Venting Advice

[foreverclear]

Maybe I'm looking for advice, or maybe I just want to vent, but I don't think that any of my friends like me in college and I don't know how I'm supposed to go on another month with them. My roommate and I, I thought, were great friends, and we have another set of friends who are also roommates. Everything has been going fine, I found out I'm transferring for next year and my roommate and one of the girls are getting an apartment for next year. I don't know if it's cause I'm leaving but they seem to have all three leaned to eachother, and I'm totally left out of everything. My roommate is always like "be right back" and she goes and hangs out with them for hours. No one asks me to do or invites me to anything. It's always "they invited me, wanna come?" Or "I'm leaving for this thing in ten minutes, wanna come?" When I haven't even gotten out of bed. Maybe I'm dramatic, or maybe they don't like me. I guess I need another opinion.

 

[Gomomon]

I mean, I don't know your situation too well, but it does seem like they're leaving you out, or you're just a bonus friend. I usually get explicitly told when things are happening with my friends, and I assume if they don't tell me, I'm included anyway by default, but if they don't tell me its a little odd? Maybe they're better preparing for when you do leave, trying to get used to being a friend group without you. I would talk about it with them before you go; it wouldn't hurt to throw out how you've been feeling left out. Your feelings are valid.

 

[atomoxerine]

That sucks man. It's awful to feel that way, and there's only so much you can do about it. I think you should ask up front what's going on, sometimes people don't mean to exclude. In cany case, regardless of what they answer, what you should look for is changes in their attitude. Wether there is any, it would be a good idea to start interacting more with people in general. Maybe a friend of a friend you could hand out with, maybe someone you hit it off before... Just try out. If things really aren't working, it;s jsut a month, you can take one day at a time when you understand it's out of your control. Don't let that stop you from socializing with people- even if you're shy about it, you're moving away very soon, so you got nothing to lose!

I wish you the best, and that you're able to breathe without this weight on your back. Recent issues hit harder than anything else, so remember to think of the big picture

 

[eidoll]

Maybe I'm looking for advice, or maybe I just want to vent, but I don't think that any of my friends like me in college and I don't know how I'm supposed to go on another month with them. My roommate and I, I thought, were great friends, and we have another set of friends who are also roommates. Everything has been going fine, I found out I'm transferring for next year and my roommate and one of the girls are getting an apartment for next year. I don't know if it's cause I'm leaving but they seem to have all three leaned to eachother, and I'm totally left out of everything. My roommate is always like "be right back" and she goes and hangs out with them for hours. No one asks me to do or invites me to anything. It's always "they invited me, wanna come?" Or "I'm leaving for this thing in ten minutes, wanna come?" When I haven't even gotten out of bed. Maybe I'm dramatic, or maybe they don't like me. I guess I need another opinion.

To be honest I don't think they dislike you, but given they're clearly distancing themselves from you I wouldn't say they want to continue being friends (it's possible that it's because you're transferring). I say you could try to make other friends, although I understand that's hard. I'm sorry that they're doing that to you especially since it was going fine just a while ago. You could also just communicate your feelings to them, but that's hard too, you're not dramatic and I hope your friendship endeavours improve <333

 

[foreverclear]

Maybe I'm looking for advice, or maybe I just want to vent, but I don't think that any of my friends like me in college and I don't know how I'm supposed to go on another month with them. My roommate and I, I thought, were great friends, and we have another set of friends who are also roommates. Everything has been going fine, I found out I'm transferring for next year and my roommate and one of the girls are getting an apartment for next year. I don't know if it's cause I'm leaving but they seem to have all three leaned to eachother, and I'm totally left out of everything. My roommate is always like "be right back" and she goes and hangs out with them for hours. No one asks me to do or invites me to anything. It's always "they invited me, wanna come?" Or "I'm leaving for this thing in ten minutes, wanna come?" When I haven't even gotten out of bed. Maybe I'm dramatic, or maybe they don't like me. I guess I need another opinion.

Thanks everyone for responding! It's hard to confront anyone about it, I'm very non confrontational lol. I've come to the conclusion that they probably don't want to be my friend, and I'm working on being fine with that.