Anyone else ironically treated badly for expressing depression by someone who attempted suicide?

[thetwilightzone]

This was the case for me, the person who was outwardly hostile towards me expressing my suicidal ideation was ironically someone who attempted suicide? Any explanation for that?

People say that people who treat suicidal people badly haven't gone through the same thing so they lack empathy but what's the explanation for these cases. In fact, the people who actually went out of their way to give me a book titled "Elation and Depression" were the happiest people. They never called suicide selfish or cowardly (well to be fair for no one in my school ever said similar things but that guy did give the impression that my depression was 'weak' or 'silly' i.e. what do you have to be sad about). They also never critisized me to my face.

My theory is that almost certainly, he was indoctrinated with "tough love" by family/therapist or he had these "ephiphanies" and thinks that being "tough" will prevent him from ever reaching that low point.

 

[shadow11]

This was the case for me, the person who was outwardly hostile towards me expressing my suicidal ideation was ironically someone who attempted suicide? Any explanation for that?

People say that people who treat suicidal people badly haven't gone through the same thing so they lack empathy but what's the explanation for these cases. In fact, the people who actually went out of their way to give me a book titled "Elation and Depression" were the happiest people. They never called suicide selfish or cowardly (well to be fair for no one in my school ever said similar things but that guy did give the impression that my depression was 'weak' or 'silly' i.e. what do you have to be sad about). They also never critisized me to my face.

My theory is that almost certainly, he was indoctrinated with "tough love" by family/therapist or he had these "ephiphanies" and thinks that being "tough" will prevent him from ever reaching that low point.

My sister thinks I should just shake it off and be ok

 

[Ssname]

My sister thinks I should just shake it off and be ok

I'm ashamed to say I used to think along similar lines when my brother was depressed. I did all the things I thought would "help" him but I know know were harmful. Believe me I have apologised profusely since I was able to relate and we have a good relationship now. At the time I just had no idea. I would like to apologise on behalf of other well meaning peoples in all of your lives who have no idea.