Discussion Are you willing to pay the price of hatred?

[BobbyPellitt]

I recently revisited an old anime titled Jigoku Shoujo (Hell Girl). It tells stories of people who forms a pact with an evil spirit. This pact gives the bearer power to kill someone they hate and condemn them to hell. However, once the bearer died, he or she would also suffer the same fate of being condemn to hell.

For users here who still can't forget or forgive the person responsible for traumatizing you and leaving permanent psychological scars that caused your life to turn upside-down, which becomes the main reason why you want to CTB. Hypothetically speaking, would you be making a similar pact had you been given the choice?

 

[Deleted member 1465]

No

 

[HighwayToHell]

No.
Earth is hell so they can stay here

 

[Indieblue]

No.
Earth is hell so they can stay here

Somehow that sounds more cruel :'D

 

[highlyvolatile]

Nah. No use in causing harm to others. Revenge or anything won't do me any good. If anything i'd want my name written in the death note though.

 

[TelstraSuckAFatOne]

Not a hope in hell, they can stay here and hopefully life fucks them over the same way they fucked me over. I believe in karma and I believe this is why I'm suffering, for all the hurt I've caused in the past it's now my turn to suffer. I won't stay around letting life bend me over instead I'll leave with my own conviction.

 

[k75]

That's a very interesting question, but it's a no for me.

I've gotten to the point where I'm willing to forgive but not forget, and I'm ok with letting life or whatever happen to those people. I don't need to go down with them.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I'm not accusing the OP of such intentions at all, but my internal response to this post is that it is provocative.

Forgiving a perpetrator of abuse and/or forgetting the abuse are not even remotely necessary for moving forward and healing. Tying that in with stories of hell feels (perhaps only to me) like condemnation of the victim and re-perpetration.

What the anime story suggests, if applied to suicide, is revenge suicide -- you hurt me, and my intention in ending my life is to destroy yours. But it's still not the conscious deal of which the story speaks. If applied to revenge suicide, the story is a warning that you may reap the hell you sow, but still, that's taking the story out of context and bringing it into an almost religious pulpit.

Perhaps English is not the OP's first language, and so the question posed at the end may be unintentionally poorly worded. As written, it is confusing, and sets off my sense of discomfort. It's as if the last paragraph and the question are saying, "You have been given the choice: if you ctb because you can't forget a trauma, nor forgive the one who caused it, then ctb will send you to hell with them."

 

[BPD Barbie]

I don't see the need in hurting others, even if they hurt me. Kill em with kindness, as the saying goes. They will get what they deserve in the end, it's not for me to pass judgement.

 

[BobbyPellitt]

I'm not accusing the OP of such intentions at all, but my internal response to this post is that it is provocative.

Forgiving a perpetrator of abuse and/or forgetting the abuse are not even remotely necessary for moving forward and healing. Tying that in with stories of hell feels (perhaps only to me) like condemnation of the victim and re-perpetration.

What the anime story suggests, if applied to suicide, is revenge suicide -- you hurt me, and my intention in ending my life is to destroy yours. But it's still not the conscious deal of which the story speaks. If applied to revenge suicide, the story is a warning that you may reap the hell you sow, but still, that's taking the story out of context and bringing it into an almost religious pulpit.

Perhaps English is not the OP's first language, and so the question posed at the end may be unintentionally poorly worded. As written, it is confusing, and sets off my sense of discomfort. It's as if the last paragraph and the question are saying, "You have been given the choice: if you ctb because you can't forget a trauma, nor forgive the one who caused it, then ctb will send you to hell with them."

English isn't my first (or second) language (I live in South East Asia) so I apologize for the poor wording. By no means am I trying to incite anything. I personally don't believe in God, hell, karma or an afterlife. I believe we simply ceast to exist once we die. I wrote this post to discuss the show I watched, it doesn't represent my point of view in any way.