Many years ago, I discovered ACA meetings. I started to attend some and initially found it soothing because I related to the profile of children of very dysfunctional families.
There was no alcohol in my family, but other traits and circumstances that led to a similar psychological dynamic.
The meetings made me feel less alone with my debilitating emotional pain.
But I am not a "god" or higher power follower.
Some groups, most of them, push god and some push jesus as the ONLY option. They pay lip service to "any higher power" and all of that is a giant turn off.
I don't believe in religion (cults) fairy tales, or any invisible entity to "turn over" all responsibility for my actions, success, failure, etc.
I am the only one responsible for myself.
Hence, as many on this site, I should have choice in all matters pertaining to me. No invisible entity is going to fix me. I will never buy that.
So 12 step groups ultimately offend me.
Again, it's choice. If these beliefs work for someone, good. But not for me.