Discussion Anyone with social anxiety trying to make friends?

[Greyhawk]

I have really severe social anxiety. I'm sure I've complained about it before. It's so bad that I pretty much freeze up or can't really talk to new people when I'm sober... I literally fear other people so much that I can't even make friends through forums like this. At least not yet. I'm trying to make a change.

I was just at a bar and I wanted to talk to someone so bad. However, the feeling of repulsiveness and self-hatred filled me and I just ended up being alone and leaving. I can see it. Everyone wants me to go away, to disappear. It really makes me want to blow my head off. Then they would be happy :).

I remember a few nights when I could talk to some random people when I was drunk but I can't even do that anymore. How do you beat this???
I really don't know anymore. I have so bad conversational skills too since it's been a long time I talked to other people. Maybe I'm meant to be alone.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I have really severe social anxiety. I'm sure I've complained about it before. It's so bad that I pretty much freeze up or can't really talk to new people when I'm sober... I literally fear other people so much that I can't even make friends through forums like this. At least not yet. I'm trying to make a change.

I was just at a bar and I wanted to talk to someone so bad. However, the feeling of repulsiveness and self-hatred filled me and I just ended up being alone and leaving. I can see it. Everyone wants me to go away, to disappear. It really makes me want to blow my head off. Then they would be happy :).

I remember a few nights when I could talk to some random people when I was drunk but I can't even do that anymore. How do you beat this???
I really don't know anymore. I have so bad conversational skills too since it's been a long time I talked to other people. Maybe I'm meant to be alone.

I'm the same. Though I've given up on socializing. The world is a ceasepool. Just as SI holds us back, some other instinct makes us wish we could socialize even though we know we can't. The world laughs at our pain.

 

[cocoseal]

I feel like this but I can talk to people but lately I just feel SOO different. I feel like I cant connect with people, its really hard for me to that's why making friends is so hard for me. Maybe we can be friends t dude!

 

[Pale_Rider]

I was always awkward, but then life experiences can just push you right over the edge. Now there can be no communication. Not meaningful anyways.

 

[gunmetalblue11]

I heavily relate to your struggle. I've literally become agoraphobic with time.
In the past generally my social anxiety would relax, obviously with booze too, but also knowing someone in the circle I was interacting with. Kind of like my rock or life line. But then again you have to find that person first, and when your completely alone it's practically impossible.
I hope you manage to stumble on someone who could become a positive influence and friend for you.