoughts. I wish he did. We were really close but he was at the end Kind of playing a role. The "good brother". The day before his death we had a really deep discussion about life and so and I asked him if he was okay. He said that was not the big joy, but he didn't talk about suicide/depression...

I think that during this night he had a panic attack because of the school exams and that the decision Was rapid. He didn't leave anything.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

how are your parents?

Mom had a heart attack and stroke couple months after, dads went into depression.

 

[eveparis]

How did you react?

How did you react?

First days before we Knew, I was trying to find a good reason for him not to response to my messages. Like busy at school, hanging out with friend, new girlfriend he had.

Days after were really busy. A lot of administrative Stuff to do, preparing his funeral.

Month after, the images were stick in my eyes. I tried to kill myself too and wen to Psychiatric for a month.

A year after: still suicidal and have strong medication but it doesn't work. I have the feeling That it broke something in me. I discuss sometimes with a community of siblings Who have a suicided brother/sister, and it's The same for everyone.

How are you?

Thanks for asking!
Not fine, but in a different way than in the beginning.

how are your parents?

Father first tried to kill himself too and now get better. He and my mom are having divorce bc they blame each other For my brother's Sucide.

Mom is beginning to be in a strange kind of sect and consult mediums and quit her job.

Mom had a heart attack and stroke couple months after, dads went into depression.

You have a Sibling that is dead too?

 

[Enemy of Evolution]

To be honest. After reading your experience. I am doubting myself. I think I may delay my departure for few years. Sorry for your loss.

 

[murphyy]

Oh, that's awful. I'm very sorry.

I wanna CTB, but.... I really do not want to put my family through that. And this post hits hard especially cause I have a younger sister who looks up to me...

 

[actual_fox]

Hey,
You can ask me questions about surviving a sibling's suicide.

My little brother hanged himself at 21, last year. We found him 5 days later, was a mess.

I can explain what happend after a suicide death and how to make things easier for your family.

Could you tell me how to make It easier on family? Apart from not making mess.

A year after: still suicidal and have strong medication but it doesn't work. I have the feeling That it broke something in me. I discuss sometimes with a community of siblings Who have a suicided brother/sister, and it's The same for everyone.

I have younger brother. Maybe he will be better.