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Triangle
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- Jan 29, 2020
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I recognize that I have major depression, but I don't really "accept" other disorders I've been told I have. I don't think it's fair that I'm told that I have social anxiety when I can feel perfectly calm speaking to others so long as I'm in a calm mood. Just because I'm avoidant and nervous in times when I'm already feeling vulnerable doesn't mean I'm inherently anxious in social situations—everybody gets in moods where it's overwhelming to interact with others. I mostly resent being told I'm autistic or variants of the spectrum because of my personality. People are allowed to be bad at cooking, singing, drawing, etc. and they don't suddenly have "culinary disorder" or something like that, but I'm not very good at communicating in certain ways and suddenly I have a disorder? There's "something wrong" with me because I just don't have that one particular skill? That doesn't seem fair at all.
People are so stuck on trying to match personal difficulties with mental disorders and I can't stand the mindset. I feel like I'm being constantly told "there's something wrong with you, you're dysfunctional, you're broken" for simply having individual difficulties. Even when people aren't trying to be disrespectful and aren't trying to imply mental illness is bad, it just feels like my flaws are being made into huge problems.
People rarely seem willing to be supportive of mental illness either. They'll say that they respect mental health, but the kneejerk response to anything related is just "get a therapist, talk to loved ones, eat medicine." What if I'm lacking caring people in my life and been traumatized by detrimental therapists and medication? Nobody is willing to tackle that question, not even therapists it seems. I used to be told by psychologists that I had OCD, PTSD, some obscure autistic disorder, and other things, but they wouldn't offer any treatment for it (I did ask) and just told me I had it. It feels so pointless to be labeled at all when you can't access help for those disorders anyway.
Anyone else tired of the mental illness labels?
People are so stuck on trying to match personal difficulties with mental disorders and I can't stand the mindset. I feel like I'm being constantly told "there's something wrong with you, you're dysfunctional, you're broken" for simply having individual difficulties. Even when people aren't trying to be disrespectful and aren't trying to imply mental illness is bad, it just feels like my flaws are being made into huge problems.
People rarely seem willing to be supportive of mental illness either. They'll say that they respect mental health, but the kneejerk response to anything related is just "get a therapist, talk to loved ones, eat medicine." What if I'm lacking caring people in my life and been traumatized by detrimental therapists and medication? Nobody is willing to tackle that question, not even therapists it seems. I used to be told by psychologists that I had OCD, PTSD, some obscure autistic disorder, and other things, but they wouldn't offer any treatment for it (I did ask) and just told me I had it. It feels so pointless to be labeled at all when you can't access help for those disorders anyway.
Anyone else tired of the mental illness labels?