I've been involved with some of these types. I didn't make the best target for a long term con and I think it's because I watched my mom be abused by one in my early years. As soon as I began to see that they were dangerous it triggered a flight response and I would get out or leave soon enough out of the situation.
I did have one 3 year involvement with one that was harder to get out of because he got me to move in with him in the honeymoon phase of the relationship. It wasn't physical abusive, but he became controlling and mentally abusive. He did wear me down psychologically to the point it was difficult to leave. After that I became much more scared to get involved again knowing that I tend to be attracted to men who are not good for me.
I did have more brief involvements with a couple more antisocials after that longer term relationship but I knew I would never allow one to pull me into a bad living situation again. It's difficult for me to attach to men who are not narcissists, psychopaths, or other similar disorders and knowing this made me realize that unless I got therapy it's not a good idea for me to attempt relationships. If the man is not an antisocial I will mistreat the guy, not on purpose, it's like the situation is reversed and it triggers me to become shitty to them when they are very nice, predictable, etc. It's called inverted narcissism.
