Discussion Are you taking care of yourself?

[persepexa]

How would you rate your level of personal care at the moment?

I was so resolved in the new year to turn things around, I bought lots of healthy food and things to tidy my new room.

Within 3 days I stopped eating that healthy food or tidying my room because it feels pointless. Why take care of some loser whose life is all but over? What do I need to be healthy for if I just sit in my room all day anyway? Why tidy my room when I'm the only one who sees it?

So I have been letting the rubbish pile up, haven't washed anything in about a week, have been eating junk food and have worn the same outfit for about 4 or 5 days now. The only thing I am consistent with is showering but that's just because I can't stand thawed feeling of being unclean, especially greasy hair.

Anyone else feel similar? Anyone else just neglecting themselves nowadays?

 

[Ilovemyteddies]

I haven't showered since around May 2025. I wish that was a joke.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

Yeah. I can't do bodily dirtiness, so I still shower, but the shower's moldy. Unfolded laundry piles up. My car is full of fast food trash. I've never been good at this stuff except while manic and now it's worse than ever.

 

[persepexa]

Yeah. I can't do bodily dirtiness, so I still shower, but the shower's moldy. Unfolded laundry piles up. My car is full of fast food trash. I've never been good at this stuff except while manic and now it's worse than ever.

I am the exact same. I was never a clean freak but I always tried my best. I was in prison so there wasn't much to clean so my cell was filthy and ever since I just don't see much point in cleaning any more. My shower in my old place was very mouldy when I left actually. At least you have laundry to fold! I feel a bit shy about running into my housemates who I don't know since I just moved in so I've been letting my laundry basket overflow. It just feels pointless, ya know?

I haven't showered since around May 2025. I wish that was a joke.

Oh wow. I can totally see how that could happen but what do you think the reasons for this are? For me I only shower so I feel comfortable lying in bed, not because anyone would even notice if I had greasy hair or was a bit smelly.

 

[PureEndless]

I try so hard to keep things together but I'm terrible at it.

I've bought a spin mop, Bissell and shark stuff over the years.

I got better at doing dishes. I made improvements. But the house is still a mess.

I make sure there's no mold. No irreparable messes. If something gets to the point of actually stinking, I must fix it. I do not let it be. It sucks but I cannot let that stay that way.

I dread taking a shower every day. I hate combing my hair (that I'm now losing anyway). Soon I won't have hair anyway.

I wish I could have gotten it together. I kind of realized over time that maintaining cleanliness was a good character trait and I never was able to do it.

Mostly due to intense physical and then mental illness. If not for that, I'd be doing it no problem.

But no one really cares if you're sick. So I just feel as if I'm a bad person.

I never even got past keeping a clean house. It's embarrassing.

 

[persepexa]

I try so hard to keep things together but I'm terrible at it.

I've bought a spin mop, Bissell and shark stuff over the years.

I got better at doing dishes. I made improvements. But the house is still a mess.

I make sure there's no mold. No irreparable messes. If something gets to the point of actually stinking, I must fix it. I do not let it be. It sucks but I cannot let that stay that way.

I dread taking a shower every day. I hate combing my hair (that I'm now losing anyway). Soon I won't have hair anyway.

I wish I could have gotten it together. I kind of realized over time that maintaining cleanliness was a good character trait and I never was able to do it.

Mostly due to intense physical and then mental illness. If not for that, I'd be doing it no problem.

But no one really cares if you're sick. So I just feel as if I'm a bad person.

I never even got past keeping a clean house. It's embarrassing.

I'm so sorry you're going through that. I also find it really hard to keep things clean. I try not to be dirty but in terms of actually cleaning stuff I let it go until it becomes a problem. I just don't see much of a point in cleanliness any more really.

 

[Macedonian1987]

I stopped eating healthy food 2-3 years ago. I shave once every 2 weeks and i cut my hair sometimes every 3-4 months (in winter) As for bathing I bathe every 7-8 days. Even doing these things is a chore for me as I have barely any willpower to do anything.

 

[Sphinxi]

Don't set expectations for yourself that you can't fulfill. You ate healthily for a few days, that's good. Try starting small.

I don't really take care of myself. I eat healthy food because it's low effort (usually I just eat a container of tofu as my day's meal, sometimes bags of cashews). I maintain decent hygiene, but I have to avoid showers some days because of self harm scars. I don't really fold laundry, I just keep it in a pile in my room. I wish I was more disciplined, but it doesn't really matter as I am planning on ctb.

 

[LastNite]

I haven't showered since around May 2025. I wish that was a joke.

Take a warm shower and just let it pour down your head. Close your ears and relax. TRUST ME the best experience ever. I wish I had headphones that work with water. It feels like hot rain pouring down on you and a warm hug to your body.

 

[elenaboo25]

I take good care of myself, maintain a good outward appearance. My apartment is sometimes better, sometimes worse. It is one of my goals to get it all sorted and get rid of the unneccessary stuff before I ctb, so that my parents don't have to.

 

[Realog11]

How would you rate your level of personal care at the moment?

I was so resolved in the new year to turn things around, I bought lots of healthy food and things to tidy my new room.

Within 3 days I stopped eating that healthy food or tidying my room because it feels pointless. Why take care of some loser whose life is all but over? What do I need to be healthy for if I just sit in my room all day anyway? Why tidy my room when I'm the only one who sees it?

So I have been letting the rubbish pile up, haven't washed anything in about a week, have been eating junk food and have worn the same outfit for about 4 or 5 days now. The only thing I am consistent with is showering but that's just because I can't stand thawed feeling of being unclean, especially greasy hair.

Anyone else feel similar? Anyone else just neglecting themselves nowadays?

No I'm not I binged two days in a row wish I didn't feels like my insides are rotten

 

[heatnormal]

Anyone else feel similar? Anyone else just neglecting themselves nowadays?

i always had problems taking care of myself. showering is by far the worst. i would rarely brush my teeth; to the point that for the past six months i've been regularly going to the dentist to have them fixed. buying an electric toothbrush has helped a lot with executive dysfunction. piloting this shitty meat mecha is extremely time-consuming and not rewarding at all -- you eat, but is it nutritious enough? drink water, but not too much.

Take a warm shower and just let it pour down your head. Close your ears and relax. TRUST ME the best experience ever. I wish I had headphones that work with water. It feels like hot rain pouring down on you and a warm hug to your body.

this sounds great. i;m glad you can still find some comfort and relax.

 

[girlsboysthems]

im trying but theres always a new cavity to patch

 

[mychois]

2 out of 10
I do take a shower almost every day, but I haven't dumped my garbage (which has been piled up on the floor) for months, i eat about one meal a day, skip a lot of medication, most of the time I sleep, other than that, i keep thinking.

 

[Alpacachino]

I take good care of myself. I feel like till the day comes where I end my life, I need to go on with my work,health,hygiene,relationships and finances to the best of my ability.Not doing the stuff you need to do will only make life worse till then. I don't need it to get worse.

 

[Forveleth]

I am probably an 8/10 on bodily cleanliness because I enjoy feeling clean.
I am probably also an 8/10 on environmental cleanliness. I grew up in a cluttered and somewhat dirty house so I fucking hate seeing dirt around and random shit covering surfaces.
Personal health wise however I am like a 2/10. I am overweight. I do not get much sleep. I drink way more than I should. Of course, I also have a plethora of mental issues that I do very little about.

 

[violetforever]

i need routine to function which includes taking care of myself. i shower every morning, wash my face day and night, brush my teeth, shave my legs if i need to, put on new clothes. stuff like that. i eat mostly healthy but that doesn't mean i am healthy since i'm underweight. my room is a little messy though. i let my dresser get piled with stuff and unorganized. i have clothes laying on my floor and the end of my bed. i don't really hate myself so i wouldn't neglect myself for that reason.

i do all of this but i still feel how you do. what's the point? i just stay in my room all day too. i guess when i start school it will be different but those are the only places i'll be: school and home lol. yesterday i was looking in the mirror and burning through my hair with my straightener and i just thought about how stupid and pointless everything is. and how i hate picking out what to wear everyday. and how basically everything i own really means nothing to me. i had to lay down after until the feeling left me.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

Yeah. I can't do bodily dirtiness, so I still shower, but the shower's moldy. Unfolded laundry piles up. My car is full of fast food trash. I've never been good at this stuff except while manic and now it's worse than ever.

Shaved my head, but butchered myself with the straight razor. I think it's the corner that gets me. Didn't even bleed but now I have these red scratches all over the right side.

 

[Xi-Xi]

I do take a shower every day, but I spend way too long in the shower, like, entire day's worth in public showers.
It's the only distraction I really have

 

[Vexadin]

I try to take general care for myself because i would feel dirty if i wouldn't. Life is hard and i generally am sick of it. But a huge part of my personality is to always to the best i can in my ability.

 

[RosebyAnyName]

I hate feeling ick so my personal hygiene is still pretty good. My living space, on the other hand, has seen better days.

I've also dropped all of my hobbies, my sleep schedule, my eating schedule, and I've stopped working out. It's an endless cycle where I don't have the energy to do the things that will help me feel better, which just makes me more tired and depressed.

 

[itsgone2]

Terrible. I used to spend time cleaning every day. Cat litter every week, always mindful of kitchen and bedroom the most. Now? Stuff just doesn't get done until super gross. I'm an entirely different person. I hate it.

 

[Hollowman]

My teeth have been rotting for years and I care less and less as time goes on.

 

[DreamsOfNothing]

No, I don't shower unless I'm going outside that day. (I almost never go outside) My room is a mess. I eat like shit. I gave up a long time ago on taking care of anything honestly