Not in first person but yes, people have a standard type of abuse.
You are not considered child but instead a young man or woman? Well you just wanted it, stop seek attention you whore/rabbit.
I don't think this happens everywhere, but it happens
Yes, if you don't fit their image, further their storyline, then it was your fault. And talking about it means you're seeking attention.
Yes when I was 10, a man who moved in with my mom. Single motherhood raises the risk of sexual abuse on kids 30 times. So it's possible to reduce sexual molestation just by not promoting and discouraging it. Just don't create the conditions that are likely to put kids at risk. When I finally told my mother at age 16 it was brushed under the rug but acknowledged. All she said was why didn't u tell me lol! That's kind of why they pick young kids who they see as easy targets because the guy could probably see that my mother and I had a weak bond. I was afraid to tell my mom because I figured I would be blamed or he would hurt her.
Well, my mom was a single mom so my experience supports your claim. :( One of the ways I think we could reduce this is by promoting similar pre-parental responsibility as we do with, say, opening a law practice or becoming a licensed teacher. The most important job in the community, being a parent, and you can get the job by accident or through after-thought. No planning. No training. No proof of competence or preparedness. But I don't think culturally we'll get over our preconceptions: person-A makes the claim--yes, that's believable. Person-B makes the claim--nope, never happened.
