Discussion Are you a very stereotyped suicidal?

[Warlord's Pulse]

When we think about suicidal, we think about fairly dysfunctional individuals, who don't get out of bed, neglect hygiene, don't even eat, very introvert and often like melancholic and macabre content

I have a lot of traits "anti-stereotyped", for instance, I'm introvert but actually like to be around extrovert and happy people, my favorite season is actually spring, I prefer clothes with light colors, I'm very hygienical, exercise a lot etc

What about you?

 

[avalokitesvara]

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Morbid interests
Self harm
Essentially Introverted
Dark humor
Very very "dark" taste in music, films, books, art
Melancholic/pessimistic outlook on life
Into spirituality and philosophy
Can be contented to rot in bed/low energy/"lazy"
NEET currently, no proper career, started and quit a lot of stuff, made some impulsive big life changes
Single lol
Bad at sharing true feelings
Loves autumn and winter

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Also love cute kawaii shit
Good with people and in social situations, has friends, good conversationalist
Maintains hygiene more or less normally
Completed education, can hold down jobs at least for a while
Funny
Close with family
Has had a LTR
Happy/bubbly/open/"good energy" impression on people
Normie fashion sense
Can be very productive/"on"/energetic if I have a good enough motivator
High self-esteem
No issues with substance abuse

I think I fit the "crying clown" stereotype maybe, the kind of person where everyone says after they ctb "wow I never would have guessed, he always seemed so happy and was so funny, always making people laugh, last time I saw him he was joking around and you couldn't tell at all he was going through so much. Why did he never say anything?"

The "positive" sides of my personality mask other stuff which people never see, only my parents who I live with actually get a glimpse of the reality but even then it's only superficial, they don't know my real thoughts. No one on earth knows my real thoughts. I am locked in my interiority, there's so much inside me that can't be expressed. I can't talk about the deepest stuff, or express it any other way than anonymously in writing like here or my poems. I do love people and many aspects of life, I hope to make people feel good when they're around me and make them smile and laugh, hope to be a good caring friend and good family member. I appreciate the connections I do have, even if they always feel a little empty and superficial because no one knows what is going on underneath and when I'm alone. And they never will unless I do one day ctb, and it will upset them that I didn't confide in them, but it simply was not possible.

 

[LilyLaroux2000]

Im also not very stereotypical. Im extroverted and cheerful. I love to be around people and make them smile while I smile with them. I have good hygiene and I often look quiet good. Like I do my hair wear nice clothes and some makeup. Altho Im quiet disfunctional. I cant really do anything when Im alone and I feel really miserable when Im alone.

At some point in my life I was that stereotype but after loosing everything I found out, nothing really matters so why not be all crazy and enjoy everything around you.

I even gained comfidence in that run of mine and at this point I often go to strangers and talk to then as if they are my friends. I hope it makes their day better.

 

[Namelesa]

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I only wash myself once a week (cus of autism sensitivity issues)
Self harm
Some morbid interests
Prefers autumn and winter (cus hate hot weather and have hay fever)
Low self-esteem most of the time
Wear mostly dark clothing
Somewhat emo
Some dark humor
Mostly pessimistic
Like sleeping and resting in bed for long periods of time
Makes disturbing art
Doesn't have job
Only have one friend really
Some dark taste in media

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No substance abuse (mostly cus I don't have access to much and when i have tried things they tasted disgusting)
Happy about my body and looks
Sometimes can be okay (I am in a cycle of being okay then miserable)

I am quite stereotypical

 

[TheHolySword]

I mean I have no close friends anymore and only leave the house to go to work so I guess I fit that bill. I don't talk to anyone on a daily basis. The friends I do have I see a few times a year. I eat very little day to day and stay in bed as long as possible. I take terrible care of my health and hygiene except on days that it's necessary. I do not do anything that requires any energy unless it is mandatory. If I were able I would rot in bed until I died. But no one in my life could tell you that I'm suicidal. Im cheery and active at work, I see family when I can and I never give a hint as to what's going on inside. I also don't indulge in the macabre, currently I'm rewatching yugioh and playing princess peach showtime

 

[savory]

Stereotyped. I can't imagine enjoying being around happy people while suicidal, or enjoying the company of people much at all. I'm either unable to work or barely hanging on by a thread. My personality, energy level, music preferences, habits, and interests shift noticeably

 

[Warlord's Pulse]

+
Morbid interests
Self harm
Essentially Introverted
Dark humor
Very very "dark" taste in music, films, books, art
Melancholic/pessimistic outlook on life
Into spirituality and philosophy
Can be contented to rot in bed/low energy/"lazy"
NEET currently, no proper career, started and quit a lot of stuff, made some impulsive big life changes
Single lol
Bad at sharing true feelings
Loves autumn and winter

-
Also love cute kawaii shit
Good with people and in social situations, has friends, good conversationalist
Maintains hygiene more or less normally
Completed education, can hold down jobs at least for a while
Funny
Close with family
Has had a LTR
Happy/bubbly/open/"good energy" impression on people
Normie fashion sense
Can be very productive/"on"/energetic if I have a good enough motivator
High self-esteem
No issues with substance abuse

I think I fit the "crying clown" stereotype maybe, the kind of person where everyone says after they ctb "wow I never would have guessed, he always seemed so happy and was so funny, always making people laugh, last time I saw him he was joking around and you couldn't tell at all he was going through so much. Why did he never say anything?"

The "positive" sides of my personality mask other stuff which people never see, only my parents who I live with actually get a glimpse of the reality but even then it's only superficial, they don't know my real thoughts. No one on earth knows my real thoughts. I am locked in my interiority, there's so much inside me that can't be expressed. I can't talk about the deepest stuff, or express it any other way than anonymously in writing like here or my poems. I do love people and many aspects of life, I hope to make people feel good when they're around me and make them smile and laugh, hope to be a good caring friend and good family member. I appreciate the connections I do have, even if they always feel a little empty and superficial because no one knows what is going on underneath and when I'm alone. And they never will unless I do one day ctb, and it will upset them that I didn't confide in them, but it simply was not possible.

You seem like a very sweet individual, also, really high effort reply, I usually don't have the patience

Im also not very stereotypical. Im extroverted and cheerful. I love to be around people and make them smile while I smile with them. I have good hygiene and I often look quiet good. Like I do my hair wear nice clothes and some makeup. Altho Im quiet disfunctional. I cant really do anything when Im alone and I feel really miserable when Im alone.

At some point in my life I was that stereotype but after loosing everything I found out, nothing really matters so why not be all crazy and enjoy everything around you.

I even gained comfidence in that run of mine and at this point I often go to strangers and talk to then as if they are my friends. I hope it makes their day better.

I think that's one of the "definitions" of extroverted people: they feel bad when alone
I agree, also had a "lost everything" experience and after that, I started to be a lot more active overall

I mean I have no close friends anymore and only leave the house to go to work so I guess I fit that bill. I don't talk to anyone on a daily basis. The friends I do have I see a few times a year. I eat very little day to day and stay in bed as long as possible. I take terrible care of my health and hygiene except on days that it's necessary. I do not do anything that requires any energy unless it is mandatory. If I were able I would rot in bed until I died. But no one in my life could tell you that I'm suicidal. Im cheery and active at work, I see family when I can and I never give a hint as to what's going on inside. I also don't indulge in the macabre, currently I'm rewatching yugioh and playing princess peach showtime

Being a good worker and nothing more than that is absurdly common, and I've seen some people turning out to be workaholic exactly because of this

 

[so_mais_um]

When we think about suicidal, we think about fairly dysfunctional individuals, who don't get out of bed, neglect hygiene, don't even eat, very introvert and often like melancholic and macabre content

I have a lot of traits "anti-stereotyped", for instance, I'm introvert but actually like to be around extrovert and happy people, my favorite season is actually spring, I prefer clothes with light colors, I'm very hygienical, exercise a lot etc

What about you?

Everyone knows I'm depressed lol and I don't do shit all day

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I guess I'm a stereotyped suicidal person but it isn't even suicidality that makes me be like this but rather my autism making me incapable of understanding and executing many basic things

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I've wanted to die throughout most of my life but I'm not mentally ill and have had a pretty good life overall. The only stereotypical aspect about me in this regard would be my history of self-harm. That's about it. Hell, my family was surprised when they first found out about one of my attempts, so I feel like that's pretty good confirmation that I don't possess most of the stereotypes associated with suicidal individuals. Sometimes, I wonder if that's part of why I feel like my feelings are invalid and why I don't relate to most of the people on here.

 

[mattoman]

I'm very extrovert person, I highly doubt anyone would notice that I suffer or that I'm suicidal. Or that's at least when I'm around people. I like to be around people but it's hard to show "my true self" to anyone. When I'm alone I couldn't really give two shits about anything. I go to work and see my friends when we make plans, but as I wrote on another thread, I can't see a moment when I could just casually say I'd want to ctb. Plus I really hate having the conversation with others about why do I feel this way. Being a burden to others is so exhausting plus it exhausts me even more when people continuously asks me "what's wrong, what is it". It's kinda funny because I would want someone to ask that, but when it gets too much, it gets too much. Hard to explain.

 

[Warlord's Pulse]

I'm very extrovert person, I highly doubt anyone would notice that I suffer or that I'm suicidal. Or that's at least when I'm around people. I like to be around people but it's hard to show "my true self" to anyone. When I'm alone I couldn't really give two shits about anything. I go to work and see my friends when we make plans, but as I wrote on another thread, I can't see a moment when I could just casually say I'd want to ctb. Plus I really hate having the conversation with others about why do I feel this way. Being a burden to others is so exhausting plus it exhausts me even more when people continuously asks me "what's wrong, what is it". It's kinda funny because I would want someone to ask that, but when it gets too much, it gets too much. Hard to explain.

It's hard to explain but I get your feeling. Honestly I'm personally am waaaay too past this "justifying" shit

 

[Opera]

When we think about suicidal, we think about fairly dysfunctional individuals, who don't get out of bed, neglect hygiene, don't even eat, very introvert and often like melancholic and macabre content

I have a lot of traits "anti-stereotyped", for instance, I'm introvert but actually like to be around extrovert and happy people, my favorite season is actually spring, I prefer clothes with light colors, I'm very hygienical, exercise a lot etc

What about you?

I feel like I'm very stereotypical, but with an interest with horror and crime

 

[-nobodyknows-]

Honestly I have no idea; maybe in some ways I am but I try to not wear that sort of stuff on my sleeve

 

[LostLily]

-Has a full time job,
-Has friends
-Likes to go out at least once a month to an event
-room is full of cute and nerdy things

Nope, I'm breaking all stereotypes

 

[savory]

Reading some of these answers, I'm curious what others make of the distinction between being suicidal and having suicidal ideation, if they see there being one

 

[Wonhun]

I did not aware it is a sterotype, I thought it is a natural outcome of suicidal person.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm mixed really. I work, I wash, I eat, I exercise (although, I've been slacking recently,) most of the time I sleep ok. So- to that extent, I suppose I'm high functioning.

Where I'm more typical- I isolate, I'm massively reluctant and lethargic- I just try to push through it. My environment is a mess. I'm clean but I don't care about my appearance- I hardly ever go out. I'm unhappy. I gravitate towards unhappy things. I think about suicide multiple times an hour I imagine.

It's hard to know whether people would be shocked if I did suicide. On the one hand, I would have thought it was obvious there was something off but then, I expect most people are visibly struggling to some extent.

 

[SVEN]

Folk who know me were amazed when I attempted to kill myself. So, I guess to outsiders I seem normal enough.

 

[Warlord's Pulse]

I did not aware it is a sterotype, I thought it is a natural outcome of suicidal person.

Cause and consequence can be confusing sometimes, indeed

But just think about celebrities that kill themselves

Reading some of these answers, I'm curious what others make of the distinction between being suicidal and having suicidal ideation, if they see there being one

Interest question

 

[savory]

Interest question

I think there's a distinction and it's the degree of risk for attempting suicide (in the near future). It's why a therapist will ask, "Do you have a plan?" and want to gauge any propensity toward self-harm, and be aware of previous suicide attempts. Most times I've had a suicidal thought, I wasn't suicidal.

I'm probably reading too much into it, not sure what I'm getting at. :P Carry on

 

[suffocating]

Stereotypical

- I hurt myself
- I don't have many friends
- I apologise excessively
- I don't leave the house much
- Some hygiene issues
- I'm into some dark music and literature
- No job
- Single
- Abusive parents
- Struggle to bring myself to eat and drink water
- I don't clean my room very much
- My nails are short and damaged. The skin around them is horror.
- Eye bags
- Bad with conversation, eye contact, etc.

Not stereotypical

- Friends
- I used to have someone I could genuinely talk to. She understood. I loved her... I cut her off because I felt I was constantly hurting her. She reached out after I told her not to. I hung up. She hasn't tried again.
- Normal fashion taste
- Loves cute shit
- Usually able to get through bare minimum
- Managed to force myself through highschool and do alright. I've graduated now.
- No issues with substance abuse
- OK with my body

 

[outatime_85]

I don't know if I am stereotypical or not.

I am a constant failure.

I have no support system.

I have zero friends.

No family contact.

No self-esteem, unworthy of anything but pain.

Nothing worth me still staying in the game of life

I am isolated; everything is a mess. I clean myself only when I start to smell and don't care about my appearance and go out only when necessary.

I am beyond being unhappy.

I am taking specific steps to prepare for my demise. I am putting my affairs in order and have been giving away my possessions, etc.

No one would care or miss me if I disappeared or offed myself.

 

[ploppington]

I have a lot of traits "anti-stereotyped", for instance, I'm introvert but actually like to be around extrovert and happy people, my favorite season is actually spring, I prefer clothes with light colors, I'm very hygienical, exercise a lot etc

What about you?

I am 100% the same way as well. I don't ever want anyone to know I am suicidal. The more alive and normal I look (when I can) the more I can live normally I guess.

 

[Warlord's Pulse]

Stereotypical

- I hurt myself
- I don't have many friends
- I apologise excessively
- I don't leave the house much
- Some hygiene issues
- I'm into some dark music and literature
- No job
- Single
- Abusive parents
- Struggle to bring myself to eat and drink water
- I don't clean my room very much
- My nails are short and damaged. The skin around them is horror.
- Eye bags
- Bad with conversation, eye contact, etc.

Not stereotypical

- Friends
- I used to have someone I could genuinely talk to. She understood. I loved her... I cut her off because I felt I was constantly hurting her. She reached out after I told her not to. I hung up. She hasn't tried again.
- Normal fashion taste
- Loves cute shit
- Usually able to get through bare minimum
- Managed to force myself through highschool and do alright. I've graduated now.
- No issues with substance abuse
- OK with my body

Interesting point about the nails, never thought about it

 

[insideitsempty]

stereotyped thanks to depression