KiraComplex
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- Aug 31, 2019
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I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
Does anyone else feel the same??
Check out my posts...I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
Elaborate on deeper disturbance?From my understanding about attachment and trauma now, feeling so hurt and upset to the point of becoming suicidal over a breakup is actually a sign of deeper disturbance inside.
So while fit some a breakup hurts and they can move on without too much fuss.
For others the earlier attachment stuff has it literally feel like they are dying inside. The pain is excruciating and can't be understood really by those who don't also have a similar sort of abandonment trauma.
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When I was a kid, my parents would get into arguments a lot. And my dad would just walk out for a day , doesn't say where he is going. But he would come back after half a day or a day.From my understanding about attachment and trauma now, feeling so hurt and upset to the point of becoming suicidal over a breakup is actually a sign of deeper disturbance inside.
So while fit some a breakup hurts and they can move on without too much fuss.
For others the earlier attachment stuff has it literally feel like they are dying inside. The pain is excruciating and can't be understood really by those who don't also have a similar sort of abandonment trauma.
Elaborate on deeper disturbance?
Interesting
I was just listening to some debates from this famous atheist guy named Christopher Hitchens and he told a story that his mother committed suicide after his parents divorce. For some reason I was particularly touched by that story and saw him in a different light. from Romeo to Juliet to all of the suicide attempts that I believe is successful I believe a great majority of them are relational related..... I would dare to say even though I don't know the statistics that this may be the number one reason why people want to catch the bus you are so not aloneI feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
Also wanted to add that I do understand the salty feelings than guilt the feeling like it's not enough but I'm sure many people on this board will agree when I say that no one has a reason to judge why someone wants to take control of whether they live or die in gatekeeping is the worst thing you could do in this situation. It's just another way our mine torments us.I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
Is there a cure for that phenomenon?If you look up anxious attachment and love addiction you will start to make sense of it.
It's quite an uncomfortable door to open though.
Generally relationship difficulties stem from not having the opportunity to securely attach to our primary caregivers when young. This can happen from neglect, abuse, enmeshment or any way that a child does not feel wholly wanted, reflected, and attuned to for their needs.
If we didn't receive this as children then when we get in relationships as adults we can often spiral out of control and breakups are especially hard.
There is a lot more to it. But my point is that I don't want to downplay how painful it actually can be to have a breakup for some people. It can be devastating.
i hope it goes okay.I'm very close to, the situation right now with me is that tomorrow is my ex's birthday (which is who my entire profile is based on lol) and I'm planning on getting her something really nice. When she finds out who got her the special gift and if she still hates me like I'm her arch-nemesis then I honestly will probably CTB because I don't see a point of living if I'm just gonna suffer without her. You could say that it's selfish to CTB over your ex but as people mentioned above, there are some who are very attached to their ex and/or had a difficult childhood where breakups can be devastating to them.
I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
I'm not sure there are amazing reasons to suicide, but some are a bit more rational than others. Personally I think killing yourself over your ex is not a good reason. I don't know the details, but it is one of those things that usually get better with time and there are other fish out there even if they are difficult to find.
Its less of wanting that person, and more of what they did to me and how they treated me and fucked up my life.Nobody dies over a particular ex unless they lack vision. And some people do lack vision. But sometimes, people are smart enough to see the odds and that they do not really consent to spending the rest of their lives with cats. It's pretty straightforward.
I think the rule of thumb should be to ask yourself 'Why do I want this person? Is there anybody I can want who can want me?' That's all there is to it.
Its less of wanting that person, and more of what they did to me and how they treated me and fucked up my life.
Thank you for putting this into words; I wish you'd been around to advocate for me with my folks. xoxoFrom my understanding about attachment and trauma now, feeling so hurt and upset to the point of becoming suicidal over a breakup is actually a sign of deeper disturbance inside.
So while fit some a breakup hurts and they can move on without too much fuss.
For others the earlier attachment stuff has it literally feel like they are dying inside. The pain is excruciating and can't be understood really by those who don't also have a similar sort of abandonment trauma.
That is... wow. I just went thru this and it's me, point by point. What a weird feeling, like a devastating epiphany. I just... holy shit, I'm at an actual loss.If you look up anxious attachment and love addiction you will start to make sense of it.
It's quite an uncomfortable door to open though.
Generally relationship difficulties stem from not having the opportunity to securely attach to our primary caregivers when young. This can happen from neglect, abuse, enmeshment or any way that a child does not feel wholly wanted, reflected, and attuned to for their needs.
If we didn't receive this as children then when we get in relationships as adults we can often spiral out of control and breakups are especially hard.
There is a lot more to it. But my point is that I don't want to downplay how painful it actually can be to have a breakup for some people. It can be devastating.
Not worth it. Or maybe you already got depression and this just made it worse?I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
Yes. I tried twice since April. I am going to try again. His leaving me and way he did it was the final straw. Although there are other reasons.I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??
I feel kind of selfish about it. Everyone else has these amazing reasons and im just salty over some dumbass.
Does anyone else feel the same??