Discussion Anyone else here avoid going to the doctor?

[Pallf]

I'm a fatass. It's not exactly hard to see that. I've been avoiding going to the gyno for a few years now because I was humiliated about my weight and mental health issues.
I know it's important to go get checked out so I don't get cervical cancer or something similar, but I'm scared it will happen again so I've been refusing to set up an appointment.
Yes I know I should lose weight, it's just after all these years of being picked on at home and at school I've begun to stop caring about my health in regards to weight. After awhile you just become indifferent.

 

[nerve]

Yep.

My insurance dries up if I don't have a check-up every year and still I'm like "I can't fucking do this." Like I can go see a doctor if I feel sick or something, but specifically going there to have my physical state observed and recorded is just too much.

I'm 26 and have managed to avoid seeing a OB/GYN thus far in my life. My mother couldn't be bothered to take me to one as a teenager and now it's this horrifying nebulous thing I have no idea about. I just know I don't want anyone seeing or touching me.

 

[kappa]

It's a bad habit to get into. As long as you shower beforehand I honestly don't think they give it much thought. They are in the practice so they see a lot of bodies.

It's better to catch it early than to wait until a very abnormal pap may come back.

@nerve I hope sometime soon you will see a OB/GYN. My mother made me terrified of them by how she talked about them. It's a little awkward for the first but it gets better. More of a yearly annoyance than anything else.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Doctors are garbage unless they go rogue and start providing euthanasia to suffering patients. If I somehow get a salary going I might try to smoke several packs of death sticks every day and never visit a doctor. Not to actually die from lung cancer, but instead to burn the boats and have no way out but which ever method I have on hand at that moment.

 

[noname223]

I would really advice trying therapy. For some it is THE solution. For me it improved my situation but not enough

 

[raison_d'etre]

i think i relate in a way, im 19m and im only 91 pounds, my friends and even my gf sometimes make joking remakes that make me self-conscious about my weight. most of my friends and my family get on me about eating right and whatnot, and talk about how i should go to the doctor to check if theres something with my metabolism or if its just me, slowly wasting away

i feel you on becoming indifferent to it, i kinda just live with it at this point. waning mental, and physical health. im getting myself help slowly, and eventually ill get somewhere, but with everyone around me trying to guide me down a worse path its tough. i recommend thinking about what you really want, and how you want to get there. when you think of a good plan, and a place to start, don't tell anyone, keep it to yourself and try your best to live by it yourself. in my experience people only make things worse, let them say what they say, get it for you and only for you :)

stay strong
~rasion_d'etre

 

[Kattt]

I was assaulted by a doctor in the hospital when i was 8, so yeah.....no.....I don't do doctors

 

[ihatemylife]

I'm a fatass. It's not exactly hard to see that. I've been avoiding going to the gyno for a few years now because I was humiliated about my weight and mental health issues.
I know it's important to go get checked out so I don't get cervical cancer or something similar, but I'm scared it will happen again so I've been refusing to set up an appointment.
Yes I know I should lose weight, it's just after all these years of being picked on at home and at school I've begun to stop caring about my health in regards to weight. After awhile you just become indifferent.

Don't let the fact you are overweight stop you from taking care of yourself. If people don't like it, screw them and the truth is people are so wrapped up in themselves they are barely even noticing your weight. Especially Drs they have seen everything before. An overweight person is nothing out of the ordinary to them.

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

I used to enjoy going. Now it's triggering. They are so safe and rich and they don't give me the meds I ask for.

 

[FuneralCry]

As much as I possibly can. Whenever I think about it,I experience a feeling of dread. However when so much is capable of going wrong in our bodies, it is inevitable that I will have to.

 

[Pallf]

I was assaulted by a doctor in the hospital when i was 8, so yeah.....no.....I don't do doctors

I'm so sorry that happened. I hope the doctor is rotting in a prison cell somewhere.

 

[miminkpo]

My father had used ''going to the doctor'' as a threat since I was little and felt the least sick. So I don't really like going, first off. Then, the times I've gone they haven't done a very good job. Most of the time they just send you home, tell you they'll call and you don't hear of them again for 3 months. You'll probably end up going there again, thinking they've forgot. Of course they'll tell you in a snarky ass voice that you'd have to wait for the call.

 

[ven]

Yes, in the past doctors have hit on me, attempted to intimidate me into accepting elective procedure for money, committed insurance fraud, and misdiagnosed me several times in the past. Mental health practitioners are no better, each human has their own limited criteria and cognitive biases toward preferential diagnosing and treatment. They'll attempt to fit you into a narrow scope to immediately begin a trial by error treatment process that doesn't fit and ultimately falls. It's a shockingly loose and inaccurate process. This is also why many people decide to avoid treatment, because it's a large waste of time and effort to feel worse than before you went to see the doctor. Initially, I put too much faith in humanity and doctors, I'm not double-downing on that err of judgement.

I think I've learned that my issues are existential and cannot be solved by a doctor.

 

[Deleted member 32964]

Yes, in the past doctors have hit on me, attempted to intimidate me into accepting elective procedure for money, committed insurance fraud, and misdiagnosed me several times in the past. Mental health practitioners are no better, each human has their own limited criteria and cognitive biases toward preferential diagnosing and treatment. They'll attempt to fit you into a narrow scope to immediately begin a trial by error treatment process that doesn't fit and ultimately falls. It's a shockingly loose and inaccurate process. This is also why many people decide to avoid treatment, because it's a large waste of time and effort to feel worse than before you went to see the doctor. Initially, I put too much faith in humanity and doctors, I'm not double-downing on that err of judgement.

I think I've learned that my issues are existential and cannot be solved by a doctor.

me too. In fact, I emailed one and called him a scam artist who imprisons chilren to help men get away with nuclear 50's abuse in the home. now that I am OLDER and mentally ill (very) I avoid the doctor. They shame, seek to humiliate, have become nasty when talking about personal issues (sexual abuse). They've offered sedatives that have kept me on my floor in a ball. I've decided that mine are existential as well (eg: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing = see para abt forced suicide) and that mine is a "revenge". I have no idea how else to put it. Based on what I've seen elsewhere, I'll believe in negative forces inflicing pain and suffering on those who offended them and reserve my right to not SUBMIT and believe my delusions about "spirit" and "ghosts" that live in more than phsyical form, bad energy, a sense of entrapment of "I'm all you get" and being an orca beaching oneself who cannot communicate with her pod in her feminist psychic realm are real. I'll leave it at that. I'll take the bad days and the drinking binges. In the end, I'll use naturopath remedies, exercise, healthy eating, try to learn from my own behavior problems, self-improve, self-destruct, wind up homeless alone and terrified and hopefully brush off again and find momentum and stop waiting for the opportunity to feel better with a pill to fall into my lap. This many years on - NOTHING has helped.

me too. In fact, I emailed one and called him a scam artist who imprisons chilren to help men get away with nuclear 50's abuse in the home. now that I am OLDER and mentally ill (very) I avoid the doctor. They shame, seek to humiliate, have become nasty when talking about personal issues (sexual abuse). They've offered sedatives that have kept me on my floor in a ball. I've decided that mine are existential as well (eg: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing = see para abt forced suicide) and that mine is a "revenge". I have no idea how else to put it. Based on what I've seen elsewhere, I'll believe in negative forces inflicing pain and suffering on those who offended them and reserve my right to not SUBMIT and believe my delusions about "spirit" and "ghosts" that live in more than phsyical form, bad energy, a sense of entrapment of "I'm all you get" and being an orca beaching oneself who cannot communicate with her pod in her feminist psychic realm are real. I'll leave it at that. I'll take the bad days and the drinking binges. In the end, I'll use naturopath remedies, exercise, healthy eating, try to learn from my own behavior problems, self-improve, self-destruct, wind up homeless alone and terrified and hopefully brush off again and find momentum and stop waiting for the opportunity to feel better with a pill to fall into my lap. This many years on - NOTHING has helped. My father explained to me when we were in a car that these people feel "magnetized" - they feel pushed into it. Physically, for me - suicide is not a conscious decision sometimes. People who are still talking to someone who isn't there are being made asses of and shamed and humiliated in public. My experiences with it (on my own) and watching others as they fall into the same role has been very depressing. My views on suicide are very different from others.