Beyond_Repair
Disheartened Ghost
- Oct 27, 2023
- 452
I'm worried that certain family members might follow or it might like push them. I don't want to be responsible for anyone else's death, just my own
I have always been the one that has to "hold it together" because my family is full of mentally ill, unstable people. They come to me with their problems but I can never, ever ask for help. I have been told by one person that I am their only reason for living since I was a kid.Sometimes, pain does not end with a person's suicide and instead survives, spreading to that person's loved ones.
If you have this feeling inside you, then I would surmise the risk to your loved one(s) could be significant.
As to whether you would be "responsible", I think only you could make that judgement. Your family might be able to make that judgement as well, depending on the circumstances. I would be suspect of anyone else's judgement (for better or worse) unless they know the whole you and the whole of your situation.
This is a very challenging, delicate subject, and I want to be cautious in answering here, so I will reiterate: That you are even asking this question at all seems to suggest a significant risk could be in play here.
I do wish you the best as can be as you try to deal with what must be a very difficult spot to be in.
But the thing is, they don't really care, they care about what I can do for them, how I make them feel, they like the front I put up. They don't love me for mePeople dont exist anymore after they die so it's impossible for them to be responsible for anything. But while you're still alive, it's your responsibility to look out for the people who genuinely cares for you.
This idea of responsibility is coming from within yourself more than anything or anyone else. Yes, it's obviously influenced by external factors, but these factors don't amount to any kind of objective judgement. You can see that demonstrated in this very thread where the people here passing judgement are saying "no, you're not responsible." And yet, for you, the feeling persists.I have always been the one that has to "hold it together" because my family is full of mentally ill, unstable people. They come to me with their problems but I can never, ever ask for help. I have been told by one person that I am their only reason for living since I was a kid.
That's a hell of a lot of responsibility to put on one person. I just want to die, I don't want to hurt anyone else
OP, Beyond_Repair, who seemed a kind person, posted a goodybe thread the following day after this post.I think that If CTBing is gonna cause them so much emotional harm and grief that they end up doing it, then yes, I think we would responsible. But at that point, we've already paid with our life, and whatever happens afterwards is beyond us. We can only accept that it might end up creating a domino effect, or it might not. We'll have no way of knowing by then.
I know a lot of people say that each one is responsible for their own actions in regards to their life, but imo that's a very one dimensional way of looking at it, and can be a way of just escaping accountability in other situations; for example, if someone abused a person to a point where they decided to end their life, does that not make them responsible? Or is it simply the victim's fault for ending their life in response to said abuse?
Of course this doesn't exactly apply to the letter to people who want to CTB, because obviously most of us don't want to hurt anybody, we just want a way out of our pain and misery. But I also believe that we must at the very least consider the consequences of our actions as well (even if they were too, caused or influenced by others who hurt us), as I think that we owe our loved ones to an extent.
That is why ultimately, for me suicide should only done as a last resort.
I feel really connected to you on this It goes for me as well!I have always been the one that has to "hold it together" because my family is full of mentally ill, unstable people. They come to me with their problems but I can never, ever ask for help. I have been told by one person that I am their only reason for living since I was a kid.
That's a hell of a lot of responsibility to put on one person. I just want to die, I don't want to hurt anyone else
But the thing is, they don't really care, they care about what I can do for them, how I make them feel, they like the front I put up. They don't love me for me
They have been my responsibility since I was practically able to talk. I just want to leave in peace without my last few days being eaten alive by guilt
It's sad but at the very least they are free of pain now, may they rest in peaceOP, Beyond_Repair, who seemed a kind person, posted a goodybe thread the following day after this post.
Wherever they are I hope they found their peace.