Anyone else feel like the world's punching bag?

[escapefromabuse]

I don't want to sound angsty and pitiful but does anyone else ever feel like the world's punching bag?

I'm quiet spoken, easy going and easy to get along with. I detest conflict and avoid it as much as I can. I think this has made me a target for people to take advantage of me. Even my own mother talks down to me in ways she doesn't to my siblings. It's really worn me down.

 

[HighwayToHell]

Haha yeah, I'm not bitter about it anymore though. If anything it's fuel to escape this place. Just gotta plan.

But I hate planning

 

[Pan]

What is wrong, exactly, with a healthy, self administered dose of self pity? Everyone has the right to lick one's wounds, and to indulge in mood candy. When you engage in self pity, the perennial question "why me?" begs an answer. There is nothing wrong with that basic existential question.

 

[Ghost2211]

As cruel as it is some people see being passive or meek as weakness. Sounds like you need a new social circle.

 

[Heady_Cerebrum]

No, I've never felt that way. I don't let people treat me that way, ever. Regardless of health problems I have intrinsic value and no one can take that away from me except me. I was taught that I teach others how to treat me, if I allow bullshit that bullshit will continue.

 

[Cevapcici]

All too relatable. And no, you aren't " stuck in a vicious circle of self pity" if you ask yourself "why me?" and at times feel sorry for yourself. Everyone has a right to self compassion. If you feel like you've been the world's punching bag for years, you probably were struck by a lot of injustice. I'm sorry you had to experience abusive patenting, low self-esteem, and a bunch of melevalent people preying upon you as a result . Trauma attracts more trauma.


*Edit : spelling miskates

 

[issyishere]

I've felt like an outsider ever since I was born. The universe just hates me for some reason. When I'm finally okay and well it decides to fuck me over again. I'm right there with you

 

[mukluk0713]

I hate this idea that self pity is weak and whiny. If you've been through horrible shit in life, why is it considered weakness to grieve and wonder why it is happening? Why it's never enough pain? Please don't worry about sounding 'angsty and pitiful', the only people who would say things like that are the same ones who will shit on someone for 'crying for attention' and then wish they would have 'seen the signs'. It's a horrific side effect of this world that teaches people to bottle up and conceal what they are really feeling for the comfort of others who don't even deserve that consideration.

It really does feel sometimes like the universe just hates some of us. I say it all the time and people think I'm joking but for so many of us here, it's like... really? Again? Every time something goes horribly wrong it just feels like par for the course. Makes me wonder if we're in some kind of matrix shit and the random number generator or whatever that picks our lives just decided some of us should get perpetually shit on.

Sending love to all. Right there with you guys.

 

[throwaway123]

yup.
in this world only the ego thrives.

 

[Time]

I don't want to sound angsty and pitiful but does anyone else ever feel like the world's punching bag?

I'm quiet spoken, easy going and easy to get along with. I detest conflict and avoid it as much as I can. I think this has made me a target for people to take advantage of me. Even my own mother talks down to me in ways she doesn't to my siblings. It's really worn me down.

Absolutely. I think most want somewhere to take out their issues & people like us are easy targets. With that said, I have a history of taking my issues out on others by putting people down. It's not something that I ever plan to do but there are too many times where I'll say something that belittles another & afterwards I'll think to myself "WOW, WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT ABOUT?!?"

Especially when I can see the pain on their face.

Deep rooted issues finding an angle whenever, wherever possible I guess. And this struggle to control these reactions definitely plays a role in me wanting to ctb. There's enough pain in this world without my BS.

 

[Pan]

Yes, I would agree with you; sick twisted individuals see people like us as easy targets, and do what they can to vent their bitterness on troubled folks. No wonder that I am a proud misanthrope.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

I don't want to sound angsty and pitiful but does anyone else ever feel like the world's punching bag?

I'm quiet spoken, easy going and easy to get along with. I detest conflict and avoid it as much as I can. I think this has made me a target for people to take advantage of me. Even my own mother talks down to me in ways she doesn't to my siblings. It's really worn me down.

(Reads title) YES!!!!
I do my whole family constantly talks down to me. Uses me as the scapegoat for everything. Constantly gaslighting in everything especially in conversation.

Then it's like got fucked up issues that I should only be speaking to professionals about but they look down and talk down to me too. Anytime I try to bring it up I'm met with that "paranoid illogical mentally I'll person" look/vibe.

I'm so fucking sick of it its takes so fucking much to not be so god damn angry sometimes

 

[Pan]

(Reads title) YES!!!!
I do my whole family constantly talks down to me. Uses me as the scapegoat for everything. Constantly gaslighting in everything especially in conversation.

Then it's like got fucked up issues that I should only be speaking to professionals about but they look down and talk down to me too. Anytime I try to bring it up I'm met with that "paranoid illogical mentally I'll person" look/vibe.

I'm so fucking sick of it its takes so fucking much to not be so god damn angry sometimes

Talk about scapegoating; the fucking bitch known as my mother?! sucked me dry. May she have as uneasy a sleep in death as my father does (Satan rest his soul))..

 

[Chalken]

It feels like this world wasn't made with people like us in mind. The sociopathic, narcissistic, selfish and greedy ones will always take advantage of others.

 

[Pan]

Yes, so. very true. We stand out, as in ripe for the plucking. How some sleaze bags sleep at night is quite beyond me....

 

[Pan]

Great avatar, by the way...are you a visual artist?

 

[Pan]

Talk about scapegoating; the fucking bitch known as my mother?! sucked me dry. May she have as uneasy a sleep in death as my father does (Satan rest his soul))..

Yes, that kind of gaslighting can have a heavy effect; you think everything you do is wrong, weird or out of kilter. Remember—you are absolutely essential to these vampires; without YOU on receiving end, they are nothing.

 

[Pan]

(Reads title) YES!!!!
I do my whole family constantly talks down to me. Uses me as the scapegoat for everything. Constantly gaslighting in everything especially in conversation.

Then it's like got fucked up issues that I should only be speaking to professionals about but they look down and talk down to me too. Anytime I try to bring it up I'm met with that "paranoid illogical mentally I'll person" look/vibe.

I'm so fucking sick of it its takes so fucking much to not be so god damn angry sometimes

I hear you, brother, and feel your pain—-gaslighting is the worst; it makes you feel like your'e crazy, even when you know your'e not. My heartfelt sympathies with what you are going through. Know that when you deal with this, you are not alone. Pay attention to yourself; weep for yourself, if you must, just know that you are real, and that you are a victim. Don't blame youself regarding your anger; it is hard to face up to realitythat your own parents are responsible for it...thatshatters the myth of parents, the myth of family, the myth of "togetherness". That is a hard act to swallow, believe me, buddy, I know that. Keep n keeping on, knowing that you'rethe Better for it, the stronger for it, the more enlightened for it. If you ever need to tal, I am here for you @508 3047936

 

[vrotka]

Yeah, it feels as if nothing ever goes right and people don't have respect for me or don't consider my feelings just because it's me. Whether it's friends, strangers and parents to a certain degree. Or when I feel like things are finally looking up and improving it all suddenly gets taken away. Like someone telling me they love me and they're always honest about such feelings and them later admitting they lied about all that. Or trying to get a diagnosis for adhd and having the specialist focus and lecture on how me being trans should be a bigger concern (i was diagnosed and treated for that like 2 years ago now) and also cause for my difficulties. Or getting a chance to go to a dream university and depression completely ruining my ability to feel excited and motivated. And so much more.

Like at this point it feels like the whole world wants to tell me I'm worthless.

 

[Mr2005]

Yeah but I chose to be. People need to take their problems out on someone. If it helps them great I've done some good.

 

[Sk1n1M1n]

In real life, I would happily give someone the tools to get better to recover, to change their situation but I wouldn't do the same for myself. If I was in darker place I would make sure I would darker and deeper in deeper but I would help a service user change their situation in positive way.
As you can tell I put other people well b4 myself, a let a friend for years walk on top of me but I haven't had guidance and don't believe in the therapies for myself, I'm too broken

 

[sad_thranduil]

It feels like this world wasn't made with people like us in mind. The sociopathic, narcissistic, selfish and greedy ones will always take advantage of others.

"People like us" show the world what's really wrong with society; and it's a lot. So much things are so wrong in this world; so much hate and greed. I'm sad and tired of all this BS.

 

[Mizzmini45]

You jus gotta set good boundaries. Only give that goodness to those who deserve it