Help Are there any statistics on suicide beraved people/parents who have lost a child to suicide?

[Pessimist]

What happens to parents after the suicide of their child, do they recover, etc...

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

What happens to parents after the suicide of their child, do they recover, etc...

Hopefully they suffer a lot. Fuck breeders.

 

[FuneralCry]

I looked online and one said people who are grieving a suicide are 64% more likely to attempt suicide themselves.

 

[LastFlowers]

I've actually looked up a bunch of "aftermath" pov stories told from those "left behind" (both openly public and anonymous) over the years, and a staggering amount move on just fine, like to an insulting degree, it was very difficult for me to find anyone who was still suffering after some time had passed.
After all my research I could say I might have found ONE (excluding those on this site), but everyone around her was over it and they seemingly began to demonize her prolonged grief as well (even other immediate family members were ready to be done with her tears.)
..But to be fair, I am obviously unable to include those who keep to themselves and don't post things on the internet, so I could be missing a large pool of people who succumbed to their grief.
I happen to know my family will not be one of those people, they've already moved far and away beyond me, though I am still technically alive.
Won't be much different when I'm dead, they might attempt to get some shoulder rubs and FB attention fishing posts squeezed out of my rotting corpse but that's about it, they don't actually give enough of a damn to suffer.
And certainly not anywhere near the degree that I have in order to push me to ctb.

 

[listeningpost1379]

Can't say about suicide but I can give some anecdote re:death of a child. When I was 16, my best friend had a fever, fell into a coma and passed away 3 weeks later. The hospital never found out what afflicted him (we are from a third world country so health care quality might not have been ideal). I don't think that family ever recovered. They moved on with grace but I was close enough to them to see first hand how not okay his parents were years after. I think him not being an only child helped a lot, his sister is living life to the fullest and they dote on her.

 

[Efilismislife]

Hopefully they suffer a lot. Fuck breeders.

Especially abusive, neglected parents.
I was gonna say not every parents are evil/bad but then again....a happy child wont kill themselves and the parents might somehow correlated to it.

I've actually looked up a bunch of "aftermath" pov stories told from those "left behind" (both openly public and anonymous) over the years, and a staggering amount move on just fine, like to an insulting degree, it was very difficult for me to find anyone who was still suffering after some time had passed.
After all my research I could say I might have found ONE (excluding those on this site), but everyone around her was over it and they seemingly began to demonize her prolonged grief as well (even other immediate family members were ready to be done with her tears.)
..But to be fair, I am obviously unable to include those who keep to themselves and don't post things on the internet, so I could be missing a large pool of people who succumbed to their grief.
I happen to know my family will not be one of those people, they've already moved far and away beyond me, though I am still technically alive.
Won't be much different when I'm dead, they might attempt to get some shoulder rubs and FB attention fishing posts squeezed out of my rotting corpse but that's about it, they don't actually give enough of a damn to suffer.
And certainly not anywhere near the degree that I have in order to push me to ctb.

Yeah that happens. Like they said people move on and forget about those who are behind

my mom even said to me when im sick
"Youre the only one who feel your pain! People born alone and die alone! Deal with it&stop crying!"

 

[LastFlowers]

Can't say about suicide but I can give some anecdote re:death of a child. When I was 16, my best friend had a fever, fell into a coma and passed away 3 weeks later. The hospital never found out what afflicted him (we are from a third world country so health care quality might not have been ideal). I don't think that family ever recovered. They moved on with grace but I was close enough to them to see first hand how not okay his parents were years after. I think him not being an only child helped a lot, his sister is living life to the fullest and they dote on her.

To be painfully honest, that is actually what I'm worried about..the doting..I really do not want my suicide to further benefit my siblings or any other family members, they don't deserve it in the slightest, not when I was left to rot with things unimaginable to them.
My suicide has the purpose of ending my suffering-but I fear it will also increase the spoils of life that will be bestowed upon those around me who remain alive, like I am basically handing over my portion of life that I never got a chance to devour, so that they can overstuff their already full stomachs.
It actually makes me sick.
But I can't continue to live just to spite them, I've thought about doing so but the pain for myself will be unbearable and I will likely snap in an obscene and violent way if I remain here, under increasing duress.

 

[Largeletters]

Especially abusive, neglected parents.
I was gonna say not every parents are evil/bad but then again....a happy child wont kill themselves and the parents might somehow correlated to it.

Yeah that happens. Like they said people move on and forget about those who are behind

my mom even said to me when im sick
"Youre the only one who feel your pain! People born alone and die alone! Deal with it&stop crying!"

I am very sorry your parents are this way.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

stop crying

I actually agree with this part.

 

[Wrennie]

What happens to parents after the suicide of their child, do they recover, etc...

My best friend lost her adopted son to suicide and was a genuinely loving & supportive mother to him, but before she adopted him he had a history of abuse & rape that stemmed from early childhood (an MRI of his brain showed what looked like "holes" in it from the severe stress/high cortisol and developmental damage the abuse caused him). So regardless of what she did to try and save him, and all of the love she gave to him, it ultimately wasn't enough to erase his pain.

My friend still hasn't recovered. But instead of coming to terms with his decision, she still blames him for taking his own life. She views suicide as an inherently selfish act and blew up at me when I expressed my own desire to die to her. I don't fault her though, because I know her anger is the only way she can cope with the grief that such a profound loss has caused her.

We don't really talk much anymore. Mostly because I don't want my current state to trigger her.

 

[Efilismislife]

I actually agree with this part.

Its a normal autonomic reflex to pain though unless the nervous system&brain malfunctioning

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Its a normal autonomic reflex to pain though unless the nervous system&brain malfunctioning

It's normal to be fucking retarded as well, but we don't want that.

 

[Symbiote]

No, but if you go on www.reddit.com/r/suicidebereavement there's stories of the people left behind. Emotions range from anger to blame to depression.

 

[listeningpost1379]

To be painfully honest, that is actually what I'm worried about..the doting..I really do not want my suicide to further benefit my siblings or any other family members, they don't deserve it in the slightest, not when I was left to rot with things unimaginable to them.
My suicide has the purpose of ending my suffering-but I fear it will also increase the spoils of life that will be bestowed upon those around me who remain alive, like I am basically handing over my portion of life that I never got a chance to devour, so that they can overstuff their already full stomachs.
It actually makes me sick.
But I can't continue to live just to spite them, I've thought about doing so but the pain for myself will be unbearable and I will likely snap in an obscene and violent way if I remain here, under increasing duress.

I'm so sorry, its such a lose-lose situation :( Since its already this way, please always put yourself first. Only you can do it for yourself. Lets try to focus on making ourselves most comfortable

 

[Efilismislife]

Holes? What holes?
From cortisol?

I do know about cortisol the stress hormone.

i did read that being abused affected health and brain. Thats also what happened to my health

My best friend lost her adopted son to suicide and was a genuinely loving & supportive mother to him, but before she adopted him he had a history of abuse & rape that stemmed from early childhood (an MRI of his brain showed what looked like "holes" in it from the severe stress/high cortisol and developmental damage the abuse caused him). So regardless of what she did to try and save him, and all of the love she gave to him, it ultimately wasn't enough to erase his pain.

My friend still hasn't recovered. But instead of coming to terms with his decision, she still blames him for taking his own life. She views suicide as an inherently selfish act and blew up at me when I expressed my own desire to die to her. I don't fault her though, because I know her anger is the only way she can cope with the grief that such a profound loss has caused her.

We don't really talk much anymore. Mostly because I don't want my current state to trigger her.

 

[Wrennie]

Holes? What holes?
From cortisol?

I do know about cortisol the stress hormone.

i did read that being abused affected health and brain. Thats also what happened to my health

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

I'm very worried about the pain I'll cause to my parents, and twin specially tbh. Both my parents had expressed passive suicidal thoughts like "I wish I was death, I wish I could sleep and never wake up, etc" so I am worried that my suicide will make them more suicidal in some way. However their actions contributed a lot to me being in this situation. Specially my mom. So I don't feel so much guilt.

But with my sister… oh I feel so guilty because she has always being very kind and never done anything to drive me to this place and I am sure my ctb would cause so much pain and trauma. I also feel I need to take care of her since she's very naive and my mom has been awful at taking proper care of her. So I sort of feel like I need to stay to "protect" her. Yet I feel I just can't keep suffering for someone else so it's a very hard decision.

 

[Efilismislife]

But you cant expect not to produce a smoke when you burn a fire. Everything is cause-effect.


That judgement is putting blame to depressed&suicidal people, ignoring the cause(theyre abused/suffering)

But nobody choose to become depressed

It's normal to be fucking retarded as well, but we don't want that.

 

[ClairyFairy]

People who say the parents have moved on and don't suffer I don't think that's entirely true. There comes a time when people's grief becomes burdensome to those around them. Other people move on and (we don't have a word for it) but other people think well xyz took their own life, they didn't wanna be here get over it already so then they have to start internalising a lot of their grief. If you're out to make them suffer they will :! They'll never move on but the world will

 

[N2Narcosis]

Hopefully they suffer a lot. Fuck breeders.

Based

 

[Latios]

Fuck breeders.

I don't know if that's a good idea. It'll just result in more innocent people being brought to this shithole of a planet. :P

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

I don't know if that's a good idea. It'll just result in more innocent people being brought to this shithole of a planet. :P

Anyone I take in, I'll take out.

 

[lovelyheartz]

I figure, I'm going to die anyway, and unless I live my life as a hermit, some people are going to be heartbroken when I die. That's just how death works... I don't think it being a suicide would make it worse.