Venting Anyone else live with their parents who they despise?

[Tarucest]

I told my mom about everything and this is what she said:
"Its a long term solution for a temporary problem!"
"You're just not thinking positive!"
"You have medication and a therapist you have no reason to be upset!"
Im not telling my dad because i want him dead anyways so what's the point in wasting my breath-
I deal with years of their abuse and bullying from my weight to my intelligence, and im just supposed to get over it?
Cant be the only one with parents who act like know-it-alls...

 

[spiritedspirit]

All parents are worth less than the poop on the shoe

 

[Hotsackage]

no one can understand. better. why i dont say shite to anyone

 

[Unsure and Useless]

My mother liked to remind me how "expensive" it is to take care of a child like me who had a condition I've had from birth which required me to take medications and see a specialist. Plus, anytime I argued with her, she'd always apologize for being such a "good person" or for "trying to be nice" when she is the one who escalates them in the first place. The list goes on.

So you're not alone in having terrible parents, which I think you know already since many people on this forum also have bad guardians. I don't have any good advice since I'm also struggling with the verbal abuse I've went through, nor do I know if you want such "advice", but knowing your parents are garbage is the first step into realizing that they say such rude things because they're too lazy to actually connect/empathize with their children.

Parents are supposed to love their children for what they are, not because they could be their "perfect child".

im just supposed to get over it

Also, anyone who says this is definitely ignorant. You can't just "get over" your parents, who are supposed to be nurturing and unconditionally loving, degrading you for not being who they want you to be.

As for parents who say this, they usually adopt this abusive behavior from their own parents, and they tend to complain about how said parents were cruel (though I don't know if this applies to your parents). Why don't they get over it themselves before telling that to their kids?

 

[freevoid]

I told my mom about everything and this is what she said:
"Its a long term solution for a temporary problem!"
"You're just not thinking positive!"
"You have medication and a therapist you have no reason to be upset!"
Im not telling my dad because i want him dead anyways so what's the point in wasting my breath-
I deal with years of their abuse and bullying from my weight to my intelligence, and im just supposed to get over it?
Cant be the only one with parents who act like know-it-alls...

I can relate, on a less extreme level. I don't despise them, but they are, simply put, emotionally stunted/retarted.

Any attempts to talk about how their behaviour affected me is me "holding a grudge" and I just "need to leave the past in the past", even with behaviour that is still continued. Being constantly needled and pushed to a point where I snap and then acting like the victim when I point out they don't ever listen until the other person gets frustrated. Doing things I never asked for/giving me things I never asked for then whining and acting like a martyr when I'm not grateful. Oftentimes just nothing...no response or input or anything. Just completely left hanging. Silent treatment when I set boundarious. Non-sensical circular arguments when I try to logically talk something out. Non-existent listening skills.

And then the other things you said...asinine empty platitudes like "keep trying" and "just keep thinking positive" and the most irritating one, "your life is worth living!". Lmao how the fuck would you know?! And yet the offer of actually trying to understand my situation by living somewhat like me for a week, with all my restrictions, goes unfulfilled...hah funny. My life is worth living as long as they don't have to live it.

My parents are emotionally on the level of a 5 year old. It's exhausting. I avoid talking to them as much as possible even though I'm stuck living with them.

I'm sorry you're in a similar and worse situation.

 

[missingpeace]

My parents have always been takers in my life but never givers.. my mother parentified me at a young age and gave me the responsibility of looking out for her and being the mature, aware one while my father took out is inner self-hatred out on me by constantly shaming, humiliating and belittling me. I'm 39yo now and I've never felt any closeness to either of them, never said 'I love you' even the thought of doing that irks me. They will probably be devastated when I CTB but they will never own up to how they mistreated me.

 

[CantWait2D1E]

Yeah, IK how you feel. I don't really despise them, I more so despise myself for ending up back here at the family home. They've really done the best they could to provide me a good life and I'm the one fucking it up.

I remember how excited I was at the prospect of leaving my parents and starting my own life when high school was coming to a close. Even though I had no idea what I wanted to do with myself, I knew I wanted out. First thing I tried was the military. My father being a vet got me ready for that the best he could teaching me how to shoot. For a multitude of reasons I quit that and came back home. Held the odd job here and there for a while then I gave university a try. My parents, paid for it fully and even got me an apartment. Again, quit that and ended up back at the same spot. Common trend that, me giving up despite their "support". I could blame my actions on mental health or whatever but honestly if anything I just got little bitch syndrome. My parents raised a weak boy and not a man capable of navigating his way through the world.

Now, the only thing I've felt most certain of is my desire to CTB. And they're the biggest obstacle in the way of that. I'm completely terrified being in the same bedroom I practically grew up in, and the prospect of me staying there for the rest of my days it seems. I feel like their pet here now. They don't even give a shit that I don't work anymore and spend most of the day sleeping or just being unproductive. As long as im alive they're happy I guess.

If you're like me, maybe it's just best we bide our time and wait for our folks to pass. Cause then it'll really be do or die. We'll be forced to do the things we don't wanna do for our survival. Or alternatively, we can CTB without anyone holding us back.