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Angelic
- Aug 18, 2020
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I had this question when I read some comments. I can remember the member but I don't mention his name. He said he spent so much time in this forum, and just does not come close to ctb. He sees it as kind of unnecessary to be still around in this forum. It gave me a little bit the feeling as if he thinks only people who would be close to suicide fit into such a forum. This is personally not my position.
I think you can still be in this forum even if you will never ctb. I mean the future is hard to predict, in the end we cannot forsee the future. It is kind of uncertain. Moreover I think it is better not to think in this way. There should not be any pressure to ctb. You can also be a longterm member without killing yourself. For example in my case this forum helps to decrease my suicidality. It is a good valve. Without it I would feel way more lonely and I had to suppress all these thoughts.
So the first hypothesis would be only people who are close to suicide spend time in suicide forums. I don't think this is the truth.
I think it depends on the individual very much. I read one time a member said he made a little break of visiting this forum. And he became more positive about life. He quit this forum afterwards. Though this is in contrast to my experience. I tried to quit this forum after the NYT article because I was so scared. And the time without this forum was bone-crushing. Maybe one cannot find out a certain type of people who are prone to visiting suicide forums. However there is the high likelihood that the person is suicidal or at least a journalist when the person visits this forum regularly.
Maybe the relationship to such a forum is as individual as the relation to death/suicide in general. It is pretty difficult to find a person that exactly has the same relation with suicide as oneself. There are often nuances where we all differ.
I think there are some variables. Like for example as what we perceive this forum. Some are here to learn about methods. I think this was true for me and for many other members. But then they felt comforted by writting here. And postponed or even cancelled their plans for suicide (for a certain time-period?).
I think this forum has a very different influence on different members.
I think some people feel bad when they read so much about suffering. I can relate to that. It is really an ambivalent feeling which I have towards it. I think I already made a thread about it. On the one hand I am very sorry that the person is suffering so much but on the other hand I feel comforted because I see I am not the only one who suffers/or experiences such a pain/ the person has similar thoughts as me. I have some rules in order to protect me from getting influenced badly.
I think this forum has become a good tool for me as a valve and a place where I can share my most inner feelings with people who understand me. I think being severely suicide is kind of a unique experience. There are not many situations which have a similar impact on a person. Maybe I just don't come close to the trait that connects us. Maybe it is the fact we consider suicide as an option. But then again we could try to dig deeper into different kinds of suicidality. Yeah and this is a topic I rather try to avoid because I don't know enough about it and I don't want to hurt other people. Such categories can easily be influenced by false stereotpyes and prejudices.
What are your thoughts on this topic?
Is there a trait that links us all together? Or can't we do such a generalization?
I think you can still be in this forum even if you will never ctb. I mean the future is hard to predict, in the end we cannot forsee the future. It is kind of uncertain. Moreover I think it is better not to think in this way. There should not be any pressure to ctb. You can also be a longterm member without killing yourself. For example in my case this forum helps to decrease my suicidality. It is a good valve. Without it I would feel way more lonely and I had to suppress all these thoughts.
So the first hypothesis would be only people who are close to suicide spend time in suicide forums. I don't think this is the truth.
I think it depends on the individual very much. I read one time a member said he made a little break of visiting this forum. And he became more positive about life. He quit this forum afterwards. Though this is in contrast to my experience. I tried to quit this forum after the NYT article because I was so scared. And the time without this forum was bone-crushing. Maybe one cannot find out a certain type of people who are prone to visiting suicide forums. However there is the high likelihood that the person is suicidal or at least a journalist when the person visits this forum regularly.
Maybe the relationship to such a forum is as individual as the relation to death/suicide in general. It is pretty difficult to find a person that exactly has the same relation with suicide as oneself. There are often nuances where we all differ.
I think there are some variables. Like for example as what we perceive this forum. Some are here to learn about methods. I think this was true for me and for many other members. But then they felt comforted by writting here. And postponed or even cancelled their plans for suicide (for a certain time-period?).
I think this forum has a very different influence on different members.
I think some people feel bad when they read so much about suffering. I can relate to that. It is really an ambivalent feeling which I have towards it. I think I already made a thread about it. On the one hand I am very sorry that the person is suffering so much but on the other hand I feel comforted because I see I am not the only one who suffers/or experiences such a pain/ the person has similar thoughts as me. I have some rules in order to protect me from getting influenced badly.
I think this forum has become a good tool for me as a valve and a place where I can share my most inner feelings with people who understand me. I think being severely suicide is kind of a unique experience. There are not many situations which have a similar impact on a person. Maybe I just don't come close to the trait that connects us. Maybe it is the fact we consider suicide as an option. But then again we could try to dig deeper into different kinds of suicidality. Yeah and this is a topic I rather try to avoid because I don't know enough about it and I don't want to hurt other people. Such categories can easily be influenced by false stereotpyes and prejudices.
What are your thoughts on this topic?
Is there a trait that links us all together? Or can't we do such a generalization?