Help Advice needed

[SmollMushroom]

To give some context, I've been living as a hikikomori for many years now and I'm not economically independent. Of course I'm constantly put under a lot of pressure from my family, in particular with one of them.
But recently I started feeling that we are approaching a breaking point, as this relative of mine is becoming more and more oppressive as the days go by.
They have come to the point of wanting to put me in a sort of recovery center, but in reality there is nothing like that where I live so I have no idea whom I will be going to talk to in a few days, since they already booked an appointment for me without my consent of course.
I've always pushed for the therapy route, but not only they decided it wasn't doing me good, they also decided I should not be taking any of the meds I was prescribed with by a doctor. They basically decided that everything I say is invalid and that they know what's best for me.
They also keep trying to start a fight with me, to the point that I can't say anything when I'm in the same room with them without being attacked.
Lately they have become more oppressive, as I said before, by limiting what I can or can't do inside the house even more. I don't feel going into details, but I'm sure everybody who still live with their family know the little things I'm talking about.
I'm worried about what will happen when they realize that this center they looked for won't be able to do anything for me, and I'm also concerned about this oppression they are lately showing in my regards, as I don't know how much I'll be able to take since I do have my own patience and it's not unlimited.

I don't really know how to deal with this person. Nothing worked in the past. They don't listen to what the doctors say, neither to what I say. They are very stubborn in their own ideas and are just looking for a person out there that will validate their opinion.
If I were in a better situation I would have taken distance from them, but in this society no money means no freedom.

I'm open to suggestions by anyone, but in particular from people who are living themselves in a toxic environment like mine.
I know some people in here struggle to live with their families just as much as I do, and I wonder what are the coping mechanisms to deal with a situation of this kind, if there are any.

 

[AllCatsAreGrey]

@SmollMushroom I've been noticing your posts for a while and think of you fondly. I'm sorry you're facing this sort of oppression. Particularly with them not allowing you to take the meds the doctors have given you.

I also want to say I find an affinity with hikikomori life. I was thrust out into the world and sincerely wish I never was. It's a fact that the structure of society forces us to comply or be penalized.

When it comes to practical advice of how to deal with this, I'm unsure as I'm unfamiliar with the experience.

What kind of things would you like help with?

 

[SmollMushroom]

I've been noticing your posts for a while and think of you fondly. I'm sorry you're facing this sort of oppression. Particularly with them not allowing you to take the meds the doctors have given you.

I also want to say I find an affinity with hikikomori life. I was thrust out into the world and sincerely wish I never was. It's a fact that the structure of society forces us to comply or be penalized.

When it comes to practical advice of how to deal with this, I'm unsure as I'm unfamiliar with the experience.

What kind of things would you like help with?

Thank you for the kind words. I'm sorry that you also had to suffer because of how things work out there.

Regarding the advice, I was thinking about something that could help when one is stuck living in a toxic environment, but I do understand that there's really little to do except breaking bounds with some people, or just keep resisting and going on. I wish I had better social skills to deal with this situation, maybe that would help too.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I guess it depends on how much power this person has in your household. Are there other people there you can confide in that have influence over them that can make them back off?

With regards to medication- I think it's fair enough to say it can be dodgy just taking someone off of something without consulting a doctor. I know certain things- you need to wean off of. Maybe you could try and meet them part way. Say you aren't entirely opposed to their ideas. Maybe say you appreciate it that they are trying to help- but you'd rather consult a doctor before changing your medication. That's perfectly fair.

Really- it does come down to the power this person has over you. Are they the one who funds you? In which case- that's more tricky. I guess you have to ask yourself- will they cut off your funding if you don't comply? Or- will they just continue to give you a hard time? It's really up to you though. Either you play along with what they have lined up for you or you don't.

The third option is to try and show them you are willing to take initiative yourself. Not sure what that could be. Maybe approaching your caregivers and say you want to seek out your own therapist or course and- would they be willing to fund it? Sometimes- when we show we can do stuff on our own steam- others will back off- or- be told to back off. Kind of depends on whether you think your family will allow you to be a hikikomori long term.

I found the best thing was to leave a toxic environment but that does probably hinge on either moving away to study or to work.