Discussion Are younger people off putting to you?

[silentcicada]

When it comes to interacting/befriending people on here, are younger folks a deterrent?

When I reach out to others they're more likely than not uncomfortable with me being in my early 20s. I haven't gotten much interest on my partners posts but when I do, it's usually 19 year olds, which is personally a deterrent for me.

 

[vak]

Off-putting? No, but I can't help feeling more responsible around them. I won't change anyone's momentum or decisions out of respect, but it is a weird feeling to see young adults, roughly around my young brother's age, suffer. Old farts like me are more disposable.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Dude, there is literally no difference between a 19-year-old and someone in their early twenties.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

There was a poll once that showed most people here are under 25. I'm 39 and I don't mind interacting with younger people.

 

[silentcicada]

Dude, there is literally no difference between a 19-year-old and someone in their early twenties.

Personally, I'd relate more to someone who has already exhausted all options and treatments. At 19 I was lax with meds and hadn't really tried anything else out other than therapy.
But I'm still biased because I'm young myself lol

There was a poll once that showed most people here are under 25. I'm 39 and I don't mind interacting with younger people.

This a pretty big surprise to me! I'd thought most would be in their 30s.

 

[hikikomorizombie]

most ppl on SaSu don't have their ages displayed on their profile, so i'm not able to gauge my interactions here by agei wouldn't be opposed to befriending/talking to some1 younger than me, though. the only thing that deters me from ppl in general is lack of intelligence, & if they're boring.

 

[Chinaski]

Younger people are fine. Immature people, l can't abide. There is a particular brand of cutesy online childishness that l am genuinely unable to abide, but this is so frequently adopted by people who have long past the thirty year mark

 

[Argo]

I have a real ... I guess bias? Fondness? For child-like curiosity(regardless of anyone's age). I think just being curious and wondering in general is incredibly mature, even though that's a feature we associate with children, like when they ask lots of questions innocently and with openness. Their minds haven't been rigidly stuffed into some sort of social or cultural or identity based narrative very strongly yet-- and so children, paradoxically, have a kind of wisdom to them in their attitude that most adults lack. And any child that doesn't, basically is just a victim of trauma, abuse, neglect-- because children are wired to be information sponges like this, so every child has innate curiosity that has to be either punished, or the cultivation of it has to be robbed from them, for them to lack this curiosity.

So no I think adults in their stubbornness and lack of creativity irk me more but, they are just as blameless as children since they were once children too, who were robbed/abused.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's not exactly a deterrent. I just find I have more in common with people my own, old, middle age. I guess because our immediate problems are more similar.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Selfishly at times I do wish this were a place for people aged 30 and above who have reached the end of the road, not least because it would ease my conscience (damn that thing).

 

[moth_geist]

I remember feeling this way when I was younger and would essentially always lie about my age to be taken seriously (this was a time when the internet was better at allowing for anonymity.) However, I fully understand why that prejudice exists now that I'm older. I don't hate younger people, I don't hate children. There's just this certain mental rennaissanc that you go through during your mid to late twenties. It's not necessarily a noticeable thing when it's happening, not does it erase all of our problems or make us more successful on its own, but it shifts our perspective enough to firmly categorize the before/after as a complete contrast to the other. I think this shift can make us wary of anyone who hasn't experienced it. (I'm sure this isn't the last time we go through this sort of thing.) This is unfair, obviously, because everyone's opinion should count for something to consider (even if that thing is "wow, how horribly wrong") and interpret.

This is terribly redundant but (while not certain, it's v probable that) you will understand what I mean whenever you're on the other side. I often seek out people who are in my age range (although that's far from a guarantee that they'll be people I find worth befriending) but I'm not opposed to talking to a youth here and there or considering their input.

 

[Slow_Farewell]

To a certain extend, yes they are.
Some often just need someone to listen to them, but they don't say that outright. Even if you think you'd be helping them by giving them advice, these are dismissed as ramblings of an old fart.
Others may say that they're open to conversing with anyone but cant carry a conversation past "hi".
Most (and I cant/dont blame people for this) are wary of exchanging information. This, in and of itself, contradicts the nuances of "conversation" which, ideally, is an exchange of ideas/information.
but then i probably am talking about something different as this is a perspective from a 40 year old.

 

[steppenwolf]

The question is ageist. Some people are just off-putting; age has nothing to do with it. Excruciating spoiled adolescents who want to kill themselves because they've only just realized that the Nazis lost the war, are just as off-putting as old haters like me who want to let them.

 

[falling_snow]

kids are too active for me, teenagers too. but 20 year olds and around are pretty nice (near my age). but i usually feel safer around people older than me, like in their 30s or 40s. i see them as great people in general.