Advice on how to deal with resentment

[Pryras]

I'm feeling impulsive so I'm on here again and mentally exhausted. I carry a lot of resentment over someone who caused a lot of pain in my life. Not a significant other but an ex friend of mine. I cannot contact him to talk about my feelings or to discuss the pain I'm in.

How do I get over the resentment from the way someone treated me? I dont want to die because of someone else but I don't know how to overcome it

 

[alexK]

Well it sounds like you actually recognize the root cause of your struggle which is good and a huge step in the right path to recovery. I've been in your situation before and while it's hard to confront yourself with how you feel it seems like you already have for me it took me quite some time before I finally acknowledge the issue. Whatever they've done to you, the act that hurt you may always be with you.. but forgiveness will set you free from the control of the incident or the person. It doesn't mean you have to forget the incident or excuse the person rather it's helpful to view it as something you do for yourself to regain control of your life and set yourself free from the past. It takes time and effort to let go of past hurt and disappointment but it's achievable. I know from experience.

 

[the box is empty]

forgiveness

This is a fantastic place to start.

To add to it, remember the act of forgiveness is for you, not for them. They don't need to know that you've forgiven them. It's to help you find your peace.

Without really knowing the details all I can add is that some people can have a huge impact in our lives both positive and negative, but they weren't meant to be around forever.

If you feel the need to talk or vent more I'm here.